What to do????
Regarding this post. I went through this program 8 years ago and I know it works, it worked for me. I was extremely agoraphobic and had panic disorder. I had to practice walking outside over and over again, driving up and down my street...and then everything beyond that.(I wouldn't step outside my house.) I woke up in the middle of the night with the attacks, and every morning. It was terrible....and depressing. I NEVER thought I would get over it. It was SO EXTREME, I didn't think it was possible. It took me a while because of the extreme state I was in, but I did it. I remember there were things I thought I could NEVER do that I actually was EXCITED about doing instead of being scared when I got better. I got to a point where I actually functioned without even thinking about anxiety. Panic attacks were no longer a part of my life. I recently had a set back, some very stressful events in my life I believe brought it on and have had some pretty difficult anxiety and attacks, but it is not as bad because I know I have gotten through it before. I can tell you that you will not feel that down on yourself when you start really making progress. YOU WILL if you stick to the program. It all depends on how badly you want to get better...do the program over and over again. If you are devoting hours a day to negative thinking you are going to have to get really radical and devote hours a day to the program. It will work. Hang in there. I am going through it again and am already starting to feel better and the have only been having the problems again for a couple of weeks. If you address any setbacks right away, I believe you overcome them a lot faster because you don't give yourself a long time to reinforce that negative thinking. TRUST ME, THERE IS HOPE! I WAS TERRIBLE WHEN I FIRST GOT THE PROGRAM AND I HAD A TOTAL RECOVERY.
hayley morlen
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Radarsmom....
Let me suggest a book for your husband (and you)....took me a long time to read it....but it really helps you look at how men handle emotions...and depression....it is called "I Don't Want To Talk About It" Authur is Terrence Peal. $10.20 on Amazon. It is a very, very good book....I don't recommend books very often...but this might be a good place to start....and I think he would benefit from it....just a thought.
JChick
Let me suggest a book for your husband (and you)....took me a long time to read it....but it really helps you look at how men handle emotions...and depression....it is called "I Don't Want To Talk About It" Authur is Terrence Peal. $10.20 on Amazon. It is a very, very good book....I don't recommend books very often...but this might be a good place to start....and I think he would benefit from it....just a thought.
JChick
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chatterbox
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Frances, Bevhembree and Jchick thanks to you all for your help and suggestions.
Frances, your reply struck a particular chord with me. Sounds like you can really relate to where I'm at right now. It is good to know because I feel really alone sometimes. All my friends have children and no one is disabled so it is hard for them to relate. Thank you for guiding me toward the light. For letting me know where you were and that there is hope.
Bevhembree, Your question about if something was wrong with my husband made me think. I can't think of anything that would be bad enough that would make me not want to be with him. I hope that he feels the same way.
I very much appreciate everyone reaching out to me and trying to help me see that there is hope. Thank you thank you thank you.
Frances, your reply struck a particular chord with me. Sounds like you can really relate to where I'm at right now. It is good to know because I feel really alone sometimes. All my friends have children and no one is disabled so it is hard for them to relate. Thank you for guiding me toward the light. For letting me know where you were and that there is hope.
Bevhembree, Your question about if something was wrong with my husband made me think. I can't think of anything that would be bad enough that would make me not want to be with him. I hope that he feels the same way.
I very much appreciate everyone reaching out to me and trying to help me see that there is hope. Thank you thank you thank you.
TO BLESSED TO BE STRESSED OR DEPRESSED :)
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radarsmom, I just read all the posts. Can you tell people really care about you. You know I never thought of myself as disabled. Actually because of the bi-polar I was told to apply for disability. I was refused and didn't want to try again like people said to do. I still didn't think of myself as disabled. My first thought when I saw you wrote that was, "Isn't she able to walk, hmmm...no, she didn't say she couldn't walk." Anyhow I guess we are disabled mentally but we do NOT need to stay this way. You WILL get better!!! We're here to help you. Cry out to God and cry out to us!!
As far as not giving your husband children, would you guys be willing to adopt? I know you would still be a good mom even with the anx/dep but I also know you don't have to live with that disorder the rest of your life. Why not discuss this with your husband if it's your thought?
I often think my husband puts up with a lot with me. He could do better. We've been together 36 yrs. There's many times I keep trying to work on him when like it says above, the best work we can do is to work on ourselves. I've been kinda depressed the past couple days. I'm not sure what's all going on with my body. Some is my thoughts but some is something else. Anyhow, I have to know, it will get better. Keep your chin up girl, better days are coming!
As far as not giving your husband children, would you guys be willing to adopt? I know you would still be a good mom even with the anx/dep but I also know you don't have to live with that disorder the rest of your life. Why not discuss this with your husband if it's your thought?
I often think my husband puts up with a lot with me. He could do better. We've been together 36 yrs. There's many times I keep trying to work on him when like it says above, the best work we can do is to work on ourselves. I've been kinda depressed the past couple days. I'm not sure what's all going on with my body. Some is my thoughts but some is something else. Anyhow, I have to know, it will get better. Keep your chin up girl, better days are coming!
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Hi Barb G
Thank you for saying that you all care about me. I need to hear that so much. I know that my family loves me but sometimes, like when I am feeling like more of a burden than anything else, I need to hear that I matter.
My husband and I went through the classes to adopt a child out of the foster care system in our state but we are not able to do that because when my husband is gone to work I have to stay with my parents or other family members because I am unable to be alone. I guess that they feel it is enough to "babysit" me let alone another person. They made it clear that they do not want to be responsible for me as well as another. And honestly I think these kids have been through so much already that they deserve to be with a Mom who is healthy enough to give them tons of stability. Someone who can be there for them in every way. So that dream is shot. I am no spring chicken either so I am getting too old to go there as well.
Thanks again. I am going to keep my chin up and pray more and keep on living the best I know how.
Oh yeah, I can walk thankfully. My disability is panic and anxiety disorder with severe agoraphobia. I am unable to be alone or hold down a job. I do a little part time cleaning, that is the only paying job I have found that I am able to do.
Shout out to me anytime.
Thank you for saying that you all care about me. I need to hear that so much. I know that my family loves me but sometimes, like when I am feeling like more of a burden than anything else, I need to hear that I matter.
My husband and I went through the classes to adopt a child out of the foster care system in our state but we are not able to do that because when my husband is gone to work I have to stay with my parents or other family members because I am unable to be alone. I guess that they feel it is enough to "babysit" me let alone another person. They made it clear that they do not want to be responsible for me as well as another. And honestly I think these kids have been through so much already that they deserve to be with a Mom who is healthy enough to give them tons of stability. Someone who can be there for them in every way. So that dream is shot. I am no spring chicken either so I am getting too old to go there as well.
Thanks again. I am going to keep my chin up and pray more and keep on living the best I know how.
Oh yeah, I can walk thankfully. My disability is panic and anxiety disorder with severe agoraphobia. I am unable to be alone or hold down a job. I do a little part time cleaning, that is the only paying job I have found that I am able to do.
Shout out to me anytime.
Do you go to church anywhere? What about you and your husband working together in the nursery say once a month? How old are you? I'm 58.
How far are you in the program? Why did you choose the name radarsmom? I thought you were a mom because of that name.
How far are you in the program? Why did you choose the name radarsmom? I thought you were a mom because of that name.
ANGELS CAN FLY BECAUSE THEY TAKE THEMSELVES LIGHTLY
Hi Barb G
Yes I go to church but my husband refuses to go with me. So the nursery idea was a good one but a no go.
I chose the name Radarsmom because of my doggy Radar. Of course I am not his mom but he thinks that I am. So there ya go. haha He is a cutey pie. Since I don't have kids he kind of fills a little of the void.
I will soon be 44 years old.
I went through the program a long time back and I did improve a little but since then I lost the ground that I had gained and right now I am fighting just to maintain where I'm at. I am going to keep trying though. I have been reading the Panic to Power book for the time being and meditating most days.
I hope that answered all your questions.
Yes I go to church but my husband refuses to go with me. So the nursery idea was a good one but a no go.
I chose the name Radarsmom because of my doggy Radar. Of course I am not his mom but he thinks that I am. So there ya go. haha He is a cutey pie. Since I don't have kids he kind of fills a little of the void.
I will soon be 44 years old.
I went through the program a long time back and I did improve a little but since then I lost the ground that I had gained and right now I am fighting just to maintain where I'm at. I am going to keep trying though. I have been reading the Panic to Power book for the time being and meditating most days.
I hope that answered all your questions.
ANGELS CAN FLY BECAUSE THEY TAKE THEMSELVES LIGHTLY
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Hello Radar'smom:
I think you are going to be okay. It will take a little time. Just one day at a time. Baby steps.
What you are going thru' isn't easy. But just hang in there.
Just try to work the program to your abilities.
And just leave the outcome to God as you understand Him. It will work. You'll begin to relax.
You'll lose some of your fears.
I wish you blessings. And I'm going to pray for you.
Just let go.
MaryJane
I think you are going to be okay. It will take a little time. Just one day at a time. Baby steps.
What you are going thru' isn't easy. But just hang in there.
Just try to work the program to your abilities.
And just leave the outcome to God as you understand Him. It will work. You'll begin to relax.
You'll lose some of your fears.
I wish you blessings. And I'm going to pray for you.
Just let go.
MaryJane
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MaryJane
Please do pray for me as often as you think of it. I need all the help I can get.
Thanks for lifting me up with your post. I am trying to baby step and relax. Easier said than done. Today I was struggling being at Walmart and I stated repeating to myself "I rebuke all negative thoughts in the name of GOD" I just said it to myself over and over and that way I couldn't obsess on the scary stuff that was trying to overcome me. I made it, I got my groceries and stood forever trying to get checked out but I made it. So, one step forward.
Please do pray for me as often as you think of it. I need all the help I can get.
Thanks for lifting me up with your post. I am trying to baby step and relax. Easier said than done. Today I was struggling being at Walmart and I stated repeating to myself "I rebuke all negative thoughts in the name of GOD" I just said it to myself over and over and that way I couldn't obsess on the scary stuff that was trying to overcome me. I made it, I got my groceries and stood forever trying to get checked out but I made it. So, one step forward.