fatal freak accident,cant deal with....

mrsunderstood · Post by **mrsunderstood** » Thu Apr 10, 2008 6:06 am

One week ago today my nephews mother-in-law was killed in a freak accident at her home she was only 44 I went to the visitation and the funeral,it was so sad to see my nephews wife(her daughter)I felt so sad to see her hurting so much I just cry for her all the time.I feel so helpless I have a daughter her age 22.I know im not suppose to question why,but it seems so senseless.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Apr 10, 2008 1:27 pm

I think you have a huge, compassionate heart and that's something to be proud of. She is lucky to have someone like you in her life to help feel the pain and help her grieve.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Apr 10, 2008 1:50 pm

Things don't always make sense to us,
mrsunderstood.
You've shown kindness and deep empathy.
You are doing well in this respect.
Maybe some where down the line, some good will come out of this tragic loss. We don't see how,
but strange things do happen. And maybe not.
But it has happened and you've shown the girl love and I'm sure comforted her.
You are to be greatly commended.
You have felt pain over this yourself. Somehow this is a part of life too.
Hopeing you will be uplifted some way.
MJ

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Apr 10, 2008 3:37 pm

Thank you,Bevhembree for your kind words.Iguess like everything else,we'll just have to take it one day at a time.

Craw · Post by **Craw** » Thu Apr 10, 2008 3:45 pm

Thank you too cornflower,I have needed to hear something that will help me make some kind of sense out of this.I will just continue to help her as much as I can.My heart is just breaking,but i know it is not near the heartache she feels.

~*schnauzermom*~ · Post by **~*schnauzermom*~** » Thu Apr 10, 2008 3:51 pm

yes its very hard when we hear news like that i know i lost my nephew 36 yrs old last year on christmas day the parqamedics found him deceased ,he was on the waiting list for kidney transplant i knew he was sick but still didnt make it any easier . His my mom my sister lives with me and im finding it very hard as i watch her move on and im the one thats greivng all the time . and i know also we arent suposed to ask why but i do.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Apr 11, 2008 3:32 am

Hi Mrsunderstood,

I know how you feel, I to received som bad news this month, one of my teachers committed suicide. That sent my anxiety into a tail spin of "what if's" but luckily at the time I was reading a bood by Florence Novel Schinn and she said sometimes when we don't understand something it's good to bless the situation, so that is what I kept doing. The first day I just kept saying "God Bless Eric where ever he is", I think I did that 145 times the first day. Everyday I kept saying just that and my thoughts started to change from being scared and fearful to really feeling compassion for him and really blessing him where ever he was and for whatever reason these things happen.

I don't know if that will help you but it helped me.

God bless,

Julie

kappaman · Post by **kappaman** » Sun Apr 13, 2008 4:57 am

I am sorry for your losses dlcottage and jmikejulie,this experience has really opened my eyes,this lady that got killed was going through a rough time and she thought that she had no one their was so many people at her funeral I wish that she had confided in someone before this happened.They think that it might have been suicide.I will not believe that,I just cannot see how she could do that to her family she really loved her kids and grandkids and her husband,she had 7 brothers and sisters ,i know if she was that desperate she could have gotten help from so many people.I hope that she knows how loved she was.

mhl28 · Post by **mhl28** » Tue Apr 15, 2008 9:48 am

I also know how you feel mrunderstood. My stepfather who was the only Dad I had ever really known just passed away 5 months ago. It is still very hard somedays, I will just sit down look through a photo album and cry my eyes out. I too have also questioned why when he was such a great man. This great man that I am speaking of once told me that you never put a ? where God puts a period. I know that it is hard but God does have a reason he just does not see a need to reaveal it to us at this time. I hope everything works out ok for you and your nephews wife.