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I've spent some time pondering about motivation. Alot of us know what we need to do in order to get better, to over come an obstical, and to achieve our goals, but why is there so much resistance?

Let me ask you a question, how many times have you got inspired to do something and had so much energy and a kind of "Spark" and you were really happy about what that thing was going to give you as an outcome? One really good example that comes to mind is first finding this program and feeling as though you just can't wait for the time when you can just feel sooo AMAZING and ON TOP OF THE WORLD AGAIN!!! Or You join the gym for the first time and you have a clear and very powerful image of how much better your life will become, how great you'll feel about the nice sculpted body you'll create for yourself and how you'll get so much more attention and so many more compliments and wow you'll have people lining up just to have the chance to be recognized by you.

Now after a short while (a few hours, a couple of days, possibly a few weeks or maybe even a few months), you lose your motivation, you lose that spark, all the efforts you put towards this goal just feel overwhelming, you feel as if you're getting nowhere and eventually you quit going after that goal. Does this sound familiar to anyone? How many of you can relate to this?

So what is it that we loose in the process? We were soooo motivated and driven and then it just vanishes? The spark, that passion and inspiration just vanishes. Why?

Well, I've had a wonderful opportunity to learn more about this and to see the reason not just in my own experience but with other people as well and I want to share this with you guys. What it is that we've lost is the Why. In the beginning we are soooo focused on the purpose of what it is we are planning to do, we have a powerful image of how it's going to benefit us, how that will improve our lives, how it'll make us feel when we achieve it, and we may have gotten very certain of the results from seeing others achieve them and this is what we want! The problem that keeps coming up is that as we ACT towards our GOALS, we start FOCUSING less and less on what IT WILL GIVE US and we start FOCUSING more and more on what it is we NEED TO DO.

Which do you believe will make you feel more motivated, the goal and the positive benefits or, the to do list? If you've fallen into this trap before, that's alright. You are only human and it is only reasonable to become disempowered and overwhelmed when you focus on what you need to do. If you focused 80% of your attention on the things you needed to do with some of your hobbies, do you think you'd be motivated or overwheling?

So the key to breaking this is find a variety (as many ways as possible) of diffrent ways to keep the goal in mind and switch them up. Draw pictures of the outcome, spend some time reading up about diffrent people and how they achieve the results you're looking for, write about it, visualize it while you are in a nice relaxing setting (like a sauna), tell other people about what it is you want to achieve, make colages, write short stories, make a skit on video, make an audio skit, pin up pictures of people who have already achieved the goal. If you start to feel bored with a particular method then it is obviously time to switch to another one.

We all have unlimited potential, used correctly we can achieve anything.


I hope this helps you guys and I would really like to hear from you guys.


Mike

Hi Ninja Mike,

You hit on something. Don't lose your why. I lose my why every time I think of having to listen to Lucinda's sqweaky motor mouth, and go through the work book, but I do it anyway because of just what you said. It takes hard work to go through this program, we need to stay focused on our why and the benefits.

That was great Mike. Thanks for that. I can't change her voice, I just have to do it for me, my why and the benefits. Keep the focus on the why. I will drill this mantra as I suffer through all that noise I find so annoying.

Even if I don't like her voice or her constant chatter, I think she put this program together very brilliantly.

Wow, you really don't like her voice eh? If it helps, you could also focus on the gratitude of the program or just take some time to feel all the things you appreciate in your life and are happy they are there...Like Foreigner...and then listen to the lesson cd or relaxation cd.


Mike

Hi Mike,

Yeah! It's like someone scratching a blackboard to me. When I listen, I have to shunt out my personal dislikes about it and focus on the benefits.

I am grateful for the program and I credit her for the genius of how it is put together, but that chatter, please. To put it mildly, it annoys me.

The Relaxation CD, any body need a new one? I don't use it. I listen to other relaxation music. I could do without the talking, or the stuff at the end of the tape that only makes me frustrated and just stirs up frustration of what I can not do anymore and just creates stress for me. It may work for others, but I can do with out it.

I am not trying to be negative, or trying to be funny. I am giving you my true feelings about this. In fact, I hated this tape so bad that it prompted me to call and tell them to take this junk back, but I ultimately decided that I give it another try and here I am. Still going with out the tape. Still tolerating that squealing chatter box, still managing to relax without the relaxation CD, and still getting better each day.

Of course, I have gratitude for the program, that doesn't mean everything is to my liking, it doesn't have to be. I just have to do it. I really get more help out of the work book than most anything else.

I bet there are other people that may feel the same way, they just wont verbalize it or post here. That's okay, so hate me for expressing my honest personal observations. hating me wont change her chatter or my feelings about it. It is what it is, so I will just deal with it and move on. No problem.

hey, Mike, I missed your posts over the last week, and I am glad that you are back being provocative. I have to go now. I am very tired and need to go rest and relax.

thanks mike i think your words will help me not to lose my motivation easily

I think you're absolutely right. Motivation is a hard thing to keep. You half to shake things up a little to keep interest, look at it in different ways.

Motivation is a hard thing to keep but u just have to keep ur eye on the prize. I just started this program and I too agree the relaxation cd is cheesy (only the end part) but I will listen to it anyway because it's helped so many people and I know I need to open my mind and stop being so negative and judgemental.

Gman

I'm sorry you feel the way you do about Lucinda's voice. It makes it harder to focus on the information no?


Mike

Hi Mike,

I just got to see these last few post. I have learned to block out what bothers me about it and just forge ahead.

I think the program it self is great. I get the most out of the work book, and just reason that I don't have to like everything about everything, and take what I feel is the best of the best.

As for being judgmental, we all have to make value judgments on everything. It is not a matter of being closed minded about it, or maybe it is, and I am just not ready for the message or how it is delivered at that moment. If things have things of some value, I don't just dump the baby out with the baby water. I think I just have to balance the good and bad until I am ready.

I know that somethings I have said sound negative, and maybe they are, but believe or not, with help from the program, I am working on it. I guess it is that I have been a maverick and a pioneer on things other people remain tight lipped or fearful about, and I am not fearful of what some may think.

Remember, they are just thoughts and they can't hurt me; especially if they are someone else's thoughts.

For those of you who may feel that was too aggressive in my response, I remember the hue and cry from the farmers when Bush I expressed his dislike for broccoli, it is the same thing. He didn't like broccoli and was lampooned for it by SNL. I still remember Dana Cravey singing the song: I don't like broccoli. I don't like what I don't like, is that okay with the rest of the Amen choir?

Can you appreciate the constant battle that rages within me? Mike, thanks for setting a place on this forum where I can try to air out these conflicted feeling that I struggle with everyday. Maybe that's what I'll do whenever I hit a subject or topic I don't like, I'll just say, I don't like broccoli

We'll try this again.

Mike: Gman so you really don't like her voice?

Gman: I don't like BROCCOLI

How was that?

That's cute...the brocolli thing.

It could be something completely diffrent even and it is just manifesting itself as irritation. Who knows.

I can tell you though that every emotion has a message. From a diffrent source, this person has come up with 10 diffrent categories (to simplify things). Each category has it's own message.

Uncomfortable (bordem, Impatient, distresed)
->This signifies that maybe you need to get clear on what it is you want.

Fear (terror, concerned, freightened)
->This tells us that we need to prepare.

Hurt (Sense of loss)
->An expectation is not met.

Anger (Resentment, rage)
->Someone has violated our rules.

Frustration (feeling held back)
->Your approach isn't working, you might wanna think about changing it.

Dissapointment
->Your expectation isn't going to happen until you change it and make it more appropriate for the situation at hand.

Sad (Guilt, Regret)
->You've violated one of your own rules and this feeling makes sure you don't violate it again.

Inadequate (less than, unworthy)
->You need to do something to improve

Overload (overwhelm, depressed, hopeless)
->You're expecting too much in too short of time. You're expecting everything to be perfect over night.

Lonely (apart from or separate from)
->We need a certain connection with someone.

What this person suggests is to figure out which category your feeling most fits into and then go from there.

You could also try asking yourself

what it is that you have to believe in order to feel that way?

As well as;

What do I need to focus on to turn this around?



I hope this helps.

Mike