Posted: Thu Feb 19, 2009 8:00 am
Hi Enough,
I read your post, and found a few things I can relate to.
Please slow down a little, and take a few breathes to help bring you down a bit. Please give yourselves the chance to have some normalcy as your suffer through these hard times.
I see you as a very strong willed person. I won't get into your husband, even though I felt similar things in my relationship. But, I know better now. Of course your husband wants you to get better, but he makes you feel that he doesn't understand what you are going through. That's because he doesn't understand.
I know how difficult going through the program can be sometimes, and it sounds that you are being overwhelmed by the many demands on your time. Moreover, it doesn't help matters much that your husband is out of work, and of course he seems depressed, because he doesn't feel productive and maybe can't seem to at least help out around the house. Please try to be understanding about this for him. Give him his space and opportunity to sort out what he is going to do to get back on his feet. It will happen, but it may take a bit more time. It doesn't help that we have a lousey economy, so things are going to be tight. But, we can't do anything about these things, so you need to focus on the things you can do at the moment.
If you get home and your husband has not cleaned up around the house, let it go. If he can't bring himself to prepare dinner, plan to have prepared meals that you can just nuke and serve in less than 30 minutes.
I don't know where you might be in to the program, but you need to focus on the fact that you are in control of your own thoughts, your feelings and the way you react to things.
When you are going home, listen to relaxing music or maybe you can pick up a radio station that may help you laugh, until you get home. Then, before you go in, stop and do your breathing and relaxation exercises. Try to smile, life is too short to carry all the unhappiness you are carry around.
All the negativity floating around is brought on by much of what you think, and fuel by rehashing these things in your mind. You can do something about all of this, by flipping it around and changing the way you think of things and look at them. It's that glass half empty half full thing. Get and Stay positive. If a negative thought enters, flip it to the positive, if you can't do that, revert to the breathing and then look toward distracting, or occupying your mind with other things.
I will pray for you and your family and household.
Heavenly Father, Daddy God, incline your ear and hear and answer your humble servants prayer. I raise these children and their household up to you.
Lord, I pray that you send forth your precious Holy Spirit and fill and provide your little girl Enoughisenough with all that she needs to be able to go each day minute by minute and moment by moment so that she can live the life you meant for all of your children to have.
Lord, You know her, and the burdens she is carrying and that she is distressed about. I plead for her that you may provide her husband a fulfilling and satisfying job that will help him regain his sense of self worth and be the provider that You would have him to be.
Lord, I pray that You be her constant companion, comforter and consoler.
Lord, I pray that Your peace be upon them and that all their days be filled with the joy You want for all your children.
Lord, I pray that these prayers rise up unto You as a sweet fragrance that is acceptable to You.
Lord, I pray that if anything I have prayed is unacceptable to You, that You recognize my human frailty and extend Your forgiveness, mercy, and loving kindness to me.
I raise this prayer and supplication in your precious Son's Holy Name. Yeshua!
Hugs to you and your family,
Gman5256
I read your post, and found a few things I can relate to.
Please slow down a little, and take a few breathes to help bring you down a bit. Please give yourselves the chance to have some normalcy as your suffer through these hard times.
I see you as a very strong willed person. I won't get into your husband, even though I felt similar things in my relationship. But, I know better now. Of course your husband wants you to get better, but he makes you feel that he doesn't understand what you are going through. That's because he doesn't understand.
I know how difficult going through the program can be sometimes, and it sounds that you are being overwhelmed by the many demands on your time. Moreover, it doesn't help matters much that your husband is out of work, and of course he seems depressed, because he doesn't feel productive and maybe can't seem to at least help out around the house. Please try to be understanding about this for him. Give him his space and opportunity to sort out what he is going to do to get back on his feet. It will happen, but it may take a bit more time. It doesn't help that we have a lousey economy, so things are going to be tight. But, we can't do anything about these things, so you need to focus on the things you can do at the moment.
If you get home and your husband has not cleaned up around the house, let it go. If he can't bring himself to prepare dinner, plan to have prepared meals that you can just nuke and serve in less than 30 minutes.
I don't know where you might be in to the program, but you need to focus on the fact that you are in control of your own thoughts, your feelings and the way you react to things.
When you are going home, listen to relaxing music or maybe you can pick up a radio station that may help you laugh, until you get home. Then, before you go in, stop and do your breathing and relaxation exercises. Try to smile, life is too short to carry all the unhappiness you are carry around.
All the negativity floating around is brought on by much of what you think, and fuel by rehashing these things in your mind. You can do something about all of this, by flipping it around and changing the way you think of things and look at them. It's that glass half empty half full thing. Get and Stay positive. If a negative thought enters, flip it to the positive, if you can't do that, revert to the breathing and then look toward distracting, or occupying your mind with other things.
I will pray for you and your family and household.
Heavenly Father, Daddy God, incline your ear and hear and answer your humble servants prayer. I raise these children and their household up to you.
Lord, I pray that you send forth your precious Holy Spirit and fill and provide your little girl Enoughisenough with all that she needs to be able to go each day minute by minute and moment by moment so that she can live the life you meant for all of your children to have.
Lord, You know her, and the burdens she is carrying and that she is distressed about. I plead for her that you may provide her husband a fulfilling and satisfying job that will help him regain his sense of self worth and be the provider that You would have him to be.
Lord, I pray that You be her constant companion, comforter and consoler.
Lord, I pray that Your peace be upon them and that all their days be filled with the joy You want for all your children.
Lord, I pray that these prayers rise up unto You as a sweet fragrance that is acceptable to You.
Lord, I pray that if anything I have prayed is unacceptable to You, that You recognize my human frailty and extend Your forgiveness, mercy, and loving kindness to me.
I raise this prayer and supplication in your precious Son's Holy Name. Yeshua!
Hugs to you and your family,
Gman5256