Hey everyone!
I really need to know if anyone else has done this, and if you have, how do you get your self confidence back? My husband and I went to Chatt. Tn, about 30 miles from my home...when he first said lets go, I was feeling so up to it. We were taking two cars, thinking we might have to leave one at circuit city, anyway, we went to eat first, and at the end of the meal I could "feel it" starting. I started breathing correctly, trying to talk to myself, (I was going to barnes and noble while he was going to circuit city) anyway, by the time I was at B&N I was so dizzy I had rubber legs...I went to restroom, walked around, but just couldnt get a grip!!! My husband didnt have his cell phone, and by the time I found him I was a mess! He wanted to stay and do things in Chatt, but I more or less said, "I'm heading home". AND the drive home was BRUTAL! Why did I do this to myself??? I'm on week six, and I'm so mad at myself. Sorry I'm rambling...but I'm so sad at myself! Any words from yall would be a blessing!
thank you, gina
I had to leave a place today...I feel like such a loser!
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Hi Gina. <span class="ev_code_GREEN">CONGRATULATIONS !!!!!!!!!!</span> You did great. You should be PROUD of yourself for going and staying as long as you could. The more you do it, the easier it gets until one day it will be fun and not a problem anymore.
I had to do this so many times. I would go with my boyfriend to the store and then we both would have to leave when it got too bad.
You did it the way you were supposed to. You felt the "feelings" come on then you started breathing correctly and trying to talk to yourself positively. Start taking a pocket sized journal with you so that you can write down the time, where you was when it happened, and what you were thinking when it happened, and change your negatives when it happens. It helps a lot to pin point the thoughts that "trigger" your panic.
Gina, Don't get discouraged. You are on the right track. You have to take chances in order to overcome this. It feels uncomfortable but it won't hurt you. Go out as much as possible to put your skills to practice.
Take care, DeeDee.
I had to do this so many times. I would go with my boyfriend to the store and then we both would have to leave when it got too bad.
You did it the way you were supposed to. You felt the "feelings" come on then you started breathing correctly and trying to talk to yourself positively. Start taking a pocket sized journal with you so that you can write down the time, where you was when it happened, and what you were thinking when it happened, and change your negatives when it happens. It helps a lot to pin point the thoughts that "trigger" your panic.
Gina, Don't get discouraged. You are on the right track. You have to take chances in order to overcome this. It feels uncomfortable but it won't hurt you. Go out as much as possible to put your skills to practice.
Take care, DeeDee.
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Frasierlooloo You are on your six weeks. Your doing fine. Hang in there, this is a learning expiereance. Each time you try and go and even feel good at first and don't feel so good in the end, you still made progress. This takes time. Be patient with yourself.
I am upset at people who don't have patients with me at work right now when I don't get something right the first time through. We tend to want things to happen right now, right this minute. Don't do that to yourself. I tell people who are unpatient with me to have patience with me. I am training. I am learning. It takes time.
I'm telling you be patient with yourself, it takes time. Each and every time you will get better, trust me on this.
I have to say that Feb.2nd is one year of this program for me and I'm doing 99% better but I still have a bad time now and again. That is why I came back to this sight yesterday and today. This is a wonderfull program. Stick to it and keep learning. Yes you will fall down now and again but every time you get up you have come ferther. You will walk a few steps ferther, then even run at times, oh you will fall down and scrape your knees now and then, but that is life. LIVE.
FEAR= false evedance appearing real. You have come up with some false evedance agenst yourself. If I was a judge I would say Not Gulty.
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I am upset at people who don't have patients with me at work right now when I don't get something right the first time through. We tend to want things to happen right now, right this minute. Don't do that to yourself. I tell people who are unpatient with me to have patience with me. I am training. I am learning. It takes time.
I'm telling you be patient with yourself, it takes time. Each and every time you will get better, trust me on this.
I have to say that Feb.2nd is one year of this program for me and I'm doing 99% better but I still have a bad time now and again. That is why I came back to this sight yesterday and today. This is a wonderfull program. Stick to it and keep learning. Yes you will fall down now and again but every time you get up you have come ferther. You will walk a few steps ferther, then even run at times, oh you will fall down and scrape your knees now and then, but that is life. LIVE.
FEAR= false evedance appearing real. You have come up with some false evedance agenst yourself. If I was a judge I would say Not Gulty.
Glass
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gina,
don't feel bad about it.I kmow you wanted to calm yourself down and you tried you did not run imediately that is okyay.I know why you are upset you wanted to be able to calm yourself down but this takes pratice if you will notice the people that have beat this they say it takes a lot of pratice.
I was doing so good 2 years ago had gained a lot of ground you see I have agrophobia have had it for years,I started to a small town 20 miles away could go 20 miles to a different town this time got about half way the funny feeling would not stop and I finally said turn around to my husband we did and my anxiety was 3 times worse I had a majory set back haven't gotten out of it yet.I am alittle better need to work more hard on it thing is I have never pushed my self.I have had program for 3 years never got all the way thru it I wanted a easy way out there isn't one only hard work.thing is we need to learn to not be afraid of the panic that is the key we learned it we need to unlearn it we must face it and not run.
don't feel bad about it.I kmow you wanted to calm yourself down and you tried you did not run imediately that is okyay.I know why you are upset you wanted to be able to calm yourself down but this takes pratice if you will notice the people that have beat this they say it takes a lot of pratice.
I was doing so good 2 years ago had gained a lot of ground you see I have agrophobia have had it for years,I started to a small town 20 miles away could go 20 miles to a different town this time got about half way the funny feeling would not stop and I finally said turn around to my husband we did and my anxiety was 3 times worse I had a majory set back haven't gotten out of it yet.I am alittle better need to work more hard on it thing is I have never pushed my self.I have had program for 3 years never got all the way thru it I wanted a easy way out there isn't one only hard work.thing is we need to learn to not be afraid of the panic that is the key we learned it we need to unlearn it we must face it and not run.
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thank you guys so much for your responses, they have really lifted me up. you all are wonderful people, and somehow it is a blessing that we can count on each other...people that know how we feel.
one thing that really bothers me is after I have a panic attack when I havent had one in a while, is I have what I call a "panic hangover". It takes me a few days to shake it off, I tend to stay in the "fear of the next one mode"...but I'm gonna re-read your answers and feel better! thanks so much! gina
one thing that really bothers me is after I have a panic attack when I havent had one in a while, is I have what I call a "panic hangover". It takes me a few days to shake it off, I tend to stay in the "fear of the next one mode"...but I'm gonna re-read your answers and feel better! thanks so much! gina
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Hi frasier,
You are far from a loser. You had the guts to even go to the mall, that is great. So you had to leave, give yourself praise for even being there. My mother had that problem years ago, as a child I didn't know what was happening to her, one minute she was there and the next minute she had to run out of the store. She did eventually get passed those horrible feelings. I listened to tape 8 last week, and one of my fears was driving a distance alone, especially not knowing the exact direction of where I was headed. In the tape Lucinda said that by now we should be working on our limitations. The next day my partner asked me to pick up his daughter as he was having a problem. I remembered what Lucinda had to say in tape 8, well I got in the car, not sure of the directions, sang country songs on the way down and I felt so good. I kept saying OK, what's the worst thing that could happen? maybe take a wrong turn? well I knew I would eventually get there and back home. No big deal..It felt so GOOD to accomplish that fear. So get back to the mall and do it again. Congratulations for even going to the mall.
You are far from a loser. You had the guts to even go to the mall, that is great. So you had to leave, give yourself praise for even being there. My mother had that problem years ago, as a child I didn't know what was happening to her, one minute she was there and the next minute she had to run out of the store. She did eventually get passed those horrible feelings. I listened to tape 8 last week, and one of my fears was driving a distance alone, especially not knowing the exact direction of where I was headed. In the tape Lucinda said that by now we should be working on our limitations. The next day my partner asked me to pick up his daughter as he was having a problem. I remembered what Lucinda had to say in tape 8, well I got in the car, not sure of the directions, sang country songs on the way down and I felt so good. I kept saying OK, what's the worst thing that could happen? maybe take a wrong turn? well I knew I would eventually get there and back home. No big deal..It felt so GOOD to accomplish that fear. So get back to the mall and do it again. Congratulations for even going to the mall.
Originally posted by frasierlooloo:
thank you guys so much for your responses, they have really lifted me up. you all are wonderful people, and somehow it is a blessing that we can count on each other...people that know how we feel.
one thing that really bothers me is after I have a panic attack when I havent had one in a while, is I have what I call a "panic hangover". It takes me a few days to shake it off, I tend to stay in the "fear of the next one mode"...but I'm gonna re-read your answers and feel better! thanks so much! gina
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Gina,
For starters my name is Gina too and I know exactly how you feel because it happened to me again yesterday which it happens a lot. We had planned a family bowling day and than we were going to a hockey game at night, well the ride there through me all off. I felt like I was dying on the way there,, shakey sick to my stomach, dizzy ect. I was so upset to think that I was going to do something fun with my family and this is how I have to feel. I am on Klonopin as needed so I took 1/4 of a pill and than ended up taking another 1/4 just so I could feel normal. We went in to a store and I thought I was going to faint or make a fool out of myself. I felt like I was in a differnt zone than anyone else, actually I know I was. I just hope and pray that with this program this will go away for good, I feel sometime like I will not make in life if I have to feel this way. But I want you to know you are not alone I feel like that too, all we can do is push forward and try to heal from this, I am just thankful there are such supportive people here to help.. Well good luck to you I will be curious about how well you are doing...
Gina
For starters my name is Gina too and I know exactly how you feel because it happened to me again yesterday which it happens a lot. We had planned a family bowling day and than we were going to a hockey game at night, well the ride there through me all off. I felt like I was dying on the way there,, shakey sick to my stomach, dizzy ect. I was so upset to think that I was going to do something fun with my family and this is how I have to feel. I am on Klonopin as needed so I took 1/4 of a pill and than ended up taking another 1/4 just so I could feel normal. We went in to a store and I thought I was going to faint or make a fool out of myself. I felt like I was in a differnt zone than anyone else, actually I know I was. I just hope and pray that with this program this will go away for good, I feel sometime like I will not make in life if I have to feel this way. But I want you to know you are not alone I feel like that too, all we can do is push forward and try to heal from this, I am just thankful there are such supportive people here to help.. Well good luck to you I will be curious about how well you are doing...
Gina
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Gene & Gina,
thanks so much for your posts as well...Gene, I'm so glad you had a smooth trip and had fun doing it...and Gina, we WILL beat this thing! we just need to keep working and keep getting out...not staying in. I'm like you though, my problem is I feel faint...and like I could be sick to my stomach. Everyone here is so wonderful and keeps you up. Maybe someone can give a suggestion of what to do to beat the dizzy thing.
gina
thanks so much for your posts as well...Gene, I'm so glad you had a smooth trip and had fun doing it...and Gina, we WILL beat this thing! we just need to keep working and keep getting out...not staying in. I'm like you though, my problem is I feel faint...and like I could be sick to my stomach. Everyone here is so wonderful and keeps you up. Maybe someone can give a suggestion of what to do to beat the dizzy thing.
gina