Anyone starving for compassion?

K.Denise C · Post by **K.Denise C** » Mon Jan 19, 2009 3:43 am

Glowbug...I can relate with exactly how you feel! I spend a lot of alone time, even when my husband is home. He loves t.v. and the garage working on cars so that leaves me to myself. I'm involved in a women's group that I hoped to be able to connect to. So far I haven't found that one person I feel as though I can trust with everything. But part of the reason I decided to try this program was the horrible dark hole I was in. A big part of my problem ins "negative thinking" and I asked myself why anyone would want to be around someone so negative. That got my attention and realized I had to do something to try and pull myself out of this gloom. I was suppose to start Week 4 yesterday but decided to do Week 3 again. I got a little discouraged last week and didn't put forth the effort needed.
Continue reading the post and pamper yourself

Glowbug57 · Post by **Glowbug57** » Mon Jan 19, 2009 4:54 am

Thank you everyone for the compassion that I so need. It helps to know I am not alone in my situation. Alot of times it feels like I am. I can't afford therapy, so it helps to come here, vent and get responses. I don't know what I would do without such an outlet.

Glowbug57 · Post by **Glowbug57** » Mon Jan 19, 2009 5:02 am

[QUOTE]Originally posted by K.Denise C:
I'm involved in a women's group that I hoped to be able to connect to. So far I haven't found that one person I feel as though I can trust with everything.
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K. Denise C., I also belonged to a women's group way back when. I found it competitive and cliquey. It wasn't about making friends to make friends. It was more about feeling important about being in charge and running the board. I hope your group is different and you can find someone who is genuine and wants to be a friend to you. Thanks for understanding.

Britt55 · Post by **Britt55** » Mon Jan 19, 2009 6:25 am

All I can say to this one is....."ME"!!!!!!!!! While I do have a few family members who love me dearly and try to be compassionate towards me, but they often times become frustrated or just simply can't understand, but it's only b/c they have not ever experienced what I am going through, it is hard to fully understand something that has never effected you, but CLEARLY we are struggling and no one would WANT to be this way or feel like this, so yes, I agree, I wish more than anything I had more compassion, mostly from my Boyfriend of 5 years. But that's why I come here to the cahat rooms, the people there have MUCH compassion and have helped me GREATLY. I feel so blessed to have found this place and these people!
Best of luck hon, we are with you & God is with you!
~Britt55

Glowbug57 · Post by **Glowbug57** » Mon Jan 19, 2009 6:37 am

Thank you Britt, I hope you find the compassion you are looking for also. Like I said earlier, I think we who suffer from depression would gain alot of strength from it.

peaceandjoy7 · Post by **peaceandjoy7** » Sun Feb 15, 2009 4:21 pm

Compassion is a very noble quality to have and something that God encourages in every religion. Having compassion is forgiving and letting go of grudges. Helping others and caring about others as we would wanted to be treated. Caring about our neighbors. Maybe some people lack in the compassion department, but remember that God is all seeing and all knowing and is aware of this and some day true justice will be served.

Gman5256 · Post by **Gman5256** » Sun Feb 15, 2009 10:32 pm

Good morning to all,

I was moved by the compassion that I find here. This little corner of cyber-space is a place that seems totally blessed by God's Agape Love.

I can also relate to many of the comments of quite often feeling as though I am not understood, or cared about. In my own case, I know that my wife and life partner, loves me unconditionally. But, I also know that she did not know what hot passionate love, compassion and empathy was about, until she met me.

I am not cold or luke warm about anything. That's me. over the years, I have come to know that her own upbringing was one that was one that was quite a bit on the chilly side. So for her, it is not that she is not compassionate, because I know that she is compassionate, and she cares a lot about many causes, but on a personal level she doesn't quite know how to show or make others feel that she really cares.

Perhaps it is our own heightened sensitivity that sometimes fails to see that others do care, but have a hard time showing it or may have been taught that it is a sign of weakness to wear their emotions on our sleeves.

I pray that God helps us to expand our compassion and understanding so that we do not make others feel that they have some deficiency, but that Your precious Holy Spirit keep working to make all of us what You want us to be; showing others our Agape Love, and never giving up on the power of that love. Lord also pray that if we somehow fail to help others through some spoken or written word of our own, I pray that you help us and extend your mercy and forgiveness for the error of our ways.

I pray that your Holy Spirit continue this work of perfecting all of us. Including those that show less compassion than you strive to make us all be, because they fear the change or do not understand this love that You have for all of us.

Lord I pray that you bless and continue to pour your loving Spirit, Mercy, Loving kindness, Grace, Peace and Security over all of us and those that are touched by the messages you have moved each of us to share with one another.

I suppose most of you here know how much I love CCM (Contemporary Christian Music). I did a search for lyrics at the CCM on line radio station I listen to and came across this song so here are the lyrics to: We can make a difference. <A HREF="http://www.klove.com/lyrics/lyrics.asp?284" TARGET=_blank>http://www.klove.com/lyrics/lyrics.asp?284</A>

Here is the radio station:

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Finally, here is a song that I ran across this morning that is very descriptive of what we are all trying to get to. I am telling you God's Love never ceases to amaze me, the Song is: Whatever You Are Doing:

<A HREF="http://www.klove.com/lyrics/lyrics.asp?2797" TARGET=_blank>http://www.klove.com/lyrics/lyrics.asp?2797</A>

In His Love-Hugs,

Gman5256

Emmas_Mommy · Post by **Emmas_Mommy** » Tue Feb 17, 2009 4:49 pm

I too could use some compassion. I learned that I was alone and no one except my parents cared about what was going on with me, when I was pregnate with my daughter. I live close to my husbands family and an hour away from mine. I had a really rough pregnancy and there were many times when I need to go to the hospital because I would get so sick I couldn't stand and if I would call someone they were busy and would ask how my husband was doing. I am always ignored.
I am also always alone except for my 11 month old. When I told people about my depression I got comments like "are you planning to kill yourself?" Why are people so awful?

Gman5256 · Post by **Gman5256** » Wed Feb 18, 2009 12:28 am

Originally posted by Emmas_Mommy:
I too could use some compassion. I learned that I was alone and no one except my parents cared about what was going on with me, when I was pregnate with my daughter. I live close to my husbands family and an hour away from mine. I had a really rough pregnancy and there were many times when I need to go to the hospital because I would get so sick I couldn't stand and if I would call someone they were busy and would ask how my husband was doing. I am always ignored.
I am also always alone except for my 11 month old. When I told people about my depression I got comments like "are you planning to kill yourself?" Why are people so awful?

Good morning Emma,

I hope this morning is one that you are feeling better about. I know how tough it is and wonder why so many people miss out on the opportunity to do something thoughtful for others that are not having such a great day. Or that they they seem so insensitive that they fail to weigh their remarks or comments.

I can appreciate how you feel about all this. But somehow, we can not allow other people to control our feelings and emotions. You have to say within you, that you control you own feelings and how you will react. We all have to learn that, for what ever the reason, many people are not very thoughtful, and we must take their comments or remarks with a grain of salt, and always remind ourselves that no matter what may happen or be said or be written, God is in control. God Loves me. If no one seems to or cannot show me some love, I must love myself.

I pray that God may shower you with his blessings, mercy, and loving kindness. I pray that the Lord extend His strong arm and wrap you in His Love and protection. I also pray for all those that have made comments or remarks that seem to have been made with little thought to your feelings. I also pray that God fill your heart with forgiveness toward those that have hurt you; to wit He will shower even more love and blessings. I pray that all have shared with you here, helps you to feel much better.

Extra big hugs=

In His Love,

Gman5256

monty'smom · Post by **monty'smom** » Wed Feb 18, 2009 6:49 am

Hello To Everyone!

I want to say that it's so nice to read all the posts that show compassion and love and caring. Far more than most get from loved ones and friends and just what people need to help get them through the hard days and nights. I believe that some just don't understand at all what we go through, all the physical and emotional daily struggles and others just don't care or feel embarrased to care. The world has changed so much and not for the best unfortuately. I see it everytime I go to a mall or grocery store. People lack manners and kindness, not everyone but a big percentage of the ones I see or have had the bad luck of being in their path and been run over by a grocery cart. We can't change the world but we can change ourselves over time and we always have the forums with good, and kind people. My heart goes out to everyone suffering as I too have felt so much lonliness since moving away from home and havn't anyone here that I could call if I needed help with anything. I have completed the program and am doing very well. My depression and anxiety are gone and I'm sleeping through the night and smiling, laughing and very greatfull for what I do have. That is a huge part of healing and is not done overnight but with self talk and just looking at all the beauty that God has given us to enjoy free of charge and nothing compares to lifes God given treasures. Also if you can comfort yourself and love yourself it's not so lonely. We all have an Angel or 2 watching over us and if we pay attention to what we think of as intuition it really is a message from our Angel.
I know each of you will overcome all the sadness and pain and go on to live the lives you were meant to live. Lots of joy, laughter, contentment, love, self love and compassion. You will all blossom just as a flower does.
Be kind and loving to yourselves and to others and before you know it you too will be in control of your life and love what and who you are and not what you think you want to be or have.

God Bless each of you and never give up!!!!

((((( HEALING HUGS TO ALL )))))