Money has me up at night!

icandoit2 · Post by **icandoit2** » Wed Oct 29, 2008 10:16 am

If there's one BIG trigger for my anxiety, it's money. We recently moved into our dream home -- just before the bottom dropped out of the economy. My dh and I both work, but carry some debt we're trying to pay off (I know, most of us do!). I'm also expecting #3 here shortly. The past couple of days I've been feeling anxious and going through all the "what if" thinking about one of us losing our jobs, etc. Last night I literally didn't sleep a wink. Just layed there are worried. I know better! All my old tricks didn't work though - and I just told myself that last night was a bad night, but that doesn't mean tonight will.

Anyone have any tricks for what ifs? I can't control the future (as much as I realllly, really want to).

Thanks for listening...

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Oct 29, 2008 11:36 am

HI, i understand where you are coming from, i wish i had some advice, could use it myself, Keep believing it will be ok, HOpe you get a good nights sleep tonight

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Oct 29, 2008 11:51 am

I know the future is scarry, but live for today. When you say what if, stop and say not today. Start one day at a time, not every day will it work, but it will help when it's just a feeling you think you are having.

Mary51662 · Post by **Mary51662** » Wed Oct 29, 2008 11:54 am

try some lavender essential oil on your pillow under your nose. it really works and it is relaxing and puts us right to sleep especially on worrisom nights. aromatherapy is wonderful alternative to meds

~*schnauzermom*~ · Post by **~*schnauzermom*~** » Wed Oct 29, 2008 12:14 pm

hI aLL,
i've been reading what everyone is writing and I can't help but wonder what's going on???
I've had a bad day today too. I'm on session 4 but I can't really focus on what I reading or watching. I bring the tapes with me in my car. I hear what's being said but when I think about it later in the day I can't remember what they were talking about.
Now that I've written that I remembered "Don't let anyone SHOULD on you and Maybe it's not them...Maybe it's me. Life isn't fair...I'm going to sit still and watch the coaching tape.
We can get through this!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Oct 29, 2008 12:26 pm

Mary,

I had a good day and still to go back and try and work on session3, I'm having a tough time. I can't always write at work when I have one of those thoughts, I want to, because too soon I forget. But then my day ended with no emergencies??? So how to fix what ain't wrong?? Too many thoughts, to little time but we will figure it out, I think together. Posting has helped me most and I found an IM buddy who helps me relax and forget what the day has brought. We are our own worst enemy just like Lucinda says, so Accept, Breathe, and I think sometimes someone other than family is a good source for feeling better.