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For over a decade I have felt alone, confused, depressed and anxious about everything. Always over analyzing what if's? and preparing for the worse. Apparently I am good at concealing it at this point because everyone thinks that I have it all together. I recently reunited with a person with whom I am trying to have a relationship; however the person that they know outside of the relationship is not the same person they know in the relationship (if that makes any sense). In a relationship, I let people closer to me and my inner being. I did not realize how much of a burder I am emotionally and now I tend to get angry at him very quickly and he doesn't understand what I am going through. I can't explain it to him cause 1. I barely understand it myself and 2. his personality is such that he feels that I should be able to snap out of it whenever I want to and that it is all self-induced (which it may be, but I can't).

I am an introvert and he is very much an extrovert, so we have different way of thinking about almost everything. I love him with everything I am; in fact, I often take more stock in him and his happiness than my own, and I want things to work; but I don't know what to do. I continue to feel helpless and alone and I often attack him for just being who he is naturally.

I have just bought the program but I have not been able to take the time to implement it; as I concern myself with everyone elses issues to avoid my own.

I guess I just need to know if anyone has any suggestions on how I can get him to understand what I am going through and to let him know that I am trying to be a better person for both of us before he leaves; which will crush my heart (I have invested 14 years; into loving him).

Hi Sunshine and Welcome,

BTW, lots of people get into relationships under false pretenses. When it comes to these things, as you now well know, honesty is the best policy. Deception is a definite no-no that only leads to trouble later, as you can well testify to.

Nevertheless, I would like for you to follow this thread.

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I have just bought the program but I have not been able to take the time to implement it; as I concern myself with everyone elses issues to avoid my own.

Remember that these are just thoughts. They are your thoughts. You can control these thoughts and these thoughts can not hurt you.

You can change those thoughts or at least distract yourself from having the thoughts, through, breathing exercises, relaxation, distraction, diet and exercise.

You can stop your projecting and what if thinking and live in the moment. What is past is water over the damn and what's in the future is yet to be, so what you have is Now. Live the now and the moment.

If you focus your attention to Now, what is yet to be is to be dealt with when that moment arrives. It seems simple yet hard to do, but you can do it.

I hope some other young ladies will chime in. I am just a dumb guy. Don't know much, but I can pray for you.

God Bless and Hugs,

Gman5256

Thank you for your feedback. and BTW you're not a dumb guy...I appreciate your words, thoughts and prayers. I am going to try to focus on me and let everything else fall where it may. Just hope that it will be there at the end of my journey and if it is not, then I may have something bigger and better waiting ahead of me.

Hi Sunshine,

I thought reading that thread would have been better than anything I could have said here.

I apologize, if I was not as thorough with your situation. I am exhausted and my b/p is through the roof right now. I have to stay away from this community at least for the rest of the night. I hope you understand.

I am sure someone else will soon chime in.

TC, and Hugs

Gman5256