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Hi! I got my CD set in May and the hardest test for me has been keeping myself committed to the program every day, or every week. Bty I have Generalized Anxiety and OCD. I usually start well and read chapter and go through CD's, but can’t keep my focus for next session of reading or going through cd's.

I jump around and pick up something else like medication practice cds to feel better or just doing exercise. Seems like my mind is trying to distract myself by trying different things and gain a momentary peace and then again jump to something else when my mind starts racing. I wonder how many times i am going to start this program again or when will “THAT’S IT" emotion strike and make me start doing things with sincerity and focus.

Is anybody else going through this? How can we make our mind free from distractions..and keep ourself committed to a work

Oh yes, commiting to a new chore/task can be so very difficult. I recently heard a tip that has helped me, whenever you think ok I know I need to do the program, maybe I'll start tomorrow.......go up and do it then. Try and set a time each day to focus on your recovery and reward yourself.

This was sort of hard for me too. Either I was over doing it or under doing it. Both ways made me anxious. It took a while but I found a "happy" medium place where I felt comfortable and I finished the entire program. That being said, I'm suppose to be going through it now for the 2nd time and have let a couple weeks pass w/o lessons. However I have been really focussing on sessins' 2 and 3, so maybe it's okay I'm doing it this way- for the second time.

Hi Alex, thanks for tip and it makes sense..

Hi Positive...i also find myself either overdoing or just underdoing...and your tip is great..thanks

That's great advice.

DEAR SVS:

Make the most important committment you could ever make - TO YOURSELF. Make the committment that there is <span class="ev_code_RED">NOTHING</span> more important THAN YOU - yes you. Make the committment that there is nothing more important than you feeling better + being recovered + enhancing your quality of life!

Many folks ask, "but how". The wonderful thing is, when you REALLY make that committment to yourself - there is nothing that will stand in your way. You become like a horse w/ blinders on - focused & DETERMINED. Anxiety disorder will try & tell ya, "it can't be done" - However, THAT COMMITTMENT TO YOURSELF - lights that little fire in the pit of your belly(='g DETERMINATION) that, in turn, doesn't listen to anxiety disorder & says to itself(yourself) - <span class="ev_code_RED">I WILL FIND A WAY - I WILL FIGURE IT OUT - I AM DETERMINED - I WILL "MAKE IT HAPPEN"</span>.

You see sweetie, quite simply, once you make that committment to yourself - you will see it is you who has/is doing all the work - that it is you <span class="ev_code_RED">who figured out HOW - you who didn't settle for NO, IT CAN'T BE DONE - rather you who MADE IT HAPPEN - </span>.

One thing I realized on my own journey to recovery is, I so undermined my own ability for far too many things. This was a LIFE LONG habit of mine - @ least until I had to take this journey to recover. Because I had an extreme state of SELF DOUBT - I sought the ANSWERS fr everyone but myself. It was not that I shouldn't have gotten help/ans's fr others - no. We can all learn fr someone/anyone. My problem was I ASSUMED, far too consistantly, that YOU/HIM/HER/THEY/THEM would always have the answers. Where in that equation is <span class="ev_code_RED">ME</span>?

The journey to recovery fr anxiety disorder requires that you WORK HARD & I mean harder than anything else in your life. It requires you do the "footwork" so to speak: this PROGRAM + therapy maybe + research: reading books/magazines/internet info - anything that would empower you & your knowledge on this disorder + journaling, etc. ANYTHING & EVERYTHING it may take to get you out of the emotional prison anxiety disorder has placed you in. <span class="ev_code_RED">Is it hard?</span>Yes. However, as LUCINDA herself says, "no harder than dealing/living w/ all the ABSOLUTE HELL anxiety disorder is. Both will create discomfort & heck, maybe a BAD WORD, lol - every now & then. Only 1 gives you recovery + personal freedom + liberation - the ability to EXHALE - cause you know you did it - you're free.

You will meet the most generous/compassionate/giving/friendly people here @ StressCenter.com. They will give you pointers & advice. However, until you tell yourself that's it - I've had enough of this anxiety disorder crap - I am recovering & make that committment to RECOVERY AS A WHOLE - what they say won't matter. <span class="ev_code_RED">It is YOU who truly has to WANT IT - wanting recovery like nobody's business. </span>Once you do WANT IT, then doing the program will come naturally - because it is all encompassed in your DETERMINATION to RECOVER.

Remember this very simple phrase, <span class="ev_code_RED">CONSISTENCY ='S RESULTS</span> That means, taking things 1 day @ a time - a little @ a time - EVERY DAY - w/ the PROGRAM. Not tomorrow/next week/month/year - TODAY, I CHOOSE TO do a little work on the program - no matter what, I/me am THE PRIORITY.

Continued recovery to you - YOU HAVE IT IN YOU - YOU ARE DOING IT - YOU ARE COURAGEOUS/BRAVE/SMART - trust that in you.

LENORE