Flying...please help me help myself.

jolmh · Post by **jolmh** » Wed May 21, 2008 7:15 am

Old toppic I know, However I am flying to San Diego in 2 days.

I have gone in and out of being okay, but now seem to have convinced myself that the plane is going to take off just fine, I will relax and say "okay Joelle- you are fine". Then nope. Not fine and it goes crashing down with a full tank of fuel right after take off. And there it is- done. All the panic and the screaming and the final thoughts going through my head that I am never going to see my kids again. And they are going to be without their mommy & daddy.

Terrible anxious thoughts that I have let into my head and I need to chill. This is supposed to be a fun trip. My husband and I have never gone away together. Not in 10 years. I have drained all my excitement. Instead of thinking I will be on the beach in 2 days I keep thinking of a the things I need to do before I die on Friday.

I tell myself i am NOT going to die on Friday. But today I have hit that place of anxiety where all i do is cry. Maybe I need to get it out of my system. I tell myself that good things happen to me because I have a good life. I know the tools, i have done the program. But right now I am stuck. I need to get unstuck by friday at 5 am. Kind of mad at myself for slipping back to this place.

Anyhow....Im sure I am not the only one who feels this way. I am not scared of a panic attack on the plane. I am scared of panicing while its going down! i am even scared that because i have thought about it going down that I have attracted that energy to me and now I have seled my fate. Seriuosly driving myself insane and my husband. His biggest worry was spending money on a rental car.

I would love to be in his head.

Thanks for listening...
Joelle

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed May 21, 2008 7:28 am

Little comfort I know but what is the worst that could happen? I suggest you get some exercise to get that anxious energy out of your system, If Its really worrying you go and see your doctor and ask him to prescribe a sedative, just knowing you have that on the flight will calm you down alot, you don't need to take it, but you will be fine

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed May 21, 2008 7:53 am

Hi Joelle,
I can so relate to your scary thought!

An article which has helped me (How to Eliminate Intrusive Thoughts) can be found at:
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Or, if you just type the title in your internet search it should come up.

You have lots of company who share your fears! You can do it! Concentrate on the good time you will be having with your husband---keep that as the center of your focus.
Two thumbs up!

JackieBlue · Post by **JackieBlue** » Wed May 21, 2008 2:44 pm

About ten years ago my ex husband planned a family trip to SanDiego. Why he explained the two kinds of planes we'd be on and what would happen if they crashed, I'll never understand. To be honest, a couple of drinks is the only way I made it out there. Once we were there, we sat at the airport and watchd plane after plane land and take off. After about an hour, I realized that hundreds of planes make trips every day.Crashes are so rare.Pilots are trained to fly and do a great job, plus they are trained in an emergency. It's relly, really a safe way to travel.
You can do this! Take a book or some head phones and your cd's. Enjoy how beautiful the sky is. It's a rare opportunity to see something so incredible. Have a great time- you deserve it!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed May 21, 2008 2:45 pm

What an awesome article you posted! THANK YOU SO MUCH!