The Challenge...Lesson 12
Posted: Tue Feb 01, 2011 2:32 am
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qSB-5Nnw9rU
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Yay lesson 12, this is a very good lesson and I really hope everybody uses the action assignments, listens to the cd and reads the information in the workbook, it is very very useful!
On top of this there are several topics I want to talk about in this lesson or ask questions about rather which I feel would be very beneficial for anybody who is working on this program. These will be the following;
Doubt/Disempowering behavior, Judgement, Worth and Using the skills. I don't want to overload everybody so I'll do one of these a day.
This lesson usually helps give me the courage to face my limitations and not care so much about the symptoms. For me its main message is just get out there and do it, you have what you need already.
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So for the first topic which is doubt/disempowering behavior I'm going to write down the pain-pleasure for this one and then I will give you the questions in order for you to follow along. I do recommend using these 4 things on a daily basis or at least the ones you are having problems with. Write down all the following questions and go through them on a daily basis and experience the pain and experience the pleasure.
How does Discouraging and Disempowering myself affect my life?
Telling myself I can't, I'm not confident enough, I'm too anxious, i'm too tired, it's too draining, I don't have what it takes or any other discouraging and disempowering thought makes me constantly worry, feel discouraged, feel worthless inferior and hopeless. It makes me associate pain constantly to what I'm doing and it takes me from feeling good to feeling like crap. When I am planning to do things it creates mental videos in which I am constantly failing and things turn out worse then they normally would and so I can't enjoy what I do because of the anticipatory anxiety, I also reduce the access to the resources I need to do well. It causes me to become easily overwhelmed and floods me with scary or anger producing obsessive thoughts which I can't seem to shake. It drains the energy I need for the task and for the rest of the day, it makes me have a less desireable outcome. It makes me get colds more often, it keeps me from appreciating what I do have and what I have accomplished. It has made it so I almost had to live on the street several time, it has made me feel constantly discouraged and associate pain to activities that were actually helping me out and so I stopped. It kept me from enjoying things the best I can and robbed me of my joy if I couldn't seem to get 1 specific thing right in what I was doing. It has kept me from trying things and not trusting myself and lead to a life of mental/emotional imprisonment.
1)How does discouraging/disempowering myself affect my health?
It make me feel stressed all the time which makes me more susceptible to illness and in the past it has caused me to get sick on a bi-weekly basis, it has caused severe anxiety and overwhelm at my last job to the point of drinking, it lead to being too tired to have a life, I constantly dreaded work, I got fired from my last job, I had to quit the shiatsu because of the suicidal thoughts caused by my discouraging and disempowering thoughts and made me feel worthless, ashamed, guilty, depressed and hopeless.
2)How does discouraging/disempowering myself affect me long term?
It will lead to a darker future as it makes everything much much harder to do and alot more stressful and overwhelming. If it continues I could develop a serious health problem in which my dreams or even taking care of myself could become impossible and it'll keep me sabbotaging my efforts with any skill, hobby, or activity and so I'll continue to make efforts on self-help, stop, feel like even more of a failure then make more efforts, stop and do it again and i'll let life pass me by and i'll be miserable.
3)How does it affect me cognitively to discourage and disempower myself?
It shuts down the resources of my mind which makes it harder to come up with answers, harder to figure out solutions, harder to recall information stored in my memory, harder to focus on what I'm doing and what's being said or whats happening around me, I make more mistakes, I'm more vulnerable to attack, my mind becomes very cloudy and I can't get ahold of my thoughts.
4)How does discouraging and disempowering myself affect my relationships and my ability to feel love?
It makes me focus on what I don't have, all my failures and it feeds insecurities and my sense of worthlessness. It takes away my potential to feel love and replaces it with hopelessness and misery and then I don't have energy to put towards my relationships and so I avoid people and they drift away.
5)How does it affect my goals and becoming who I want to be if I discourage and disempower myself?
It goes against every goal I have for myself. It keeps me from feeling good about what I do, it keeps me feeling miserable instead of feeling good. It sabotages my efforts and keeps me feeling down and keeps me feeling depressed and controlled by my emotions and anxiety. It stops me from ever achieving my dreams, it makes me doubt my skills so I'm more vulnerable to harsh criticisms and judgements, it will keep me from being who I want to be, what I want to feel and what I want to accomplish.
6)How does it affect my confidence, courageousness and determination?
It suffocates them as the doubt takes away from my self-esteem creating lasting feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness and this constantly happens if I constantly say these things to myself and so I become too afraid to even try.
7)How does it affect my cheerfulness?
It steals my ability to feel cheerful away from me as it makes me dwell on my lacking and short comings and thus I don't feel good and instead I feel down even if its a fun thing i'm doing.
8)How does it affect my ability to contribute and make a diffrence if i'm discouraging and disempowering myself?
It makes me selfish and saps my mental and physical resources and so I have to take more time to replenish them and take care of myself and so I have no energy for anybody or anything else.
9)How will it affect my success if i'm discouraging and disempowering myself?
It will severely hinder and limit success and even if i'm successful or even partially successful I won't get to feel it. I'll be alot more prone to creating failure and to feeling faiulre and disappointment.
10)What will my life be like in 5 years if I continue to discourage and disempower myself to the degree I am now?
I'll still be distracting myself from life, I'll have given up the opportunities for romantic relationships as I would feel too worthless and undeserving. I'd let most friends drift away and have given up on many fun and exciting things as I would have associated alot of pain. I'd continue to jump from 1 job to another and I'd constantly feel lethargic and miserable.
11)How would my life be like 10 years from now if I continued with the same discouraging and disempowering thoughts?
I'd get a very serious illness and not be able to work or take care of myself. I'd have no friends, my future would be bleak and I would have to give up my dreams and the idea of positive feelings and a relationship.
12)20 years from now what would my life be life if I continued to carry the same discouraging and disempowering behavior?
I'd be dead and people would've forgotten me a very long time ago.
13)How has it affected me in my life already to be discouraging and disempowering to myself?
I had to give up shiatsu, I got fired from my last job, I pushed people away, I sabottaged many self-help things I was doing, I almost ended up on the street in facet was considering living outside in a tent. I wa lethargic and struggled to get through most days for 15 years, it took the fun out of sex, it kept me from feeling refreshed from sleep, it heavily reduced my experiences with the relaxation cd, it has made me link alot of pain to the things I need to do in order to make my life work out and so I was constantly stressed out. It has made easy tasks very difficult and overwhelming, it took away my ability to feel positive feelings.
New Habit;
Encourage myself in everything I do. Tell myself that everything I need to make it work is inside of me, tell myself there is always a way and if I'm committed then I'll make it happen, tell myself if I learn from a situation then I succeeded and if I don't get it the way I want to this time I will eventually get it because I always have the ability to grow and improve. I will also focus on my goals and the outcome I desire and give myself positive reinforcement and rewards for what I have done right.
You can use the same questions for this too. I skipped out on the past and future for this one however
1)How will encouraging myself affect my health?
It will increase my mental health as it'll increase my self-esteem and my confidence in my skills and abilities and increase the potential to feel good which give me more energy and helps my immune system function better. It gives me more endurance and I can tolerate stress much much better and my self-esteem becomes even more effective, my relaxation and sleep become more effective.
2)How will encouraging myself affect me long term?
It will give me what I need in order to take action and in order to want to take action and improve my life and make the future better not only for myself but for others as well.
3)How will encouraging myself affect me cognitively?
It helps me remember more, recall things, it helps me access more resources of my brain to help with any task as well as give me the motivation and energy to do things that'll increase my knowledge through reading and personal experience and it'll help me observe more and make clearer and better decisions and come up with better quality answers.
4)How will encouraging myself affect my relationships and ability to feel love?
It will increase the depth of my positive feelings and give me the energy and positivity to put towards all my relationships and it helps me more with advice. I look more attractive to the people I want to attract into my life and it helps me to deal with conflict and helps me let things go and helps me avoid being taken advantage of.
5)How will it affect my goals and my ability to become who I want to be?
It'll help with every goal I will ever have. It'll help me come up with answers quicker and better quality answers. It'll give me what I need to solve problems and handle obsticals, it'll support me in my health and stamina and give me emotional power and energy. It'll help me become who I want to be and will keep me motived so I'll achieve my goals and dreams.
6)How will encouraging myself affect my courageousness and confidence?
It will create more hope, I'll trust in my skills and abilities. I'll feel better for what I do so it'll increase my self-esteem which will create more confidence and courageousness.
7)How will it affect my cheerfulness?
It'll make taskts I haven't enjoyed in the past, very enjoyable as well as the ones I do enjoy. It'll associate joy and pleasure to many tasks even ones that others would fine painful. It could even potentially make conflict and criticism from others pleasureabel to deal with.
8)How does it affect my ability to contribute and make a diffrence?
It gives me alot more energy, motivationa nd resources of my mind in order to give my best and enjoy it while I'm doing it. It also reduces stress so I can handle alot more and come up with better ideas and solutions and I can also get things done quicker and I can remember better.
9)How will encouraging myself affect my successes?
It'll create alot of successful actions, motivation to do things and the rewards of feeling success. It isn't guaranteed that I would always be successful and get the outcome I want but it would make me more likely to get it or another satisfying outcome.
This will also help increase the effectiveness of relaxation, guided meditation, meditation, chanting and sleep. It'll make my sexual experience alot more satisfying, I'll give out better energy which will attract better healing with my shiatsu treatments and I'll be able to be very successful in that line of work. I'll be more inspiring to others as well. It'll make my workout experience alot more satisfying and I'd get everything done that I needed to get done.
Mike
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qSB-5Nnw9rU
Be weave hair salon
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Yay lesson 12, this is a very good lesson and I really hope everybody uses the action assignments, listens to the cd and reads the information in the workbook, it is very very useful!
On top of this there are several topics I want to talk about in this lesson or ask questions about rather which I feel would be very beneficial for anybody who is working on this program. These will be the following;
Doubt/Disempowering behavior, Judgement, Worth and Using the skills. I don't want to overload everybody so I'll do one of these a day.
This lesson usually helps give me the courage to face my limitations and not care so much about the symptoms. For me its main message is just get out there and do it, you have what you need already.
---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
So for the first topic which is doubt/disempowering behavior I'm going to write down the pain-pleasure for this one and then I will give you the questions in order for you to follow along. I do recommend using these 4 things on a daily basis or at least the ones you are having problems with. Write down all the following questions and go through them on a daily basis and experience the pain and experience the pleasure.
How does Discouraging and Disempowering myself affect my life?
Telling myself I can't, I'm not confident enough, I'm too anxious, i'm too tired, it's too draining, I don't have what it takes or any other discouraging and disempowering thought makes me constantly worry, feel discouraged, feel worthless inferior and hopeless. It makes me associate pain constantly to what I'm doing and it takes me from feeling good to feeling like crap. When I am planning to do things it creates mental videos in which I am constantly failing and things turn out worse then they normally would and so I can't enjoy what I do because of the anticipatory anxiety, I also reduce the access to the resources I need to do well. It causes me to become easily overwhelmed and floods me with scary or anger producing obsessive thoughts which I can't seem to shake. It drains the energy I need for the task and for the rest of the day, it makes me have a less desireable outcome. It makes me get colds more often, it keeps me from appreciating what I do have and what I have accomplished. It has made it so I almost had to live on the street several time, it has made me feel constantly discouraged and associate pain to activities that were actually helping me out and so I stopped. It kept me from enjoying things the best I can and robbed me of my joy if I couldn't seem to get 1 specific thing right in what I was doing. It has kept me from trying things and not trusting myself and lead to a life of mental/emotional imprisonment.
1)How does discouraging/disempowering myself affect my health?
It make me feel stressed all the time which makes me more susceptible to illness and in the past it has caused me to get sick on a bi-weekly basis, it has caused severe anxiety and overwhelm at my last job to the point of drinking, it lead to being too tired to have a life, I constantly dreaded work, I got fired from my last job, I had to quit the shiatsu because of the suicidal thoughts caused by my discouraging and disempowering thoughts and made me feel worthless, ashamed, guilty, depressed and hopeless.
2)How does discouraging/disempowering myself affect me long term?
It will lead to a darker future as it makes everything much much harder to do and alot more stressful and overwhelming. If it continues I could develop a serious health problem in which my dreams or even taking care of myself could become impossible and it'll keep me sabbotaging my efforts with any skill, hobby, or activity and so I'll continue to make efforts on self-help, stop, feel like even more of a failure then make more efforts, stop and do it again and i'll let life pass me by and i'll be miserable.
3)How does it affect me cognitively to discourage and disempower myself?
It shuts down the resources of my mind which makes it harder to come up with answers, harder to figure out solutions, harder to recall information stored in my memory, harder to focus on what I'm doing and what's being said or whats happening around me, I make more mistakes, I'm more vulnerable to attack, my mind becomes very cloudy and I can't get ahold of my thoughts.
4)How does discouraging and disempowering myself affect my relationships and my ability to feel love?
It makes me focus on what I don't have, all my failures and it feeds insecurities and my sense of worthlessness. It takes away my potential to feel love and replaces it with hopelessness and misery and then I don't have energy to put towards my relationships and so I avoid people and they drift away.
5)How does it affect my goals and becoming who I want to be if I discourage and disempower myself?
It goes against every goal I have for myself. It keeps me from feeling good about what I do, it keeps me feeling miserable instead of feeling good. It sabotages my efforts and keeps me feeling down and keeps me feeling depressed and controlled by my emotions and anxiety. It stops me from ever achieving my dreams, it makes me doubt my skills so I'm more vulnerable to harsh criticisms and judgements, it will keep me from being who I want to be, what I want to feel and what I want to accomplish.
6)How does it affect my confidence, courageousness and determination?
It suffocates them as the doubt takes away from my self-esteem creating lasting feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness and this constantly happens if I constantly say these things to myself and so I become too afraid to even try.
7)How does it affect my cheerfulness?
It steals my ability to feel cheerful away from me as it makes me dwell on my lacking and short comings and thus I don't feel good and instead I feel down even if its a fun thing i'm doing.
8)How does it affect my ability to contribute and make a diffrence if i'm discouraging and disempowering myself?
It makes me selfish and saps my mental and physical resources and so I have to take more time to replenish them and take care of myself and so I have no energy for anybody or anything else.
9)How will it affect my success if i'm discouraging and disempowering myself?
It will severely hinder and limit success and even if i'm successful or even partially successful I won't get to feel it. I'll be alot more prone to creating failure and to feeling faiulre and disappointment.
10)What will my life be like in 5 years if I continue to discourage and disempower myself to the degree I am now?
I'll still be distracting myself from life, I'll have given up the opportunities for romantic relationships as I would feel too worthless and undeserving. I'd let most friends drift away and have given up on many fun and exciting things as I would have associated alot of pain. I'd continue to jump from 1 job to another and I'd constantly feel lethargic and miserable.
11)How would my life be like 10 years from now if I continued with the same discouraging and disempowering thoughts?
I'd get a very serious illness and not be able to work or take care of myself. I'd have no friends, my future would be bleak and I would have to give up my dreams and the idea of positive feelings and a relationship.
12)20 years from now what would my life be life if I continued to carry the same discouraging and disempowering behavior?
I'd be dead and people would've forgotten me a very long time ago.
13)How has it affected me in my life already to be discouraging and disempowering to myself?
I had to give up shiatsu, I got fired from my last job, I pushed people away, I sabottaged many self-help things I was doing, I almost ended up on the street in facet was considering living outside in a tent. I wa lethargic and struggled to get through most days for 15 years, it took the fun out of sex, it kept me from feeling refreshed from sleep, it heavily reduced my experiences with the relaxation cd, it has made me link alot of pain to the things I need to do in order to make my life work out and so I was constantly stressed out. It has made easy tasks very difficult and overwhelming, it took away my ability to feel positive feelings.
New Habit;
Encourage myself in everything I do. Tell myself that everything I need to make it work is inside of me, tell myself there is always a way and if I'm committed then I'll make it happen, tell myself if I learn from a situation then I succeeded and if I don't get it the way I want to this time I will eventually get it because I always have the ability to grow and improve. I will also focus on my goals and the outcome I desire and give myself positive reinforcement and rewards for what I have done right.
You can use the same questions for this too. I skipped out on the past and future for this one however
1)How will encouraging myself affect my health?
It will increase my mental health as it'll increase my self-esteem and my confidence in my skills and abilities and increase the potential to feel good which give me more energy and helps my immune system function better. It gives me more endurance and I can tolerate stress much much better and my self-esteem becomes even more effective, my relaxation and sleep become more effective.
2)How will encouraging myself affect me long term?
It will give me what I need in order to take action and in order to want to take action and improve my life and make the future better not only for myself but for others as well.
3)How will encouraging myself affect me cognitively?
It helps me remember more, recall things, it helps me access more resources of my brain to help with any task as well as give me the motivation and energy to do things that'll increase my knowledge through reading and personal experience and it'll help me observe more and make clearer and better decisions and come up with better quality answers.
4)How will encouraging myself affect my relationships and ability to feel love?
It will increase the depth of my positive feelings and give me the energy and positivity to put towards all my relationships and it helps me more with advice. I look more attractive to the people I want to attract into my life and it helps me to deal with conflict and helps me let things go and helps me avoid being taken advantage of.
5)How will it affect my goals and my ability to become who I want to be?
It'll help with every goal I will ever have. It'll help me come up with answers quicker and better quality answers. It'll give me what I need to solve problems and handle obsticals, it'll support me in my health and stamina and give me emotional power and energy. It'll help me become who I want to be and will keep me motived so I'll achieve my goals and dreams.
6)How will encouraging myself affect my courageousness and confidence?
It will create more hope, I'll trust in my skills and abilities. I'll feel better for what I do so it'll increase my self-esteem which will create more confidence and courageousness.
7)How will it affect my cheerfulness?
It'll make taskts I haven't enjoyed in the past, very enjoyable as well as the ones I do enjoy. It'll associate joy and pleasure to many tasks even ones that others would fine painful. It could even potentially make conflict and criticism from others pleasureabel to deal with.
8)How does it affect my ability to contribute and make a diffrence?
It gives me alot more energy, motivationa nd resources of my mind in order to give my best and enjoy it while I'm doing it. It also reduces stress so I can handle alot more and come up with better ideas and solutions and I can also get things done quicker and I can remember better.
9)How will encouraging myself affect my successes?
It'll create alot of successful actions, motivation to do things and the rewards of feeling success. It isn't guaranteed that I would always be successful and get the outcome I want but it would make me more likely to get it or another satisfying outcome.
This will also help increase the effectiveness of relaxation, guided meditation, meditation, chanting and sleep. It'll make my sexual experience alot more satisfying, I'll give out better energy which will attract better healing with my shiatsu treatments and I'll be able to be very successful in that line of work. I'll be more inspiring to others as well. It'll make my workout experience alot more satisfying and I'd get everything done that I needed to get done.
Mike