Cleaning up -- Any naturally neat ppl out there?

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Granbury
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Post by Granbury » Thu Jun 26, 2008 4:28 am

Chris,

You got me pegged already:) My sister told me that as as long as I am in control of everything I am fine, but the minute I loose control of something I fall apart.

I don't know if I can go 2-3 days without cleaning, but I will take your advice and not go home at lunch today. Baby steps.

I think that I am so afraid that someone will come over and my house will be a mess and they will think I am a slob. I know I shouldn't feel that way, but I don't want anyone to think badly of me. I do that enough on my own.

Lillie

Faith_TX
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Post by Faith_TX » Thu Jun 26, 2008 5:02 am

OH yes. . .WPT (what people think) syndrome. I have that as well. . . but there is a cure hehehe.

I worry too about someone stopping by and seeing my house. It is really a mess though so it's a realistic fear. However, on the other hand, if someone is going to judge me by how my house looks I don't need them coming over anyway.

I told some friends of mine from my last house I lived in. . .that I hoped I could find some friends here in my new town that I could have over even when my house was a mess. That's a real friend. They come to see YOU!! :)
Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak kindly. Leave the rest to God.
~~ Ronald Reagan

Granbury
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Post by Granbury » Thu Jun 26, 2008 5:19 am

The crazy thing is I don't know anyone here. We recently moved to Texas from Oklahoma and I don't even have any friends yet. The only people who come over are my son's friends and who cares what teenage boys think. Right?

Faith_TX
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Post by Faith_TX » Thu Jun 26, 2008 5:32 am

Well true but one time my husband and I almost didn't go on a date because our house wasn't clean enough for the sitter. haha

But then the next time the parents got done with dinner before we did (we were together) and they were going to go in and sit with her until we got back. I'm sure they wondered what was wrong with me when I flipped out about it.

There's a balance here somewhere. We'll find it. :)
Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak kindly. Leave the rest to God.
~~ Ronald Reagan

curlygirl
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Post by curlygirl » Sun Jun 29, 2008 4:30 pm

Hi ladies,
I feel the same way. Before I got together with my husband, my house was so clean. Not anymore. Honestly, now I don't invite people over very often because the house is a mess. My husband tells me that he doesn't invite people over because he doesn't want to clean. I think that is so lame. We would have more people over and more fun if the house was clean. Now I pay my aunt $120 to clean twice a month. It helps me because I have back problems, the next day after she's done I can invite people over. For me, my 11 year old has friends over and I do clean the house, just in case their mom's peek in. I don't want them to think I am messy and clutter. Seriously, we shouldn't worry what others think. But, i do. I feel insecure about it. I tried the 30 minute clean-up each night, but my husband won't do it. He's very lazy, I know that sounds negative but its true. What to do!

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