Posted: Wed Apr 02, 2008 9:56 am
Dear; mmk22 <span class="ev_code_RED">Shouldnt I be seeing some real changes in myself by now?</span>
it sounds like you are doing all the right things, but it has to be consistent if you are wanting to see a change in your husband, or your child, or your dogs, they haven't seen enough of the new you to be persuaded, this is going to last. If you are still yelling, still admonishing, instead of exhorting, they may not be convinced you have changed for long. You have named 6 stressors that would be too much for most of us.
You may need to drop something for a while. my daughter was getting stressed a few months ago, she just had to much to do, she dropped her masters class, she told her professor, even though she was getting A's she didn't feel she was learning because she had to much on her plate and it was stressing her, this course has taught her that life is worth living not just existing, her professor agreed with her. she will pick it up again when her life is easier, it ebbs and flows. I was so proud of her, she is doing so well since we took this course, and learned the tools for true happiness.
<span class="ev_code_RED">whats with the 1 step foreward, 5 steps back thing?</span>
It is called growing pains, we all have them, and we will all our lives. learning how to live a balanced life is the key to surviving all the storms of life. We need to know who we are, we need to know we are loved, respected, and appreciated. With all you have going on, you can't float your love boat. you must speak peace to the winds and the waves. and throw over board, those unnesacarry things that are sinking our boat.
<span class="ev_code_RED">My mom was a yeller, Im a yeller. </span><span class="ev_code_RED">its making our baby stressed, and our dogs are stressed. </span>
There is a book "the 5 Languages of Love"{ even for children},so we can learn what the language of our loved ones are then we can fill their love tank and help them know they are loved, and everything is going to be OK in the midst of a Stress Storm like you are in just now.
<span class="ev_code_RED">Im on the anger session, thank God,</span>
the Bible is full of stories that show us that growth comes in the midst of the Storms of life, <span class="ev_code_RED">How do people find the patients to deal with what life throws at them when they have no stability at all in their life? </span> God's love can still the storms of life, Jesus gave us the power to speak peace to our storms, but without Love we have nothing. Ephesians tells us Women Honor your husband, it is so important, to fill his love tank all men need to feel honored, you must find something to appreciate about him every day, make a list of ways you can show him honor, Set aside the stresses of today, you married him because you loved him and appreciated something about him. I always give the bride to be at her shower, a journal and I tell her to keep a journal, write down everything about this man you like, every reason you love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him, because for the next 40 years you will have to read it over and over again, to get through the storms of life.
<span class="ev_code_RED">I should be able to take these things in stride</span>
You must have more compassion for YOU, you are only human, we all walk the valleys of life, and we all stumble, that is why God sacrificed his son for our mistakes, that was enough, we don't need to beat ourselves up over these mistakes, we only need to pick our selves up, forgive ourselves, and start a new day, more determined to make a change for the better, one day at a time.
You are learning, so much in this course, all the tools, are important, and every one of them takes practice to make a real and lasting change, so that your first reaction, is automatically, peaceful, and powerful, so every one can gain understanding, and healing from your words. It sounds like yelling is a generational course, for you, but you can break it, your children, don't have to grow up hearing that, or doing that, it isn't genetic it is learned, and just as you learned it over years of hearing it, it will take a year of not yelling for your daughter to not do it.
Do not get discouraged in well doing! be encouraged in the small changes, you see every day, and build on them no matter what others are doing or saying, you can only control you! but they are watching, believe me your actions make a wold of diffrence, it is worth it I am 2 years out of this course, still haveing groing pains, but much easier to get through now, I can stand up for myself, with out yelling the tears still flow, but I can speak peace and understanding in my behalf, no more yelling, no more tantrums, and no more headaches.
I didn't find this class untill I had already raised my kids, but I got them on the program, and the next generation will not have the bad habits I learned, and they learned, because we are making that change now, and from now our behaivior is making life better and better in every way for us and for everyone around us.
"I am not wear I want to be, but I am not wear I used to be, I'm OK and I'm on my way" by Joyce Meyer. That statement helped me through out this program, and I pray it will help you too. Look for the smallest changes, they are there to give you Hope for that stable future you are praying for.
it sounds like you are doing all the right things, but it has to be consistent if you are wanting to see a change in your husband, or your child, or your dogs, they haven't seen enough of the new you to be persuaded, this is going to last. If you are still yelling, still admonishing, instead of exhorting, they may not be convinced you have changed for long. You have named 6 stressors that would be too much for most of us.
You may need to drop something for a while. my daughter was getting stressed a few months ago, she just had to much to do, she dropped her masters class, she told her professor, even though she was getting A's she didn't feel she was learning because she had to much on her plate and it was stressing her, this course has taught her that life is worth living not just existing, her professor agreed with her. she will pick it up again when her life is easier, it ebbs and flows. I was so proud of her, she is doing so well since we took this course, and learned the tools for true happiness.
<span class="ev_code_RED">whats with the 1 step foreward, 5 steps back thing?</span>
It is called growing pains, we all have them, and we will all our lives. learning how to live a balanced life is the key to surviving all the storms of life. We need to know who we are, we need to know we are loved, respected, and appreciated. With all you have going on, you can't float your love boat. you must speak peace to the winds and the waves. and throw over board, those unnesacarry things that are sinking our boat.
<span class="ev_code_RED">My mom was a yeller, Im a yeller. </span><span class="ev_code_RED">its making our baby stressed, and our dogs are stressed. </span>
There is a book "the 5 Languages of Love"{ even for children},so we can learn what the language of our loved ones are then we can fill their love tank and help them know they are loved, and everything is going to be OK in the midst of a Stress Storm like you are in just now.
<span class="ev_code_RED">Im on the anger session, thank God,</span>
the Bible is full of stories that show us that growth comes in the midst of the Storms of life, <span class="ev_code_RED">How do people find the patients to deal with what life throws at them when they have no stability at all in their life? </span> God's love can still the storms of life, Jesus gave us the power to speak peace to our storms, but without Love we have nothing. Ephesians tells us Women Honor your husband, it is so important, to fill his love tank all men need to feel honored, you must find something to appreciate about him every day, make a list of ways you can show him honor, Set aside the stresses of today, you married him because you loved him and appreciated something about him. I always give the bride to be at her shower, a journal and I tell her to keep a journal, write down everything about this man you like, every reason you love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him, because for the next 40 years you will have to read it over and over again, to get through the storms of life.
<span class="ev_code_RED">I should be able to take these things in stride</span>
You must have more compassion for YOU, you are only human, we all walk the valleys of life, and we all stumble, that is why God sacrificed his son for our mistakes, that was enough, we don't need to beat ourselves up over these mistakes, we only need to pick our selves up, forgive ourselves, and start a new day, more determined to make a change for the better, one day at a time.
You are learning, so much in this course, all the tools, are important, and every one of them takes practice to make a real and lasting change, so that your first reaction, is automatically, peaceful, and powerful, so every one can gain understanding, and healing from your words. It sounds like yelling is a generational course, for you, but you can break it, your children, don't have to grow up hearing that, or doing that, it isn't genetic it is learned, and just as you learned it over years of hearing it, it will take a year of not yelling for your daughter to not do it.
Do not get discouraged in well doing! be encouraged in the small changes, you see every day, and build on them no matter what others are doing or saying, you can only control you! but they are watching, believe me your actions make a wold of diffrence, it is worth it I am 2 years out of this course, still haveing groing pains, but much easier to get through now, I can stand up for myself, with out yelling the tears still flow, but I can speak peace and understanding in my behalf, no more yelling, no more tantrums, and no more headaches.
I didn't find this class untill I had already raised my kids, but I got them on the program, and the next generation will not have the bad habits I learned, and they learned, because we are making that change now, and from now our behaivior is making life better and better in every way for us and for everyone around us.
"I am not wear I want to be, but I am not wear I used to be, I'm OK and I'm on my way" by Joyce Meyer. That statement helped me through out this program, and I pray it will help you too. Look for the smallest changes, they are there to give you Hope for that stable future you are praying for.
Im getting there. Im becoming more and more aware of the behaviors that I have that I dont agree with and my frustration comes from the fact that I cant seem to find the strength to change these things as they're happening. I wrote this post this morning because I DO feel like Ive been making progress, then this morning happened and I just felt like crumbling because it seems like Im going backwards. Im sure you all have felt that way so I was hoping I could gain some insight into what you all have done to pull yourself out of these slumps that just seem to keep happening. And thankfully, you do understand and can see that Im venting and are there to help me see the bright side and know that it is just a bad day. 
