Stress Center Peer Support

Hi Holly,

I can honestly say that I have a good grasp on the concept of how you feel. I've felt very similar during sex often throughout the years. Being a male it was a little too odd for me to try and talk to another male friend about.

The two serious relationships I had I would often in the middle of sex just suddenly get an overwhelming sense of depression and disgust (as you spoke of). I could myself never explain it, but wow was it overpowering. It still happens up until now. I used to thing it was my fault and that I was wrong for feeling that way, but I know I don't want to feel that way.

I was never molested or anything like that in my life, so I don't know the exact cause of it. I just thought you should know you definitely aren't alone in this.

-Dustin

I also felt repulsed and sick after sex starting at 17. I was looking for someone to love me and usually found someone who was more or less using me. I felt love, they saw it as casual. SO I felt dirty and guilty.
When you come to the point in life when you want to get married, you feel cheated in a way- that others have had you physically and emotionally and it takes away from what you are wanting to offer your spouse, which is yourself completely. As said earlier, each person you are with takes a little from you. It's kinda hard to explain. But I wish I had never shared my entire self with others- just my husband. I wish I had a pure body and a clean slate to offer him- that I was his one and only. I realize that's not common today.
Just to throw this in there- I ended up a single mom at 18 for having sex with someone I had only dated 6 months. Turned out to be dating others too while I was away at school. Everything turned out ok for me- that was 19 years ok, but me and my family went through hell at the time. Also, that daughter is now 19. She called last week with a problem. Her friend's boyfriend had chlamydia and she needed to know how to advise her friend. We looked it up and things could have been a lot worse for this friend and her boyfriend. Until you are ready to make a life committment, please, please use protection. And not just the pill. Just my two cents in there!