Making friends

[aliengal24]

Hey everyone,

This may sound weird to some of you but, maybe some of you can relate.

I'm 24 years old and I'm going back to school in the fall. When I was in school before I was really quiet and never really had many friends, I didn't know how to make any. I always had my select group of friends I hung out with and that's it.

I was wondering if anybody had any advice on how to make friends? I feel weird asking. I'm just kind of shy and awkward around people.

Thanks

[Guest]

Hi Carla!

Your question does not sound weird at all! I have the same problem. It's difficult for me to just strike up a conversation with someone new. One way to spark conversations with people around you is to do something interesting while you're waiting for class to start--for example, bring along a knitting project, or draw a picture, or find a fun book. Often, people will ask what you are making or what you are reading. Even if no one asks at first, at least you're doing something you enjoy!

It can also be a good idea to join clubs or other organizations, but I always found that to be rather intimidating. Getting involved at a church can be a good way to meet people, or doing volunteer work (check with the local library to see if they have a reading buddies program or something).

Good luck to you! It can be really tough to try to make new friends, especially as an adult. Believe in yourself and remind yourself that you are an awesome person and would make a great friend to anybody!!

[Guest]

thanks for responding omaha =)

I never thought to bring in something cool to class before it starts. I bet that'll work!

[NinjaFrodo]

I find that it's easy to make friends in class without really trying. Making a casual remark to the person next to you about anything (a question you have, commentary on what you're learning) can lead to a conversation which can lead to a friendship.