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I have just realized that my husband is my safe person. Any time I go or do anything without him my anxiety goes crazy but when I am with him I can drive, go places, I feel normal etc. I feel comfortable around him because he has had anxiety and knows the symptoms so I can turn to him when I am experiencing anxiety. This is bad because our relationship is not doing so good so just wondering if anyone can give some advice on how to get over this?

Yes, yes, yes...I had that so bad for about a year before I found this program...I didn't know what it was until of course I found this program...then once I knew at least I knew how to deal with it a little better.
now it just hits me now and then (like today). My husband just left for work and I feel terrible. I know if he came back right now I would feel better! That has been one of my worst symptoms thru this. He is in the type of work where he comes and goes all day, so that makes it better..I know he will not be gone for hours.
I feel a little dizzy today so that makes me worry, which makes for more anxiety...it just loops around it you let it.
I just kept listening to the cd's like I am right now...then all of a sudden the feeling of anxiety is gone. Hope you are feeling better today.

My husband used to be my "safe" person before I started the program. After going through the program I am now my "safe" person. I am the one who controls my anxiety level. My husband tells me that when he was my safe person he worried about how I was when he was at work and did not like the pressure of the title "safe" person.

You will get to a point when you realize you are your own safe person. Your positive self-talk and positive soothing comments will eventually take over and comfort you in place of your husband's presence making you feel more comfortable. My relationship with my husband is much better now that the pressure of being my safe person is off him and my last anxiety/panic attack was July 4th.

Good luck to you. You will get to the point in your life where you are your own safe person.

LisaLisa

Reading all 3 of what you all wrote made me realize how I use people to make me feel safe. I've always labeled it as being insecure but now I feel like it was more.
LisaLisa, Thanks for the encouragement your message gave me.