Depression affecting relationships

ItsOkayThisIsGood · Post by **ItsOkayThisIsGood** » Tue Mar 16, 2010 5:29 am

I am now not speaking to my family, and have gotten into two major arguments with my boyfriend in the past week.

I can feel that I have a chemical imbalance causing the depression, which is why I started taking my supplements again. But being female, that time of the month has made the depression a complete nightmare this week. It will take quite some time to come out of this crazy abyss.

Just wanted to post here so I don't feel alone in this. I have been battling anxiety and depression for decades. I'm on my 3rd or 4th try doing this program, on Session 2. It will be an accomplishment if I can just do a Relaxation session each day. Thanks for being here.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Mar 16, 2010 6:03 am

Dear IT's okay This is Good,
I can relate to what sounds like alot of hormonal changes which also impact anxiety and /or depression. I find that as I've gotten older, PMS seems more intense and the coming of each cycle also brings some anxiety about anxiety and depression. I have tried medication and If you find something that works for you, keep up with your MD and therapy visits and continue what works. For me, at this time, I am trying to address my eating and sleeping habits. I have not been as diligent as I need to be regarding exercise and I know this is also an important component.
My advice about the relationships that are strained or challenged as a result of depression,is to take it one day at a time. There will opportunities to heal, to make ammends, and to make things right in due time. Most important is to be in this moment with yourself. Try not to be too hard on yourself. Hang in there. The Best is Yet to come..

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Mar 20, 2010 9:30 pm

Wow, do I know where ur both coming from. I have just ended my cycle and I'm still a mess. I feel the depression alittle harder than usual. I have my antidepressant. I haven't missed any of it. I am also having the anxiety symptoms much harder. The depression is the scariest though. When I have severe anxiety I can get thru it. I mean, breathing techniques, calming myself down, positive self talk, etc. But depression, how do u make that go away? It's not like a symptom that comes and passes quickly. It's more of a literal dark cloud that just lingers for days, and sometimes weeks at a time. Which in turn, causes more anxiety. I'm not leaving my house very much, and moreso, I'm not leaving my bed or my couch either. It started with just a day. I didn't feel good, so I allowed myself to have a personal day of not getting out of bed, it's accidentally turned into 3-4 days now. I'm sorry to be ranting, I just have no one to talk to about this madness. My husband doesn't understand. It only scares him. Plus, the mood swings have made us argue alot. We're sleeping in separate rooms right now. Sorry. Good night.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Mar 21, 2010 10:51 am

You are not alone. Both my marriages had difficulties because of my anxiety and depression. I ended up leaving because I couldn't handle thier problems with it on top of my own. (Not a recommended method as it is much harder going it alone). No one can understand this unless they deal with it themselves. It is extremely hard to stay motivated and continue. But I do beleive that it is possible. Now....we just have to get beyond session 2, stop beating ourselves up if we don't eat right or excercise today. Tommorrow is always freash, with no mistakes in it yet.... (thankyou Anne of Green Gables for that advice. LOL)

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Mar 27, 2010 9:47 am

I can totally understand what you are saying...I just got my period and I am a complete mess...My boyfriend is totally supportive but he doesn't understand..his way of helping me is asking me what he can get for me ...(how about making this feeling go away) It is so frustrating..I suffer from both anxiety and depression..I have been going thru this since I was in middle school..It comes and goes but it has been really strong lately since we just bought a house and I am on my own...I know what I have because I get that "stuck" feeling...but everytime I get it, it still scares the crap out of me..My mom is my "safe" person but I feel so guilty depending on her all the time..I am 27 and I feel I should be grown up and able to deal with this but it is still so scary...I just keep asking myself why me??? I am a giving and lovable person who would never do anything bad to anybody but I still can't understand why I have this!!! I want to lay on the couch but when I do that I feel I should be helping my boyfriend..I have been taking Zoloft almost my whole life and it was working for awhile but recently it hasn't been able to take over this...

I cried for an hour yesterday and I want to cry all the time because it is so frustrating

I know I"m not alone but does anybody have any advice so I can get over this hump and start to enjoy my new life and house

...thank you

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Mar 27, 2010 11:09 am

I definitely feel sometimes as if my family and friends think I am a stranger. They do support as a matter of fact.I feel that makes it worthwhile. :p