quote,from P
Oh, I did understand that you were hiding your nicer watch and you want to fit in.
I may be in left field and be wrong, as if it was or was not J's trigger. I find it judgmental allthough it still is a assumtion.
In my reading it implies guilt to the involved. It made me react for defense however innocent it is.
And I do not want to be seeming arrogant or rude to P, it is just I need to understand the consequence to someones self esteem. I may be too sensitive but it is more of my 5th senses that has caught me. It happens at other places also and again I dearly respect and admire P all I want is to help give a awareness.
This is another instance where words used caused a hick-up in my git along.
quote,
You make good sense.
As endearing as it is to hear and it feels like getting the pat on the back

I am not sure how to interpret it. When I read it, flags fly in my head as I am aware of again being put on or get the feeling like I am being graded or must defend. It raises my the self esteem defense whether it was implyed or just learned behaviour when folks do it?
The similar thing goes on in relationships that are out of balance with the partners. It reminds me of a pack leader behaviour, not a interdependant relationship that brings out the best in equall portions.
I am hopeing this will help bring more understanding and have what others views or feelings are also when things like this happen.
Now I must read whats been happening today,