Stress Center Peer Support

Just remember - "Greater is He that is in you, than he that is in the world."
My mom was a true "joy stealer" - I have since learned through these tapes and counseling that she had to be a very unhappy women and that I needed to forgive her before I could ever forgive myself. She could pour guilt over me like gravy on potatoes...and I allowed it. Mom in gone now, and since I have forgiven her for all that she put on me, I wish I could talk with her again, because I'm the one that has changed.
Find peace within yourself and it will surround you. Our God is an Awesome God !!! Blessings, Judy

<span class="ev_code_RED">"Life is not waiting for the storm to pass ~ it's learning to dance in the rain."</span>

luvlife,
I hear what you say about your mom,she has caused me alot of grief over the years I had a hard time figuring out how I felt about her she is a very bitter complaining person if she's not happy no one is.
I have worked hard to not be complaing ,life is tough before the program I was doing that.mom had a rough life panic attacks were in her family I used to be angry toward her because of that but realized she could not help it and try to see life thru her eyes my dad died when I was 10 shortly after she got cancer she is a surivor,I didn't know if I loved her I think I have been surpressing my feeling and the years of panic wipes out other feelings.I am trying to do better with her she is in the nursing home and is 83 I am the youngest child and the only one helping her I have learned to be more compasionate and listen to her complain try not to get angry fight what battles I can and just do the best I can,all my family is negative I have 2 sisters and a brother everyone of them are negative I don't see them that much,I want to keep my relation ship with mom the calmest I can you don't know when she will be gone and this is all I can do for her and myself

cindylou, you are so right and I appreciate your advice and know it's how I really should handle things.
I can't tell if I'm scared of offending him b/c he might cut my visitation back with our son or I'm so used to so much more crap from him that these phone calls are minor in comparison. Maybe I just feel sorry for him. None of these is reason to let him run over me though. I will have to do much better next time