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sunshineneeder · Post by **sunshineneeder** » Thu Feb 28, 2008 1:18 am

I started the program last night, this morning all hell broke loose in my house. My husband tells me to keep the tapes and info to myself. my daughter says they are a bunch of jumk and she's not cutting back on caffeine or sugar. im ready to leave my husband for not giving me support

Osk31 · Post by **Osk31** » Thu Feb 28, 2008 2:14 am

Don't give up! The program is for YOU! It is designed to help YOU change and your negative and destructive thought patterns. It is NOT designed for you to counsel other people or even to share your learnings with them unless they too are going through the program and want to hear them. Keep the focus on yourself!

Maeggie · Post by **Maeggie** » Thu Feb 28, 2008 2:59 am

I agree with Osk- This is for you. Get that bubble out and do not let anything else through it.. have compassion for you and I know from personal experience unless you are going through it you just cant understand. I have accepted people just dont understand. It is a self-struggle. My spouse will say that he cant imagine having the feelings I do 24/7 when he feels them the odd day..

Keep positive for you and seek comfort in yourself. Know that you are doing it for you, no one else and thats what counts. Be less affected and more effective. Show em' how strong you are and how effective the program is! consider it a challenge!

Good luck! keep it up I promise it'll be worth it

DebDeb · Post by **DebDeb** » Thu Feb 28, 2008 3:38 am

My advice is to get a headset/ear plugs and listen to them privately. You are doing the program &
not them.

pearpickinporky · Post by **pearpickinporky** » Thu Feb 28, 2008 8:39 am

Mine don't know anything about my condition for this exact reason. Better keeping it to yourself, People who don't have this condition don't seem to understand. Don't let them get to you

sunshineneeder · Post by **sunshineneeder** » Fri Feb 29, 2008 10:46 am

Thank you all for the support, I was able to get thru yesterday, I made it. I didn't smoke and I managed to have a positive attitude. Im listening to the tapes now without anyone elses support. Its working and its ok now. I thought I needed their approval but I DONT AND IM GLAD I DIDNT' GIVE UP

radarsmom · Post by **radarsmom** » Fri Feb 29, 2008 3:11 pm

Sounds to me like you family is reacting out of fear of change. They are afraid you will try to change them and/or yourself and they don't like it. Most people do not like change, they resist it even if it is for the best.

DO not let them sway you no matter what. You are worth it.

JayBee7 · Post by **JayBee7** » Sat Mar 01, 2008 9:55 am

As others have said, you are doing it for yourself. Our families sometimes aren't used to us doing anything for ourselves. We are people pleasers and do things for others especially our family. It is a matter of saying you are doing this for yourself, you will not bother them with it if they aren't interested, but this is a very important thing YOU MUST do for yourself.

If you have questions, or statements you wish to make, talk to us on the Forums. We will understand you far better than others, and can offer you our advise. If you wish you can contact "the experts" if it is really important.

The support here is amazing, so you don't need them. They will see you changing over the next few weeks, and may then ask you about the program. At that time YOU can decide whether you wish to share it or not.

Stay strong.