Stress Center Peer Support

Anger;
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I ask for what I need and voice my feelings if I am hurt by another person

Whatever I or anybody else sends out, comes back. It always does.

I don't waste time with revenge as the satisfaction is short lived and not worth it. It takes too much effort and obsession and puts everybody in a bad mood.

Life and the universe will pay others back for what they have done, I don't worry about it. When the revenge is over something very serious then I do something about it

In situations I am in control, I give options when people complain or demand. I do not let the other person control me or the situation

I am not afraid of others getting angry at me. I can handle being yelled at, I know that it won't reflect me and does not make me any less of a person. I can assert myself with this person later and if not then i let it go

I am only taken advantage of if I get upset over someone yelling at me

Perfection does not live within myself or anybody else. People make mistakes, think irrationally and have unrealistic expectations. I do not fault them for this. They also learn, grow and become better as well

When someone is upset with me I do not take it personally. I get curious about what is behind their words. I ask questions and try to understand the other person.

When I am judged, instead of accepting the words as fact, I ask "what is it that makes me that way?" I then use logic to discard irrational and unrrealist comments

Labels do not exist. I am not static and can always change and grow. I am not my behavior. I agree partially with the labels but it doesn't hurt my self-esteem

I assert myself if I have a problem with someone. Not talking through problems robs the other person of lessons and opportunities to grow.

Not expressing anger makes me bitter and it feels aweful. I know when I don't express my anger the other person takes advantage and I become a target for blame

I express my anger in a healthy way. I get more respect and self-esteem and the chance to become closer with the other person. When I cannot express my anger I just let it go and let karma deal with the person

When others are mean to me I remind myself that people aren't deliberately trying to hurt me. They are feeling hurt themselves and they don't know how to express that. I teach people how by being assertive and instead of putting myself in a bad mood as well, I wish them spiritual growth and well-being.

When I get angry I see the anger as it really is, a message that I need to change the situation, my communication or my perception. I don't like staying angry so I deal with the message as soon as I can and I get over it. Rarely is anger worth putting my body through the extra stress.

One person's opinion is not everybody's opinion. If another person does something bad it does not make them a bad person but rather it makes them wrong. Everybody is good deep down.

I am very good at being assertive, saying what I mean and meaning what i say.

I don't have all the answers and I don't always know what to say all the time. It isn't necessary to know right away and in some cases it isn't necessary to say anything.

People give and do the best they can with the resources they have. People respond negatively because of their own insecurities and pain

People who deliberately hurt others have a problem. That problem effects them more than the ones they hurt.

I am invited to many events. Many people enjoy my company and respect me. I have many friends and I can easily make more. I do not need to be invited to everything.

Anger does not feel good. I don't stay feeling angry for long. I choose to spend most of my time feeling good. Feeling joyful and happy.



Mike

YES an affirmation script book! Lots of people read them.

I am interested in many things. I appreciate all the blessing I have and the things that I learn and all the things i will learn today and tomorrow and forever - just as long as I am

I choose to be around healthy people who compliment my life and encourage me

Both of these I really like for me.

I trust myself and I have trust in my abilities and my memory.

I am not defined by my ailments, weaknesses or short comings. I am a great person with or without them

Both of these are ones I need to tape on my hand! The last one esp.
Funny how your inner being knows this is true, but I wonder why its so hard to feel it automaticly.

They are all good Mike, I am amazed at how well you can organize your thoughts so well.

When others are mean to me I remind myself that people aren't deliberately trying to hurt me. They are feeling hurt themselves and they don't know how to express that. I teach people how by being assertive and instead of putting myself in a bad mood as well, I wish them spiritual growth and well-being

This one really sticks out to me. I think this happens more than not, esp. when we feel that others are being mean spirited. I like your solution with teaching people, by being assertive and moving on. Thats what we all need to do, exp. people with anxiety.
One thing I have been learning is I am prone to have anxiety, my body chemisty is like that. Whats great is, to reconize it and do something with it.
Have a good weekend!!! Phones ringing too much this am.!!!

I think an affirmation book would be cool but how to start that process? I would also have to come up with affirmations for the scripts that i got from that book because not all these affirmations are mine. Most of them are but not all.

That first one is from the book
The second one was created out of inspiration from what searunner had put about healthy and unhealthy people

the third one and fourth one were created out of inspiration by one of your posts THH

and that last one came from information from the workbook, Xena warrior princess and my ki shin do class (buddhist type class).

I especially like the last one because what it does for you is it takes the focus away from yourself when someone is being mean to you and puts it on the other person and it also helps to see the situation as an opportunity to spread your knowledge and make the world a better place . In essence Anxiety and depression is not really an ailment but more like a course in school. We get hands on experience, information, practice and tests.

Our hands on experience is our anxiety attacks, the negative and obsessive thoughts and our interaction with other people (anxiety sufferers and non-anxiety sufferers).

Our information are the insights we get, the knowledge we obtain, the programs we use and the advice we get

Practice well thats practice opportunities that are usually smaller things where as tests are big life changing events like getting a new job, moving and such.

The best part is we get the motivation to go through this course through our painful experiences and pleasurable ones.

I'll be putting up the anxiety script shortly...I may do a small script for handling stress soon too but i have realized i have a total of 15 scripts now and i'm starting to get a little overwhelmed.


Mike

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I have realized a few of the affirmations i have created are actually counter productive and i ask that you delete them from your lists.

I work hard, I play hard and I relax hard

I actually thought about it and it makes relaxing just sound like it uses up alot of energy and is really difficult

I do not take responsibility for the happiness of others. I do not control actions of others so I do not blame myself if things go wrong for them

Take off the I do not blame myself if things go wrong for them...This can seem very arrogant and frankly I realized that when i was late for an appointment, the doctor scolded me and i didn't even feel remorse so that is not a very useful affirmation unless you want to be arrogant.

And i think that is it...I will take them off and I have others i have added to lists as well.


Worry;

When I learn new things it is not a matter of if what I do will work but rather how long it will take for me to get really good at it

Sleep;

I get a very good quality of sleep every night, I wake up feeling refreshed and excited about the day ahead of me

Organization;

I give myself enough time for things that need to get done and enough time for things I'd like to do



Mike

Here is the expectation script;

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I have no expectations over the time it takes to create a new habit or learn a new skill. It will happen on its own time. I can handle the process and I know it will eventually happen

As long as i put effort towards a habit it will change. How much time it takes isn't important. There are many habits I've changed without even thinking about it

I do not do things in order to seek attention and approval. I get the attention no matter what

I do things because I want to do them. I do not need to impress people in order to feel good or worthy. I am already worthy.

Any behavior gets attention. Therefore I do not need to behave in a certain way in order to get that attention

I get the same love and acceptance if I do well at something or not. I get love and acceptance automatically, I do not need to earn it

I know that i get more attention when I'm myself and less when I try to be someone else or when I try to impress others

The only person I need to impress is myself and I can do that simply by learning and growing and doing the best i can

I give myself positive feed back when i accomplish any goal. I tell myself "Yes I did it" and "I did a great job"

I like compliments for how i performed at any activity but I do not need them from others, i can get them from myself

I am very comfortable complimenting others. I give and receive compliments frequently.

I get love, approval, respect and compliments by being average. I do not need to be the best

I don't compare myself with anybody else but myself. I look at others as inspirations as to what i can become.

Instead of focusing on impressing others i focus on doing any activity the best I can. I don't worry about impressing others, that happens automatically

I don't act the way I think people expect me to act, I act the way I feel like acting and people love and approve me more for it

I do the best I can but not everybody will understand me. I understand me and I get validation from myself. I don't need validation from everybody

I do not expect people to always be positive, many people will be very negative and that is alright, I can handle negativity in a healthy manner and take care of myself at the same time

I expect to have some people who are negative towards me, who reject me, insult me, try to manipulate me and disrespect me along with people who are positive to me. I see the negativity as a fun opporunity to practice my skills and reaffirm my own healthy beliefs

I do not expect respect, understanding and consideration from everybody but i appreciate it from the people i get it from

Difficult people are great opportunities to keep my skills from becoming rusty. I say bring it on!

I do not require complete acceptance from everybody. I cannot please everybody and my life is fulfilled enough without those people who don't accept me

I do not expect people to treat me in any specific way. I treat people the way i want to be treated and hopefully it's reciprocated

I give out to others what i want. If i want love then i give it to others, If i want respect i give that out too and if i want people to be interested in my life, I get interested in theirs

I do not act on assumption, I do not expect people to think in a certain way either. I ask for clarification and then handle the problem if there is one

When treating people with shiatsu, I expect the person's body to respond the way it responds to the treatment. I do not control the outcome of the treatment, I merely guide the person to a healthy state.

I do not fix people with shiatsu, I treat people and give the body circulation and the energy flow it needs and the intention in order to attract the healing required

As long as I do what i'm trained with intention then I am satisfied with the treatment

I do not expect perfection of others. I respect the strengths and weaknesses of others, I do not judge them for their weaknesses

I don't expect others to live life the same way I have. I don't expect others to work on bettering themselves and I don't try to fix them. I accept them for who they are and if they change, it'll happen on its own

I do not expect others to accept my suggestions. I am satisfied enough for giving them options and only if they ask for it or are open to it

I don't expect people to behave like me or anybody else. I welcome people to be themselves

I do not fix people, I guide them and show them what life can be like if they take diffrent approaches and actions

I don't expect people not to complain. People complain all the time.

I obey my own moral code and do not worry about living up to the expectations of others

I respect the needs of others and am considerate but I do not limit myself with the beliefs of others

I don't expect myself to be or act in a certain way. If i want to change then I make it a goal, I work on it and i accept myself throughout the entire process


Mike

Relaxation;

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I have lots of time in my day and I manage my time well. It doesn't take long to have a satisfying relaxation session.

Any effort I put into relaxation helps and I improve my ability to relax each time I do it.

I visualize well, I can see things very clearly in my mind as if It was right in front of me

My relaxation is the best thing I do for myself. Its the only coping skill I need and it is very effective in reducing stress

I am very good at relaxing my body and its very easy for me

I enjoy relaxation. I enjoy how it makes me feel, I enjoy how focused and happy and content it makes me. I enjoy clearing my mind and letting things go. Relaxation is very good for me

Relaxation is the best thing I do when I am stressed and exhausted. Its what my body wants and I feel refreshed after I relax.

I am very good at clearing my mind and I let thoughts drift in and out when I'm relaxing.

Relaxation is the most important thing I can do for myself. It has more benefits than anything else.

I am not in need of distraction. Relaxation is the only coping mechanism I need for stress. I do the things I want to do and relaxation is what I want to do.

I enjoy relaxing every chance I get.

Anxiety is the sign that I'm overwhelming myself and relaxation is the solution.

Relaxation is the most productive thing I can do for myself. Relaxation increases my ability to act and I become more capable and more successful in everything I do.

I focus well, I have piece of mind and a calm body. I think clearly.

Relaxation is something I like, its easy to do things that I like.

I enjoy using guided meditations in order to relax. I enjoy the imagry, I enjoy my imagination.

As I follow guided meditations nothing else matters during that time. That is my time to relax.

An anxious mind cannot exist in a calm body.


Mike

I made the changes. Mike no wonder your tired!!! LOL... These are really great though!

I have no expectations over the time it takes to create a new habit or learn a new skill. It will happen on its own time. I can handle the process and I know it will eventually happen

As long as i put effort towards a habit it will change. How much time it takes isn't important. There are many habits I've changed without even thinking about it

(((((((((((SO True))))))))))))) Good ones for mottos!

I do not do things in order to seek attention and approval. I get the attention no matter what

I like the first part / drop the I get att. no matter what. ( just my thought )

An anxious mind cannot exist in a calm body.

LIKE!!!!

I like them all. Good job!!!

What do you mean no wonder i'm tired?

Thank you i put alot into them

the 2nd affirmation was created out of inspiration to your cup story.

Well the reason why i put that last part about getting the attention no matter what is to address the fear of being ignored and being lonely. Attention is not a bad thing, being desparate is the part that can make it bad or harmful.

The anxious mind one was actually a direct quote from the workbook.

By the way i'm debating should i put up the script of anxiety next or the one for handling stress...what do you think?


Mike

Stress it is;

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I accept the reality of things that come my way. I do not complain about what life has sent me. I appreciate what I get and I work with it, not against it

I accept people for who they are and how they react and behave. Instead of getting frustrated, I get creative and excited and I figure out a way to work with the behavior

I see every opportunity as a hopeful one and I know life will give me anything I need for any opportunity. Sometimes answers and solutions come with time

I do not waste time complaining, I deal with the good stuff just as well as I deal with the bad stuff

I get excited for both opportunities to grow as well as rewards and other positive things. Everything has the potential to be positive

I respect my limits and do not overload my day. I do what I can and I give myself the time to relax and enjoy myself as well

I allow myself to calm down and relax if I start to feel exhausted

I don't push myself to complete a task if I get exhausted and the task doesn't need to be completed right away.

I cope with stress very well. Everyday my tolerance for stress increases and I can handle more of it

Everyday and In every way I become stronger and stronger

Everyday I become more and more healthier

Everyday I become more and more passionate and compassionate

I am very good at catching the negative irrational thoughts before they have a chance of affecting me and I am very good at replacing them with rational thoughts.

I am passionate and confident in everything I do, even if its something new



Mike

LOL!!! The picture says it all!

Oh I'm so glad you picked Stress!!!! LOL...I just finnished hearing the session on it.

What do you mean no wonder i'm tired?

On the Onion post you had mentioned that you were tired, and then, I read all the work you did over here, For me that would tired me out!!!lol...

The Stress one is one I really needed to read. I need to personally work on all of the things you posted, starting with the 1st one.
They are very good, and I thank you for posting them. Keep writing them, and sharing them. They are very motivating! Maybe you could do a morning read! Each morning we could recieve 1 daily thought! I'd buy it!!!
I'm printing this one too!
P.S. I just noticed you put pictures up on all the others...GREAT! I like the lion / mirror one too!

Oh and I hope you have all these things down in a journal, and I would maybe talk to those at the mid west center first, as you have been using this program. See what kind of things they may offer you or direct you to, Then or both, take it to a publisher, maybe a local paper, many pay for your weekly posts. Just a few quick thoughts.