I dont know where to start.
I am beginning to think my ex wife/gf/dont want to deal with you anymore is making things hard. Very long story I wish I could talk to someone
why don't you tell us at least the short version of your story. Maybe it will feel good to just get it off your chest. Or you could write it in your journal. You say you don't want to deal with this woman anymore, so why deal with her?