Posted: Fri Jan 11, 2008 6:46 pm
Hello everyone.
One of my major problems when it comes to anxiety/panic/depression is socializing. I am only twenty so socializing, such as parties and going to the bar is a big thing with people around my age. I have always been one to stay home on a weekend evenings alone or maybe with one other person and only do things like go to a movie or something more "safe" and less social. This almost always leaves me upset and feeling left out, but I am letting myself be afraid and making these social events seem like too much effort. It is especially hard when my boyfriend of three years is a social butterfly and just wants me to be social with him. I do make an effort to go out on occasion but it is always a difficult process. A lot of the time I feel resentment towards him because it is so easy for him. And that makes me feel even worse. It also tends to cause tension and hard feelings between us.
PLUS, I have a really hard time accepting the fact that people actually enjoy my company when I do go out. Many a time my boyfriend will tell me how much his friends like me or how much so and so enjoyed talking to me or how they all wondered why I didn't come out. Why do I have such trouble believing it? Of course these people aren't lying but I can't help but think in the back of my mind, why do they like me? I do realize this seems very negative, but I just wanted to be completeley honest. This is probably the hardest thing for me to overcome. I would really appreciate any advice. Thanks so much.
Layne.
One of my major problems when it comes to anxiety/panic/depression is socializing. I am only twenty so socializing, such as parties and going to the bar is a big thing with people around my age. I have always been one to stay home on a weekend evenings alone or maybe with one other person and only do things like go to a movie or something more "safe" and less social. This almost always leaves me upset and feeling left out, but I am letting myself be afraid and making these social events seem like too much effort. It is especially hard when my boyfriend of three years is a social butterfly and just wants me to be social with him. I do make an effort to go out on occasion but it is always a difficult process. A lot of the time I feel resentment towards him because it is so easy for him. And that makes me feel even worse. It also tends to cause tension and hard feelings between us.
PLUS, I have a really hard time accepting the fact that people actually enjoy my company when I do go out. Many a time my boyfriend will tell me how much his friends like me or how much so and so enjoyed talking to me or how they all wondered why I didn't come out. Why do I have such trouble believing it? Of course these people aren't lying but I can't help but think in the back of my mind, why do they like me? I do realize this seems very negative, but I just wanted to be completeley honest. This is probably the hardest thing for me to overcome. I would really appreciate any advice. Thanks so much.
Layne.