adjustment depression

faithnhope1 · Post by **faithnhope1** » Thu May 14, 2009 11:00 pm

Does this program work for adjustment disorder/depression? I have been feeling very depressed for almost a year now, and very guilty about being so; from the outside, I have a wonderful life. During the last 4-5 years, I have had several major life "episodes" which I didnt' think I would have any trouble adjusting to. In 2004, I was "downsized" from my career of 20+ years due to financial mismanagment of the company by the family owners. Then, in 2005 my mother was diagnosed with metastatic breast cancer;she moved into our home and lived with my husband and I until her death in 2006. I had not returned to work in 2005 at the time of her diagnosis; I became her caregiver on every day of her cancer journey...it was heart-wrenching many times. However, I felt God had given me a wonderful blessing of having her for almost one year during our long "goodbye." She and I were best friends, and I missed her dearly....and still do. After she passed, my husband and I decided to relocate to another state, where he has family, and get a new "start." We moved in 2007, and spent the next year building a beautiful home in our new state; we moved in last summer. However, we now live so far away from "civilization" I am miserable. I was looking forward to a "second chance" and perhaps starting a new, more meaningful career, but we are too far away for me to further my education or begin a new career. My new best friend, our married friends, our family, goods and services are 1.5 hours from our home. I just began to volunteer a few days a week at one of the hospitals, but it is still an hour drive, each way. I dont' feel I am the person I used to be; I feel very depressed and have anxiety also. My husband is very happy here, but he knows I am unhappy, which makes me feel even more guilty. Any thoughts?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri May 15, 2009 1:41 am

hi faithnhope1...

to answer your first question, YES... this program helps with adjustment... sounds like you have done some major adjusting in the 4-5 year time span... please don't feel alone though... many of us out here in the forums and who are struggling with depression have found new friends and "family" right here... you have come to the right place... as far as being "far away" from work, friends etc., what about using the computer to find more education and work opportunities?l... it's amazing how connected you can feel with this modern technology... as for volunteering... what about schools?... elementary... preschool... i find more life in the children of today that ever before and they are so precious... i help out at an elementary school abour 20 minutes from home and it's the highlight of my week... with the exception of church... just remember we are here for you... and without even knowing you... we can still love you and support you in your journey...
much LOVE,
kj

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri May 15, 2009 3:06 am

kj has some excellent advice. I don't have much more to offer except encouragement that you do this program. Depression doesn't settle on our lives one night, and we discover it when we wake up. Your life stressors are over the top. Most people would be suffering after all those changes. As for supplements while you are working through this program, please find some books to help you understand all the ways grief can wreak havoc on our lives if we don't know what to do with our grief. I, too, took care of my parents during the end stages of their lives. Dad had cancer. Mom was end stage heart failure. The best and worst years of my life. I know that kind of pain. There is a forum here where people recommend books. You'll find a great book there just for loss of a mother. Best to you.