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giga247 · Post by **giga247** » Thu Oct 15, 2009 10:02 am

if you are all still helping and seeing us struggle through these anxious and panic moments besides the tapes and the self help or should i say coaching can any of you say what was the most or the most memrabile time that you had or did to get over all this pain! maybe im not doing it rite or i dont know can some one help? im coming up on my anniversary for more then one thing marrige and beating death so im over the top!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Oct 15, 2009 11:34 am

the most memerable? I can't say i have any of them because just like the condition creeps up on you, recovery creeps up too.

What is it you expect?
Do you have to feel like you're doing it right in order for that to be true? Anxiety and Depression throw off our emotions and they aren't the best means to evaluate our condition because they part of the reason why we have the condition. The best way to evaluate is to journal and as you go along, go back and check your entries. You may also get compliments from others and that can help too.

Mike

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Oct 15, 2009 11:54 am

Yes, Giga - When you finally realize that you must go through the anxious feelings willingly in order to get over the fear of them.

Persevere. You'll get there....

My very best to you.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Oct 15, 2009 6:50 pm

My most memorable moment was when I realized that positive sef-talk worked. I struggled with this lesson in the program for so long. No matter what I said that was postive I DID NOT believe it. I went from over exaggerating the positives to under exaggerating them and back again, I just could not find a happy medium. I finally gave up on those routes, and when I would get anxious or panicky I would just close my eyes and say simple things like..I won't faint, it's just anxiety, I can breath just fine, I am not going to die. These were simple truths and after a month or so of just repeating these same things over and over, one day I noticed that it worked, I wasn't as scared and calmed down alot faster than in the past. After that I had more confidence in myself and the program.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Oct 15, 2009 10:59 pm

Ah Deener that is a very good point you bring up. I believe it was Ken on the lesson 3 cd that said he would close his eyes and say thoughts, only thoughts and that worked for him. I did start to say similar things to you (I'm not going to faint, go crazy or die this is just anxiety. It can't hurt me and i'll be fine). I think I'll go back to that. Thank you for bringing this up.

Mike

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Oct 17, 2009 5:17 am

I think my most memorable was when I stopped fighting all of it, accepted what was happening, and stopped being afraid of it all the time. Some of my thoughts were "Well I've been through worse and I'm still here", "All those scary things I scared myself with never happened",etc. Losing the fear of it is what helped me the most.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Oct 17, 2009 3:33 pm

Hello I am new to the Site, but not knew to the program, Been through It twice and have made some decent progress. Amazing to find out so much of this anxiety was caused by my own thoughts and how I reacted to external stressors. What a wake up call. Right now though I have a devestaing situation that is going to require me to bunker dolwn and practice every ne skill I have at least tried to incorporate into my new thought patterns. I had to ask my husband to leave our house after 27 years of marriage. Is anyone out there familiar with or been married too someone with a passive aggresive personality disorder. He has so tied me up with confusion about some money and Web sites he has been on, and he is trying to pass it off lightly as that I am overreacting and I have been wanting to pin something on him all these years. Help! Not! I never asked for this, or wanted this. He was willing to leave, and had a place to go to his sisters. Wow! Whoever would like please pray for me. I have a beloved son of 16 at home still. My daughters have moved out one for college, and one married. Thank you to anyone who might help talk to me right now. Sincerely, Deb Sue