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Absolutely,
I used to get more anxious the closer my ex husband was to getting home from work. You never knew what to expect- what kind of mood he would be in. I know I was just reacting to the numerous times he came in on a tear looking for someone to take it out on, so I began to "expect" it every day.
I used to get more anxious the closer my ex husband was to getting home from work. You never knew what to expect- what kind of mood he would be in. I know I was just reacting to the numerous times he came in on a tear looking for someone to take it out on, so I began to "expect" it every day.
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aibarra,
I know for a fact that a bad relationship can cause anxiety/panic because I have lived with it everyday of my life. I don't want to bore you with two many details and I certainly don't want to sound like I'm a victim because I'm not anymore and I am taking charge of my life.
I grew up in a very dysfunctional home and bear the invisible scars of mental-emotional and physiological abuse by "mommy dearest". Honestly can't remember a time in my life without anxiety because when a child is forced to be the grown up before they are prepared needless to say anxiety is probably just one of the many ways to deal with life. Anyway what I found to be the most unusual part of this whole story was that even with all the anxiety and worry I had grown accustomed to I never had a panic attack until I was 37 about 10 years ago. The strange part is that at that point in my life I had severed ties with "mommy dearest" and was living a dream life with my husband and two children. I guess this is where I realize old habits die hard because after looking back on why panic would come in at a happy time I figured out it was because I had never lived without anxiety so when it finally happened for me my physical reaction was to panic because I had nothing to worry about after I had cut out the toxic relationship. I feel like it was a post traumatic stress problem from living with the fight or flight instinct forever. Unfortunately I never even knew the symptoms of a panic attack until I found this program a few months ago. My GP told me I as depressed and need anti-depressants (That's a whole other story in itself). Actually my first idea that I had experienced panic in the past and anxiety was when I was going through Paxil withdrawal back in January and February and everything just started clicking as I researched that subject. My husband and I both never understood the "depressed" diagnosis because I didn't fit any of the descriptions that we read depression was all about. Of course hind sight is 20/20 and we have learned so much from this program already that has put my mind at ease just to know I had anxiety/panic and not necessarily depression. Well, I think I have bored you with too many details.
I have noticed on this forum it seems most of what I read is of people that can pinpoint the exact circumstances when their anxiety/panic started so at first I was scared this program wasn't for me since I apparently had a chronic case of at least the anxiety part. But I have already experienced much relief using these tools so I'm still excited to think that I can kick this once and for all.
Thank you for reading my ramblings and good luck in your recovery.
I know for a fact that a bad relationship can cause anxiety/panic because I have lived with it everyday of my life. I don't want to bore you with two many details and I certainly don't want to sound like I'm a victim because I'm not anymore and I am taking charge of my life.
I grew up in a very dysfunctional home and bear the invisible scars of mental-emotional and physiological abuse by "mommy dearest". Honestly can't remember a time in my life without anxiety because when a child is forced to be the grown up before they are prepared needless to say anxiety is probably just one of the many ways to deal with life. Anyway what I found to be the most unusual part of this whole story was that even with all the anxiety and worry I had grown accustomed to I never had a panic attack until I was 37 about 10 years ago. The strange part is that at that point in my life I had severed ties with "mommy dearest" and was living a dream life with my husband and two children. I guess this is where I realize old habits die hard because after looking back on why panic would come in at a happy time I figured out it was because I had never lived without anxiety so when it finally happened for me my physical reaction was to panic because I had nothing to worry about after I had cut out the toxic relationship. I feel like it was a post traumatic stress problem from living with the fight or flight instinct forever. Unfortunately I never even knew the symptoms of a panic attack until I found this program a few months ago. My GP told me I as depressed and need anti-depressants (That's a whole other story in itself). Actually my first idea that I had experienced panic in the past and anxiety was when I was going through Paxil withdrawal back in January and February and everything just started clicking as I researched that subject. My husband and I both never understood the "depressed" diagnosis because I didn't fit any of the descriptions that we read depression was all about. Of course hind sight is 20/20 and we have learned so much from this program already that has put my mind at ease just to know I had anxiety/panic and not necessarily depression. Well, I think I have bored you with too many details.
I have noticed on this forum it seems most of what I read is of people that can pinpoint the exact circumstances when their anxiety/panic started so at first I was scared this program wasn't for me since I apparently had a chronic case of at least the anxiety part. But I have already experienced much relief using these tools so I'm still excited to think that I can kick this once and for all.
Thank you for reading my ramblings and good luck in your recovery.
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ABSOLUTELY. yes, yes, yes. It definitely can. I know this from first hand experience. I will write more about it when I get home from work, I am about to head out here! But yes, the degree and severity of anxiety and panic are definitely correlated to how functional relationships are in your personal and even professional lives.
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Yes. Very much so. Also thinking your relationship is "so perfect" can set you up for a LOT of pain. I thought I had THE perfect marriage & put my spouse on a pedestal. He did something that hurt me VERY deeply and because I had him on this pedestal, the pain was all the greater and it just hurt all the more. We are all human. None of us is perfect. We can all just do the best we can do. We've worked so hard on our marriage in the past year and it's been worth it, but NO more "pedestal!" All my anxiety/depression etc. got worse after this happened and I am still recovering. He is the one who bought me this program...