The Gaslight Effect

karenLeigh · Post by **karenLeigh** » Thu Sep 25, 2008 4:56 pm

something that I always say when people are talking to me about a health issue is.....You know your body better than anyone else! I truly believe that.
Take-care and God bless

sunbound · Post by **sunbound** » Fri Sep 26, 2008 5:24 am

The best advice I can give here, from what I've read in your posts, Faith, is that "we teach others how to treat us". He didn't ask you to call about the dishwashing liquid and the FACT is, he was fine with what you got.

It seems to me that much of this is in your mind, not his. We allow others to manipulate us. I've done it for YEARS, I'm an expert at it. The bottom line is, I need to take responsibility for MY decisions and not worry with what someone else thinks or if it's "right" for them.

Hope this helps and isn't too harsh.

Faith_TX · Post by **Faith_TX** » Fri Sep 26, 2008 7:07 am

No. . . I agree. It's just hard for me to accept that things are just in my head without labeling myself as "crazy" so the other option logically for me turns to "he's being mean"

Well. . . it doesn't necessarily have to be either. Me taking something the wrong way doesn't make me crazy.

On the other hand, sometimes he really is being manipulative, and so I get all mixed up.

I talked to my cousin (who is my mother's age and JUST like me) and she said she finally just decided to not worry about whose "fault" things were, just treat her DH nicely and it all works out in the wash.

I just feel like an idiot for causing so many problems in our marriage the past month. It all started with one fight and we never really got over it. Hopefully we can. I'm getting there.