Stress Center Peer Support

That's cute...the brocolli thing.

It could be something completely diffrent even and it is just manifesting itself as irritation. Who knows.

I can tell you though that every emotion has a message. From a diffrent source, this person has come up with 10 diffrent categories (to simplify things). Each category has it's own message.

Uncomfortable (bordem, Impatient, distresed)
->This signifies that maybe you need to get clear on what it is you want.

Fear (terror, concerned, freightened)
->This tells us that we need to prepare.

Hurt (Sense of loss)
->An expectation is not met.

Anger (Resentment, rage)
->Someone has violated our rules.

Frustration (feeling held back)
->Your approach isn't working, you might wanna think about changing it.

Dissapointment
->Your expectation isn't going to happen until you change it and make it more appropriate for the situation at hand.

Sad (Guilt, Regret)
->You've violated one of your own rules and this feeling makes sure you don't violate it again.

Inadequate (less than, unworthy)
->You need to do something to improve

Overload (overwhelm, depressed, hopeless)
->You're expecting too much in too short of time. You're expecting everything to be perfect over night.

Lonely (apart from or separate from)
->We need a certain connection with someone.

What this person suggests is to figure out which category your feeling most fits into and then go from there.

You could also try asking yourself

what it is that you have to believe in order to feel that way?

As well as;

What do I need to focus on to turn this around?



I hope this helps.

Mike

Hey Mike,
Thanks so much for writing this. It was exactly what I needed right now. My motivation has been lacking. I had posted a topic a few days ago needing some kind of "words of wisdom" I guess you could say. No one replied with anything. One did and they were asking the same thing. Anyway....this has lifted my spirit.
Thanks

I know that somethings I have said sound negative, and maybe they are, but believe or not, with help from the program, I am working on it. I guess it is that I have been a maverick and a pioneer on things other people remain tight lipped or fearful about, and I am not fearful of what some may think.

Remember, they are just thoughts and they can't hurt me; especially if they are someone else's thoughts.

Gman,
I liked reading all your reponses. It's good to be honest. I think you did it in a good way. You were just saying how you felt and didn't have an attitude about it.
I'm going to try and remember that quote above.
It made me think of a man on one of the tapes saying "Thoughts only thoughts".
Especially...If it is NOT YOURS! That has helped alot tonight....thanks

Hi Karen Mike and others,

Personally, I do like broccoli, but when it comes that voice, motor mouth, nervous fidgeting, etc. All serve do make me uncomfortable. It might be that criminal investigative training that I received so long ago, the body language that I try to read, and/or all the other signs that just shout out to me: This person is lying or covering something up. In this case, not only do I not like broccoli, I feel I can't trust broccoli, and perhaps that is why I feel more comfortable reading the work book.

I then struggle with my biases, look at the overall benefits, and say what the heck just do it! Even if her voice just makes me cringe.

Hey, Mike that looks good. I never went through those extremes to dig up stuff when it comes to my emotions. I want to send you a very detailed story of something that happened to me when I was 11 that I shared via PM with someone else.

A lot of times, we are able to block out some very disturbing and traumatic events, until you are stronger to let that monster out of the box. When you are caught in the throws of recounting those traumatic events, and it comes out, you first remember why you put that monster in the box and locked him away. Nevertheless, for the sake of the person that needed to hear, or in this case, read it, you forge through you own fears so that they do not feel they are alone or that the trauma and fears they feel are unique to anyone here. You suffer along for the good it may provide to the other person. Doing this may not provide closure to either person, but it does give a sense that each person can receive some much needed relief.

We all have problems, why else would we be here, some are unique and specific to us, but in the end the hurt and pain is very much the same. Even if the fear that these experiences trigger, may be slightly different, the pain they bring each of us is very much the same.

Is it okay, if I just don't like broccoli? I'm good, about 90% of the time, and definitely when I sleep, can't I just have these moments to just hate broccoli

Thanks Mike and Karen, I knew you wouldn't make eat the broccoli or maybe I did. >:D<

Karen, I am also glad I gave you something good to help you get by. I had no idea that would happen. I was just venting. Go figure, you just never know. Especially since, I don't remember what that guy said, the important thing is that you did and it connected

BTW, I am not angry about anything, I am really just playing and enjoying this. Thanks for giving me this playground Mike. I am jumping up and down on a trampoline, shouting I don't like broccoli, I don't like broccoli....