Stress Center Peer Support

Hey there...I know what you feel like thinking you have no friends. Have you ever thought, it could be because we are so picky about the type of people we want to be friends with???? And, that is a good thing...I would rather have no friends, as thousands of so-called friends...or people we have absolutely nothing in common with...I am sure people really do like you, but, I guess they sense you are have better morals than most of them...I am from Ky...too, so you are not alone...Maybe, we can talk again...God Bless You...and, you are never alone...You are 1 unique person, and because not everyone is as unique as you; they just don't know how to be your friend....You should be so proud...By the way, my dad was a minister...Hope you get a chance to read this, because I really do understand and care....

Hi Emma It's amazing how God works! I too have been praying for the SAME thing! I have prayed that God would give me ONE Christian friend that I can talk to, hang out with, talk about God with, pray with, etc. I prayed before replying here today, and I would like to share something with YOU
For the past two years, anxiety/depression peaked at its all time high. I was a stay at home mom again, after 12 yrs. of independantly working outside the home. (My four older children were all in school). In July of 2005 I quit my job to become pregnant, eventually to stay home with our new twin boys. I had NO clue that with these cute little blessings had in store for me what GOD had in store for me. I had been anxiety bound for YEARS!!! however, working gave me a reason NOT to deal with it all. I was broken and scared, but I lived a life that allowed me to hide it most of the time, point blank, I was living a LIE. No one knew(including my husband) that I was dying inside. UNTIL, I had to face my "issues" head on. That was when I became a stay at home mommy. Today, I believe that God answered our prayers by allowing me to have children with new husband, however he had a plan and a purpose by doing so. I HAD NO CLUE! WOW what a humbling road this turned out to be. I felt ALONE! Although I had babies and a great husband, I still felt ALONE, fearful and sick! I truley "thought" that I was losing it. That is when I turned to this program and this site. I KNOW it is God ordained!
anyways, After two years of "sorting out" my stuff, I have found today that what I thought I NEEDED( a friend or recreation, etc) was in fact what I DIDN'T NEED at the time. I have learned that I must except JESUS as my closest and dearest friend. I had to be "ALONE" to realize that. I just heard yesterday that being "lonely" and "alone" are two different things. I wasn't really "lonely" for friendship,(I have a couple girls I can talk to now and again) and I have a big family and a spouse that I can talk to daily..so, actually, I wasn't LONELY...I just felt "alone", if that makes sense??? And that is where God wanted me to be. He wanted to get me "alone" so I could listen to HIM. Depend on HIM. Become friends with HIM. I had to be totally humbled and "alone" to realize that FACT! I agree with Believer08.."sometimes when put in a situation in life where we have to rely soley on him...and might I add to that, to become a friend to him..no one else..to build a relationship with HIM..afterall, he is the ONLY one that can fill voids in our lives, right? Joyce meyers experienced the same things years ago..she decided to walk away from the ministry and become a full time stay at home Mom. She had NO clue what was in store for her at that time. God had a BIGGER plan for her. She was humbled, worked on her "stuff", became a better christian and eventually went back into the ministry and look at her today???she owes it all to finally being "alone" with God, making her face her "stuff", eventually healing her. I believe as long as were still walking in truth and conviction, God leads us down every path for a reason. Allow him to show you that special "friend" you've been looking for. Continue doing the GREAT job you've been doing. Enjoy the "alone" time you have with God. There's something to be learned in EVERY situation..You're a GREAT person!!! Don't give up!

Pm me anytime... Consider us all your friends... we're here for you.

God bless you
Robin

Emma_mommy: I have felt how you are feeling quite often. In the past 4 months I've experienced one of the worse feelings of depression and lonliness in a long time. I even had my son home from Iraq and my daughter home from Oklahoma for Christmas, yet I felt so depressed. The day after Christmas when they both left I hit bottom. I felt so alone and lonely (Robin made a good point about that). And because of that I turned more to God than I had for a while. Not only in pray, but by doing devotions and reading more of God's word. I think by doing so I have a better relationship with God than I did before this. I then believe this program was an answer to pray for me and I've thanked God many times. I can actually feel as though I'm with a group of people that can relate how I feel.
Any of you can PM me anytime.
God bless to all of you

Hi Emma's Mommy - The greatest and most important thing in life is to love. Love your child and love yourself because God said so.
I too understand what you're going through. Classifying "friends" as being the best pal you can spend fun time with a grown-up that is confident being a friend. A little over 3 years ago, due to job transfer, my husband and I had to move 65 closer to his job. We left behind family, granchildren, children, and went into a new land. We litteraly knew NO ONE. Done our "church" research before God found us one that felt like home. We have spent a lot of alone times and we've grown closer to Jesus. we are co-drama directors at our church and that is a challenge. You've got friends here in Mt. Carmel IL. Just keep the Faith and Believe life is getting better every day!
Bless You