I am having alot of difficult sticking to this program. I have been through it 3 times and all 3 times I haven't stuck to it, I get to a point where I start feeling better, give up on the program and feel fine for a week or 2, then WHAM! It comes back full force and I feel even worse.
Anyone else have this issue? I am a very bad procrastinator
Grrr.. Why can't I stick to this program?
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Hang tough....you aren't alone! 
:):) Think positive and keep trying cuz I know YOU CAN DO IT!!!
don't eva give up!
:):) Think positive and keep trying cuz I know YOU CAN DO IT!!!don't eva give up!
Last edited by Chief Crazy Horse on Fri Nov 13, 2009 2:39 pm, edited 1 time in total.
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Celeron,
I purchased this program in March. Talk about a procrastinator. I did fine for the first month and stopped. Things just got bad enough where I had to make the time to give it another chance and so far so good.
Try to stick to it as best you can. What you must not do is beat yourself up or become hard on yourself. Do you know how hard is for me to remember to take my medication or a vitamin on a regular basis? I am as forgetful as they come. Just keep encouraging yourself and when you really need to use the program and feel better it will happen.
I purchased this program in March. Talk about a procrastinator. I did fine for the first month and stopped. Things just got bad enough where I had to make the time to give it another chance and so far so good.
Try to stick to it as best you can. What you must not do is beat yourself up or become hard on yourself. Do you know how hard is for me to remember to take my medication or a vitamin on a regular basis? I am as forgetful as they come. Just keep encouraging yourself and when you really need to use the program and feel better it will happen.
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Don't talk to me about taking medication, I have beta blockers for a heart condition, I am doing that much in the morning I some times forget if I have taken my medication or not.Originally posted by S. Yvette:
Celeron,
I purchased this program in March. Talk about a procrastinator. I did fine for the first month and stopped. Things just got bad enough where I had to make the time to give it another chance and so far so good.
Try to stick to it as best you can. What you must not do is beat yourself up or become hard on yourself. Do you know how hard is for me to remember to take my medication or a vitamin on a regular basis? I am as forgetful as they come. Just keep encouraging yourself and when you really need to use the program and feel better it will happen.
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For anyone who can't recall if they've taken their meds in the morning, I would recommend getting one of those plastic medication holders with the days on them. I have a busy job and would often think "Did I take my meds?" And, of course, not being sure made me anxious. Having the daily medication holder helps enormously, because if I've taken it, it's no longer in the holder. It definitely helps me with anxiety.
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Very good idea about those weekly pill cases. I have one!! BUT I take so many pills( supplements ) a day they cant fit into one and I take them at different times of the day too. . maybe I'll need to buy 3!! he he. I know exactly how you're feeling, celeron. Thats where I am at too! I did the program till session 3 and did feel better and than stopped for a month and now I feel worse than I was starting off!! Why is this??? I am really bad at sticking to stuff. . BUT I have been taking my herbal supplements everyday and thats pretty cool. When I buy vitamins I'll take them for a few days and than stop. I think I am taking these herbal supplements because They were so DARN expensive so I'm not going to fool around. I don't know if I have any advice but I am where you're at right now. In fact, my friend who has already completed the program is making me a schedule and were going to do it together starting tomorrow. She says she can tell I need a push because thats how she was and doesn't want to see me keep falling back into this anxiety crap. I'm so sick of my obsessive thoughts and worries and what ifs! ! ! Now that my anxiety is pretty darn bad I need to do something about it. I don't want to keep falling back into this cycle. This is not a way to live. We are good people DARNIT we don't deserve to be living this way. . (or shall I say not living) . . We deserve to be happy and go to work and go to social events and not have to worry about irrational thoughts. . My biggest one is "WHAT IF I STOP BREATHING ?!" Than I constantly think what if I think about what if i stop breathing all day long and than I anticipate it which is just as bad as the fear itself. . does that make sense? worrying about worrying about worrying WAH WAH WAH!! Im over it! C'mon celeron, I know you're too lets fight this and do the program from start to finish!!! I know we can do it! Lets begin something that may help us begin living!!! Sorry I am ranting I was just thinking today how DUMB my fears are and how DUMB my irrational thinking is I just want to stop this. I know I need to be patient and I am fine with that. . I just want to do something that can help me with this "will i stop breathing" stuff . . and believe me I have plenty more irrational thoughts in my head, it just seems this one likes to stick around and make me feel miserable 24/7!! Ok, you wonderful people all have a great day!
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I've started and stopped the program several times too. I get all gung ho, listen to the tape several times, do the relaxation, cut out caffeine & sugar, etc. But I never seem to get to the workbook. Then I just move on to the next tape cuz I listen during my commute and I'm curious to see what's next. I feel like I'm just too busy with summertime things to really give it 100%. But summer is coming to a close (sob!) and I'm going to be better once September rolls around. And I think I'm also procrastinating because I know the workbook is really a WORK book and I need to push myself to take chances and get better. But that is scary so I avoid it.
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Make a committment to yourself - make you your #1 priority. Make you're wanting to feel better your #1 priority & let that be your MOTIVATION.
I was so darn miserable w/ all that the worst of anxiety disorder was for me, how it made me feel & how very much it impacted my life - that IT SERVED AS MY MOTIVATION! I was desperate. There was NOTHING, & I mean NOTHING - more important to me than <span class="ev_code_RED">me wanting to FEEL BETTER & finding a way to make that happen - Whatever that was going to entail. I was WILLING. </span> From that point, of absolute & raw desperation, came my MOTIVATION. I didn't want to feel good for just 1 day, or 1, or 3. I wanted to feel good for the rest of my life. I wanted RECOVERY & EMOTIONAL FREEDOM.
There used to be a tv show on in the 80's, FAME. Debbie Allen I believe played the dance instructor. In the opening, she says, "you want fame, well fame costs & here's where you start paying in SWEAT!" Recovery from anxiety disorder is no different. In fact, IT DEMANDS IT - IT DEMANDS YOUR ALL - IT DEMANDS CONSISTENCY, yes - even when you feel like you can't/don't/won't - yes - even when life is going on out there & you want to be doing other things.
I didn't have a single clue what this "thing" was that had befallen me in the beginning - to be frank, I was ignorant to it & what it would require of me & how hard that work was going to be. TRIAL & ERROR was my initial guide. In other words, I sought out whatever I could that was going to enable me to help myself to FEEL BETTER. I'd try this, & this didn't work - so, I'd say to myself "ok, we won't do that". Then, I'd try THAT & MY DOING "THAT" gave me some relief. So, I worked on doing THAT, whatever that may have been. I was, in essence, compiling a TREASURE CHEST of experience + skills + knowledge, through trial & error. I began to notice: the more I got out(painful emotions/memories surpressed), the better I felt + the more I changed, the better I felt. Well, heck, FEELING BETTER WAS MY OBJECTIVE - so I just kept going, learning/growing/changing/evolving. <span class="ev_code_RED">I BECAME FOCUSED.</span>
WHY PUT OFF UNTIL TOMORROW THAT WHICH YOU CAN DO TODAY. If we, those who have anxiety disorder, continually say, "oh, I'm gonna do it tomorrow" - when is recovery gonna come - we are putting off our emotional freedom & feeling better. It is you who has the responsibility of this. Sure, we have support via family & friends. However, as much as they love & support us - it ain't them feeling miserable majority of the time(body symptoms & all)- IT'S US.
Anxiety disorder foreced my hand - it also crypled my ability to be gainfully employed. I couln't work. Majority of the people in my life, hubby + our family/inlaws + friends - ALL WORKED. In addition, no one in my life had anxiety disorder - so I had no reference point or the kind of support that came fr literal experience. I was home for 3 1/2 yrs recovering fr anxiety disorder & then depression - ALONE MAJORITY OF THE TIME. I was terribly lonely - so much so, it HURT ME - PHYSICALLY. For a short while, I was also resentful. I was resentful cause folks/family/friends - were out there, out & about - living life & here I was, damn it w/ anxiety disorder. They didn't have my burdens & I was mad, lol. I wanted to be out there too - I wanted to be carefree - I wanted just 1 darn day where I didn't have to talk/think about anxiety disorder or recovery. There were many things I wanted to be doing, & trust you me, they didn't include anxiety disorder + excruiatingly painful therapy sessions + not being able to get sound sleep - only averaging 1-2 hrs per every 24 hrs + experiencing a level of fear that was mind numbing to me, beyond any comprehension I had + journaling & journaling, to train myself to be ok w/ what I'm thinking & feeling - then to feel them + researching = reading 16+ books on anxiety disorder & depression + to go through Lucinda's program - + changing my dietary intake + exercising. There wasn't a single soul on this God given green earth that was gonna give it to me + do it for me + make it go away - I HAD TO DO IT. The question became, <span class="ev_code_RED">WHAT WAS IT WORTH TO ME.</span> I wanted OUT THERE TOO - & as corney as it sounds, just like she said on that FAME TV SHOW - it was gonna cost me, recovery was gonna cost me w/ pain/tears/changing/homework - except this time, I didn't have to answer to some teacher - I HAD TO ANSWER TO MYSELF.
I don't mean to sound so harsh, sincerely - I am the most compassionate & empathetic person you will ever meet.
I was just @ the worst of worst - literally. I was 2 steps away fr a PSYCH HOSPITAL, NO JOKING. I had to fight - I had to do it, even on many days when I didn't want to. I realized, PROCRASTINATION & WHAT IF'G are both so much worse on us than JUST DOING IT - committ to yourself. I didn't want to know I had to do it - but I had to, lol make sense.
1 day @ a time, alittle @ a time is all it takes. It does take committment + consistency. The rewards are so worth the effort. You gain your emotional freedom. Think of it as you going through RECOVERY COLLEGE & YOUR MAJOR IS "EMOTIONAL FREEDOM". I didn't want to be home for 3 1/2 years. However, I needed to be home for 3 1/2 yrs. I gained my freedom via my hard work. Now, I am free - I have SKILLS man - real life skills so I don't have to run & hide fr anxiety disorder or its symptoms. I don't have to run fr stress for I know how to handle it a lot better. I have learned compassion + empathy + love for myself - cause I gave myself a gift = COMMITTMENT TO MYSELF & PUTTING MYSELF/MY WELL BEING - 1ST!
Your Friend,
LENORE
I was so darn miserable w/ all that the worst of anxiety disorder was for me, how it made me feel & how very much it impacted my life - that IT SERVED AS MY MOTIVATION! I was desperate. There was NOTHING, & I mean NOTHING - more important to me than <span class="ev_code_RED">me wanting to FEEL BETTER & finding a way to make that happen - Whatever that was going to entail. I was WILLING. </span> From that point, of absolute & raw desperation, came my MOTIVATION. I didn't want to feel good for just 1 day, or 1, or 3. I wanted to feel good for the rest of my life. I wanted RECOVERY & EMOTIONAL FREEDOM.
There used to be a tv show on in the 80's, FAME. Debbie Allen I believe played the dance instructor. In the opening, she says, "you want fame, well fame costs & here's where you start paying in SWEAT!" Recovery from anxiety disorder is no different. In fact, IT DEMANDS IT - IT DEMANDS YOUR ALL - IT DEMANDS CONSISTENCY, yes - even when you feel like you can't/don't/won't - yes - even when life is going on out there & you want to be doing other things.
I didn't have a single clue what this "thing" was that had befallen me in the beginning - to be frank, I was ignorant to it & what it would require of me & how hard that work was going to be. TRIAL & ERROR was my initial guide. In other words, I sought out whatever I could that was going to enable me to help myself to FEEL BETTER. I'd try this, & this didn't work - so, I'd say to myself "ok, we won't do that". Then, I'd try THAT & MY DOING "THAT" gave me some relief. So, I worked on doing THAT, whatever that may have been. I was, in essence, compiling a TREASURE CHEST of experience + skills + knowledge, through trial & error. I began to notice: the more I got out(painful emotions/memories surpressed), the better I felt + the more I changed, the better I felt. Well, heck, FEELING BETTER WAS MY OBJECTIVE - so I just kept going, learning/growing/changing/evolving. <span class="ev_code_RED">I BECAME FOCUSED.</span>
WHY PUT OFF UNTIL TOMORROW THAT WHICH YOU CAN DO TODAY. If we, those who have anxiety disorder, continually say, "oh, I'm gonna do it tomorrow" - when is recovery gonna come - we are putting off our emotional freedom & feeling better. It is you who has the responsibility of this. Sure, we have support via family & friends. However, as much as they love & support us - it ain't them feeling miserable majority of the time(body symptoms & all)- IT'S US.
Anxiety disorder foreced my hand - it also crypled my ability to be gainfully employed. I couln't work. Majority of the people in my life, hubby + our family/inlaws + friends - ALL WORKED. In addition, no one in my life had anxiety disorder - so I had no reference point or the kind of support that came fr literal experience. I was home for 3 1/2 yrs recovering fr anxiety disorder & then depression - ALONE MAJORITY OF THE TIME. I was terribly lonely - so much so, it HURT ME - PHYSICALLY. For a short while, I was also resentful. I was resentful cause folks/family/friends - were out there, out & about - living life & here I was, damn it w/ anxiety disorder. They didn't have my burdens & I was mad, lol. I wanted to be out there too - I wanted to be carefree - I wanted just 1 darn day where I didn't have to talk/think about anxiety disorder or recovery. There were many things I wanted to be doing, & trust you me, they didn't include anxiety disorder + excruiatingly painful therapy sessions + not being able to get sound sleep - only averaging 1-2 hrs per every 24 hrs + experiencing a level of fear that was mind numbing to me, beyond any comprehension I had + journaling & journaling, to train myself to be ok w/ what I'm thinking & feeling - then to feel them + researching = reading 16+ books on anxiety disorder & depression + to go through Lucinda's program - + changing my dietary intake + exercising. There wasn't a single soul on this God given green earth that was gonna give it to me + do it for me + make it go away - I HAD TO DO IT. The question became, <span class="ev_code_RED">WHAT WAS IT WORTH TO ME.</span> I wanted OUT THERE TOO - & as corney as it sounds, just like she said on that FAME TV SHOW - it was gonna cost me, recovery was gonna cost me w/ pain/tears/changing/homework - except this time, I didn't have to answer to some teacher - I HAD TO ANSWER TO MYSELF.
I don't mean to sound so harsh, sincerely - I am the most compassionate & empathetic person you will ever meet.
I was just @ the worst of worst - literally. I was 2 steps away fr a PSYCH HOSPITAL, NO JOKING. I had to fight - I had to do it, even on many days when I didn't want to. I realized, PROCRASTINATION & WHAT IF'G are both so much worse on us than JUST DOING IT - committ to yourself. I didn't want to know I had to do it - but I had to, lol make sense. 1 day @ a time, alittle @ a time is all it takes. It does take committment + consistency. The rewards are so worth the effort. You gain your emotional freedom. Think of it as you going through RECOVERY COLLEGE & YOUR MAJOR IS "EMOTIONAL FREEDOM". I didn't want to be home for 3 1/2 years. However, I needed to be home for 3 1/2 yrs. I gained my freedom via my hard work. Now, I am free - I have SKILLS man - real life skills so I don't have to run & hide fr anxiety disorder or its symptoms. I don't have to run fr stress for I know how to handle it a lot better. I have learned compassion + empathy + love for myself - cause I gave myself a gift = COMMITTMENT TO MYSELF & PUTTING MYSELF/MY WELL BEING - 1ST!
Your Friend,
LENORE