Stress Center Peer Support

I'm so hurt I just found out that people here at work are laughing at my situation. Why???? I'm not sure who they are but It breaks me that people laugh at other people's pain. Gawd I never asked for that I was just looking for comfort. Please give some advise.

I'm not quite understanding what your situation is. Is it the anx/depression? Are you really sure they're laughing? Anyhow, remember in the program...you are your own safe place. Explain more what's going on so we can better help.

I told about my personal life..about why I'm suffering...I left my ex of 9 years and he went and found someone after 2 weeks and then i went in to straight anxiety/dep. we lived togehter and invested on allot of things in which i had to leave behind.And I've been suffering since. Now i heard that they are laughing at me.

<span class="ev_code_RED">Dear SHALINI......I read your profile, because you did NOT state what your situation was.</span><span class="ev_code_GREEN">However, NO MATTER WHAT ONE'S PROBLEM.....OTHERS ABSOLUTELY DO NOT HAVE THE RIGHT TO "MAKE FUN" of, OR TAKE LIGHTLY OTHERS' PAIN!!!</span>
IF others are TRULY NOT being compassionate toward you and your situation, just remember.......ALL PEOPLE HAVE PROBLEMS (as I've THANKFULLY learned through this program AND some counseling too......IT IS ONLY THE COURAGEOUS ONES LIKE YOU.....I REPEAT....LIKE YOU SHALINI, who are willing to FACE their problems and seek HELP and to REACH OUT to others for help. If ones you reach out to cannot find compassion for your situation then perhaps it is because THEY are the one to PITY!! YOU are willing to put yourself "out there". THAT takes COURAGE (which those who you work with OBVIOUSLY LACK.) TAKE CARE of YOURself, SHALINI!!! ALWAYS remember that THIS WEBSITE is FILLED with people like YOU who ARE willing to SHARE their pain, and NOT JUDGE you. So WELCOME "HOME" !!! (I PERSONALLY can tell you, if NOT for this site and some counseling, I WOULD NOT be here!!) You ARE among FRIENDS !!!!

Thank you so much " looking for me" The hardest thing I'm going through is believing in myself and the fear of the unknown. My fear is am I goin to be alone. Am I gong to find true love and have that deep connection with someone.

Shalini,
You have so much courage to step out on your own and leave a bad relationship. Your strength is much greater than you give yourself credit for.
We all face the unknown. No one knows what tomorrow will bring. Focus on today and love yourself for all you have accomplished. Deal with each day as it arrives.
When the time is right and you are ready, you WILL meet someone who will connect with you and ruly love you for who you are. I speak from personal experience and seeing it happen to others.
Be proud and keep your chin up! You are a very special person!

Laugh at them(to yourself) because I'd feel sorry for anyone who is like that. Be glad youre a good person and they are probably insecure and have their on issues which makes them feel the need to make fun. Im so sorry. I would be so upset BUT be glad youre not like them. I feel sorry for those people.

Good grief, those people are ignorant. Unfortunately, there are always going to be people like that. You aren't in that ditch, they are. You are climbing away from things that don't work in your life, and you are climbing away from them. Maybe they are jealous?

I am so glad that you are sharing with us, this is something we all experience at one time or another, I have had my share of toxic people who want to criticize everything they can. you sound like a very courageous person, who really cares. Some folks just don't have anything to talk about if you can surround yourself with positive people, whoever told you people are laughing wasn't doing you a favor, we all go through hard times and those who can't admit that are not real human beings. I would try not to dwell on that negative stuff, remind yourself about your good traits, you got out of a bad situation that wasn't in your best interest and that took courage, you are trying hard and I commend you for that. Gossip can be very destructive for all involved. We are good people who have a issue with anxiety, but still good people who care alot and are working to get better. I feel for you, keep your chin up, you are making a difference in your life and probably they are jealous.

Hi shalini:
Oh I am sorry to hear that you are feeling so much grief still. I understand.
It is painful to give up a life we lived for 9 years, even if it was a bad life.
Your X was not good for you - and he won't be good for this new "one" that he has either.

But you are going to have a new, better life!

When we are in a lot of pain it is so easy to believe that others are laughing. Especially when it is kind of a "pride " type pain.
I know. I've been there.
We are all here for you!!!
You are going to be okay. Just hold on!!!

You left a life of pain. It wouldn't have gotten any better. And it won't be better for those you left behind.
But it can be better for you! You are going to be well.
And there will be someone really nice for you WHEN YOU ARE READY. So be real patient with yourself.
Be really kind to yourself.
And don't give too much thought about what others are thinking. You have plenty of friends here.
Just hang on!!!
MaryJane