WEEKENDS ARE THE WORST?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Mar 02, 2008 5:55 am

Hi All Seems like we have simiular problems ,except i don't go to a job. .But the weekends are really horrific. have a hard time doing the the wokbooks.I don't have many panic attacks its just being by myself.
Are ther any widows 79 yrs who feel this way. I was a happy person b/4 hubby died. Should be getting over this as its been over 21/2 yrs.I feel so bad for young people who are suffering with this problem. I spent time in church over the weekend , but it didn;'t seem to relieve the A- feeling. We had Cow-boy camp meetimg this weekendand it was very nice, but at some point you have to go home and then yo're alone. I keep telling myself other people have lost loved one and they survived and so will I with God's help and this program. Please excuse the rambling., but have no energy to do anything else . Would be lovely day to work outside, but no drive.hope you all have a good rest of the weekend. God loves you and so do I Erna

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Mar 02, 2008 5:59 am

We are the kind of people who need to keep busy so our mind is not wondering. Take up a hobby....if you have friends get together, or children plan something fun. But also learn how to have time to just relax, something we rarely do......enjoy not being busy.

Kucek · Post by **Kucek** » Sun Mar 02, 2008 6:59 am

It's amazing how many of us feel the same way! I've been having a hard time lately if i don't have a lot planned. Afraid of 'free time'. I'm a stay at home mom and sometimes i think i'm losing my mind. Luckily i have some close friends who have small kids at home too, although work part time.
Today is one of the first days i have been able to just the morning fall into place and not have something planned...although i'd like to plan something for later!

Gman5256 · Post by **Gman5256** » Sun Mar 02, 2008 7:05 am

Ernajoy- If you had a long and happy marriage I don't know why you would think that "you should be over it by now" It took me longer than 2 1/2 years to feel better after my divorce and even longer after the death of my mother. I never could figure out what getting over it meant. You never really 'get over it' but you do eventually adjust and accept the fact that things are indeed different. It doesn't mean that there will be no more happiness in your life - it may just be a different kind of happiness. I'm glad to hear you go to church activities. Is there any grief counseling that is available thru the church? These groups are really helpful. Where I live the senior centers have groups for widows and divorced people. They don't just sit and talk about how bad they feel but share different thoughts about what they've done to cope and what they're doing to help themselves feel better. I've done to the divorce groups at one time and it really helped me see that I was not alone. If you don't have the energy to actually work outside just go and sit in the sunshine- you just might get an urge to do a little gardening. My thoughts are with you. Mary

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Mar 02, 2008 7:13 am

my thoughts are with both of you..........actually all of you.......

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Mar 02, 2008 9:20 am

I am the exact same except I am a stay at home mom. Weekends, I'm out of my routine. My 8 year old is with me every weekend, and I get depressed Sunday b/c I know he's leaving that day. Wow, it looks like I'm in good company.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Mar 02, 2008 9:26 am

thanks Maryfor the reply . I guess what I mean by "getting over it' is That I wouldn't be so anxios about every thing. I know i do a lot of "what if thinking" and when i get a bill in the mail I over react. so afraid I'll not have the money , which Thank God is not really the case.. I return tithes to my church and I know god will take care of me, but I can't get that into my belief system. I know I need more faith, but it seems that it eludes me. We do not have grief counseling in our church , we have prayer meeting and a Bible study. I wish I didn't feel so sad and "A' I don't even want to say the word. We were married for 56 1/2 yrs. I know I must get on with my life.I do volunteering and have joined the garden club.but everything is such an effort. My best freind just died 3 wks ago. and that has been devastating.She was 16 yrs younger than I . What a shock. Sorry for the rambling. should be working in my work book. thanks Erna

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Mar 02, 2008 10:36 am

that's SO very interesting. I actually LIVE for the weekends because I don't have to hide my depression / anxiety or deal with office politics and I can sleep as much as I want... which is ALOT. Best wishes! H.T.