Re: I know you control your anxiety...but,

stevecat · Post by **stevecat** » Wed Jan 16, 2008 11:28 am

Hey everyone! I know it says in the first 2 sessions that I have started so far, that you are the one who is creating your anxiety, but a lot of my anxiety seems to come from a certain "friend."
I started dating a guy this past summer and decided I just wanted to be friends. We continued to hang out and he has always been very sweet to me. I'm not sure how I feel about this guy. He spent quite a bit of money on me for my birthday and every time he calls and wants to hang out my blood pressure goes through the roof.
I don't have a lot of friends that are available right now so I always feel like I should want to hang out with him. I have fun when I'm with him, but when he calls I feel crazy and I rant and rave about him to my mother all the time. I am starting to resent him b/c I feel like it is partially his fault I am anxious. Please tell me what you think. Thanks,

Katie, WI

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Jan 16, 2008 12:57 pm

Hi I've been doing this program for about 30 days. however I've not followed it verbatim. ive kinf of jumperd arounf. the first time i listened to the introduction.after Ifinished listening to the audio I could not believe how my anxiety just seemed like the fog lifted from around me. i had this wonderful feeling for 21/2 days . I just went around Praising God . when wammo it came back with a vengeance. I didn't know whether to continue it or not .I talked with one of the counsellors at the center and they calmed me down and I continued it again. i am happy to say Im doing so much better, The reason I know i'm doing better is that I can write again When I was in the throes of the bad part I could barely sign my name. It affected my hand writing so badly I couldn.t address letters. A freind of mine came over today to listen to the relaxation tape. she wants to make this a rather regular thing . i like the idea

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 3:20 am

This is exactly what happened to me when I first started the program. It's just that it brings so much to your mind,that it is anxiety producing. I was like that of and on for most of the program, but then it started to go away. It gets easier though, and you'll understand it more and its less frightening as you progress. I know its hard, but hang in there. You'll feel better soon.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 5:17 am

Hey everyone!
Thank you for your replies. It helps just knowing there are other people out there and that they understand and are going through the same thing. Thanks so much,
Katie

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Jan 17, 2008 5:23 am

Hi Katie! The more you go through the program the more you'll start to realize the only one to blame is yourself. Certain things can trigger emotions, but ultimately it is up to you to decide how this is going to make you feel. You can choose to be anxious about this guy or choose not to...gets easier with time. What is it about him that puts the anxiety out there? Does he treat you badly? Is he a non-anxiety sufferer? When I was at my worst I blamed a lot of my anxiety on my fiance. Truth was, I was just extremely jealous that he could get out and do things and I couldn't...or wouldn't. Journal about it, maybe something will come to you and you can come to terms with it.

Erna~ You really need to do the program as instructed to get the full benefits out of it. Jumping around won't help you any, as you have discovered. Best of luck to you!