Posted: Tue Apr 01, 2008 8:16 am
Ok, as you know from yesterday, my mother was
complaining that the doctor that's evaluating her
was ignoring her requests for a physical therapy
perscription.
Somehow
I got involved in it and volunteered to call the office to find out what
was going on. THe girls were clueless and got me
mad
so I called today to speak with the
doctor directly.
I just got off the phone with him and he explained that because of insurance purposes, she needs to see him separately for the carpal
tunnel versus the slip & fall incident over the
holidays when she fell down the escalator stairs. Perhaps she just didn't 'get' it? He said that he told her, she still states that he
never told her about making a separate appointment until I found out today
Very strange? She is not feeble minded and is pretty sharp for her age. -Unless she is doing this for my 'attention' she has a history of doing 'dramatic' things for my attention.
For instance before I called the doctor I called
her for his number. I told her nicely but assertively that she has to learn to speak up for her rights, and if there is something that she needs to clarify she needs to talk to the doctor before jumping to conclusions;;; WELL after I told her that she began to yell at me.
"You don't care about me" "No one cares!!"
"you never make me dinner" -and she went on and
on~~~~ that's when I told her that her guilt trips don't 'get' to me anymore and she needs to
calm down and be rational.
She is infamous for making me guilty as I am an
only child and she thinks that my life has to revolve around her. I don't let it get to me,
but when she is yelling and screaming that I don't care, and that I should be doing this or that --- It is very stressful to deal with.
So between her and my hubby they are both difficult people that I have to deal with -but I am learning how to deal with them more effectively. I didn't yell and scream at her back- I was very effective -on my end- I told her if she continued I would hang up. I know she will never 'change' her manipulative/attention getting ways but at least I am learning how to deal with her without feeling guilty when she
shoots me down.
complaining that the doctor that's evaluating her
was ignoring her requests for a physical therapy
perscription.
Somehow
I got involved in it and volunteered to call the office to find out whatwas going on. THe girls were clueless and got me
mad
so I called today to speak with thedoctor directly.
I just got off the phone with him and he explained that because of insurance purposes, she needs to see him separately for the carpal
tunnel versus the slip & fall incident over the
holidays when she fell down the escalator stairs. Perhaps she just didn't 'get' it? He said that he told her, she still states that he
never told her about making a separate appointment until I found out today
Very strange? She is not feeble minded and is pretty sharp for her age. -Unless she is doing this for my 'attention' she has a history of doing 'dramatic' things for my attention.
For instance before I called the doctor I called
her for his number. I told her nicely but assertively that she has to learn to speak up for her rights, and if there is something that she needs to clarify she needs to talk to the doctor before jumping to conclusions;;; WELL after I told her that she began to yell at me.
"You don't care about me" "No one cares!!"
"you never make me dinner" -and she went on and
on~~~~ that's when I told her that her guilt trips don't 'get' to me anymore and she needs to
calm down and be rational.
She is infamous for making me guilty as I am an
only child and she thinks that my life has to revolve around her. I don't let it get to me,
but when she is yelling and screaming that I don't care, and that I should be doing this or that --- It is very stressful to deal with.
So between her and my hubby they are both difficult people that I have to deal with -but I am learning how to deal with them more effectively. I didn't yell and scream at her back- I was very effective -on my end- I told her if she continued I would hang up. I know she will never 'change' her manipulative/attention getting ways but at least I am learning how to deal with her without feeling guilty when she
shoots me down.
I'll get to relax later