When I was in high school, I had a classmate who seemed to not really care about what anyone thought of her. She also seemed to float through life: She worked very, very hard and was a terrific student and athlete, but she didn't seem to worry about anything. She didn't seem to expect anything of anyone. I decided that I wanted to be like that, so I learned to have, really, no expectations of anyone or anything (except myself!). This way, I never get hurt, am never disappointed, and anything that turns out great is a massive bonus. I'm not sure it's best to have NO expectations, but it's working for me at the moment.
I expect a ton of myself, though, of course. Don't we all? I SHOULD to be married and a mother by now (I'm 27). I SHOULD be working full-time in my chosen career field. I SHOULD have my own house, or at least working towards that. I SHOULD to be a well-adjusted adult. As it is, I am neither married nor a mother, I'm still looking for a full-time job in my field, don't own a thing except college debt, and feel very mal-adjusted.
I wrote all these things down and realized, after listening to Lucinda's Session 4 that many of my expectations are not mine. I'm "shoulding" all over myself! I don't care to be married right now, I'm not financially prepared to own my own house, and I'm looking for a full-time job because I only graduated from college in December (second degree; gotta pat myself on the back for having now earned two degrees!) and the job market right now for elementary educators is very difficult to get into. I do desperately want to have children someday, and I know that I have options if I don't ever marry. I am also working full-time and am looking for something full-time for the next school year: I am financially responsible.
As far as being so-called mal-adjusted: I am working towards getting better. I am trying to do the best for myself. I have goals (to be a teacher and to have children someday) and I can reach them. I trust in God to lead me down the right path. I'm okay, and so are you all!
No expectations?
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[QUOTE]Originally posted by ajh0215:
I expect a ton of myself, though, of course. Don't we all? I SHOULD to be married and a mother by now (I'm 27). I SHOULD be working full-time in my chosen career field. I SHOULD have my own house, or at least working towards that. I SHOULD to be a well-adjusted adult. As it is, I am neither married nor a mother, I'm still looking for a full-time job in my field, don't own a thing except college debt, and feel very mal-adjusted.
I wrote all these things down and realized, after listening to Lucinda's Session 4 that many of my expectations are not mine. I'm "shoulding" all over myself!
AJH,
I read your post and thought the following:
Oh SHOULD! Don't give me all that SHOULD! I'm already so full of SHOULD that it's a wonder my eyes don't pop out. This SHOULDDY world is all turning into a big pile of SHOULD. Especially in political election years when everybody talks SHOULD about their opponants.
Your comment about SHOULDDING all over yourself was so funny that I laughed so hard I almost got some SHOULD in my shorts! Thanks for a funny (but really excellent) post. Any time you want to share your SHOULD on this subject, please SHOULD away because you have a whole lot of good SHOULD to share.
I expect a ton of myself, though, of course. Don't we all? I SHOULD to be married and a mother by now (I'm 27). I SHOULD be working full-time in my chosen career field. I SHOULD have my own house, or at least working towards that. I SHOULD to be a well-adjusted adult. As it is, I am neither married nor a mother, I'm still looking for a full-time job in my field, don't own a thing except college debt, and feel very mal-adjusted.
I wrote all these things down and realized, after listening to Lucinda's Session 4 that many of my expectations are not mine. I'm "shoulding" all over myself!
AJH,
I read your post and thought the following:
Oh SHOULD! Don't give me all that SHOULD! I'm already so full of SHOULD that it's a wonder my eyes don't pop out. This SHOULDDY world is all turning into a big pile of SHOULD. Especially in political election years when everybody talks SHOULD about their opponants.
Your comment about SHOULDDING all over yourself was so funny that I laughed so hard I almost got some SHOULD in my shorts! Thanks for a funny (but really excellent) post. Any time you want to share your SHOULD on this subject, please SHOULD away because you have a whole lot of good SHOULD to share.
:p