My husband and I went out for our anniversary last night, and we were reflecting on our years together. He mentioned when we started out that I was VERY dependent on him due to anxiety, etc. And I would say that I have improved by leaps and bounds and that I don't really take on the label of "anxious" anymore. I have my moments, but I also have tools and faith in God so I feel healed and well. Well anyway to make a long story longer
he said that he is feeling almost disconnected a bit now because I am not the same person (which seems normal as you age) but I also am now much more independent and confident and have a stubborn German heritage so he is feeling that I don't "need" him. Has anyone else noticed these changes in a close relationship they have? I don't want to be a jerk, but I don't want to be an appendage of his either. How do you balance that out? We have 4 sons and have been married 20 years now. I do not want to head down the path of having nothing in common and then turn into room-mates instead of spouses.