MANO, So GOOD to hear from you! Yippee! That is great news about you getting extra hours/money, but glad you took care of yourself when the anxiety came back..ugh. I'm also glad that you secluded yourself and didn't answer the door nor the phone! Good Job!
So happy to hear about your Mother!
Looking forward to spring.
We are having the oddest weather, but I'm loving it! It is making winter go by so much faster. Thanks for the advice on the woman. I went to a meeting where a Psychologist was talking about anxiety and depression to a bunch of women. I talked to him later about my "problem woman" and he was surprised that she wasn't even paying utilities. And that DH and I need to set a date for her to move out. That's the problem, DH did give her a lot more time and we aren't agreeing on the same thing. Basically, people that have perceptions, they keep telling their "story" and because they don't change it by positive thinking or actions, the story stays the same and it isn't reality. No matter what you tell them to cheer them up, they continue with their belief system. Which we have learned that here how our thoughts affect how we feel and do things to change.
So when a person is thinking negatively with their "story" in their mind, then others, have to tell them the "truth", so that they get a new "story" and hopefully change even when it is uncomfortable. Also, he said that we have to communicate in a way where this person feels safe, or they will take it the wrong way. So that could be done if needs be by a letter or going to a safe place such as a restaurant or elsewhere. This was suggested in helping with teenagers or other people that we deal with in life that are having a hard time changing their behavior or thoughts. Which we are doing for ourselves due to us coming here to visit with eachother, meeting THH and others to help us see the "truth" in our thinking and work on changing how we feel. Other people that don't take it upon themselves to do so have to be given the truth.
So it was a good lecture...and I'll keep working on "kindly" stating the "truth" or the real story...and will not allow her to feed me her "story". Because for my sanity, I want my space back...my family wants our property to be used for our family. She isn't destitute nor a cripple nor alone in the world. So just for me to state that fact...and protect myself is a big change. Getting along with DH on the matter is a different story as he is flattered by this woman and loves to help those that tell him Thank You all the time, but doesn't feel the frustration that my children and I do. Probably b/c he doesn't realize how inconvenienced the family has been. I'm just realizing it more so...and I'm more sensitive to this type of behavior.
This is what Lucinda teaches us on the CDs. So I'm going to work on me and "letting go" of trying to fix this woman, as she doesn't want to be fixed. I believe b/c she would have to leave her comfort zone and we all know how that is.
Okay, now for the good news, THH and Mano. I have a brand new baby grandson! So this has been fun and has kept me busy. So if you don't see me on here much, that is one reason.
Okay, THH--I hope you get feeling better soon! I'm glad you've been working on your breathing techniques and was able to calm yourself down and think positive thoughts. Hooray!
I'm glad you were able to hide in your "hole". I'm always happier when I can hide in my hole for a bit until I've calmed down. Good Job!
Well, I better get in my "hole" or bed. I did a midnight, sort of, run to the store and didn't get to bed until later. And then got up later and walked my new dog. This was a long walk in a different neighborhood so that he doesn't feel the need to leave my house, which he doesn't. But I'm paranoid! Ha,ha!
So that was a good experience and now my legs are bit sore, but a good sore. Okay, have a great day everyone!
Paislee
