Husband left me for a 22 year old

[deemar]

Has anyone been through what i am going through? My husband and I were having major problems, alot of financial difficulties, on his part. He just didn't feel like he had to pay bills, so we went without groceries, electricity, gasoline for vehicles, i had to get food boxes from local help. It was frustrating. This young girl came into my life. She was going through a abusive relationship. I took her under my wing, helped her emotionally, financially, let her use my vehicles. She is now with my husband, and they live with my daughter in her apartment. He wants a divorce, he won't break it off with her, he won't help financially, he scares me cause he sent me text messages to have his young woman beat me. We are trying to be civil for the divorce to run smooth and for our 10 year old son sake. Now I hear she is pregnant. I feel so alone and thrown away. Any advice?

[pjmorales]

Im so sorry for what you are going through just know you are on my prayer list

[SoWhatif]

Deemar, Welcome. You are saddled with a very heavy heart. To get to the point I would drop him like a rock and move on. Are you able to remove your son and you from that enviroment? We do not know your age or need to, just know that there is better places to raise a child and for your own growth as well.
Keep moving forward and doors will open, be positive and keep your powder dry.

R

[deemar]

i just wish my heart could move forward like he did. a person can take it some many time, that i am a bad person, mother and that he allows himself to be seen in public with this kid. My son was attached to this girl, and she took him every where. If he finds out that his dad is with her and how much this divorce is hurting him, my little son is going to be devastated. i finally got on med's (temporarily) till i get over this hump. i need something cause i am not functioning right. I pray and pray for help, i try to keep busy. This hurt is way too much for me to handle.

[Paisleegreen]

Wow, deemar, I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I'm glad that at least you have some of us to talk to. Hang in there...we know that this is a hard thing to go through. paislee

[early31]

sorry to hear about this. you have to find a way to be strong about this. i was about 6 when my mom was going through a divorce and it scared me to see her when she was scared. and i felt pretty bad when she'd get angry with me during that time. i know now it was because the turmoil she was in, but believe me it'll take a toll.
if you can't be strong for yourself do it for your son. you didn't quit but this guy did. chances are this guy's problems are only going to get worse because of that. whereas you can start the healing process and be stronger for it.

[dansbiz]

So sorry, for what you are going through! He certainly does not deserve you. Any man that deserts his family is a coward and a selfish fool. You have shown integrity and are a special person. Don't give up, there are many people that have gone through similar things. I don't know what emotional supports you have but as one of Jehovah's witnesses, we try to help families deal with such things when we call at their doors personally. I will pray in your behalf. If I may share just one comforting scripture in the bible is all chapter Psalms 34 but especially verse 18,19 were it says, " Jehovah (God) is near to to those broken at heart and those who are crushed in spirit he saves. Many are the calamities of the righteous one,but out of them all Jehovah(God) delivers him."
Dan.