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Has anyone out there lost a parent that they were really close to-I lost my mom and I was only 28. It is so hard-I am now 30 and just now it is really bothering me and wondering how you cope. I find myself on the verge of crying everyday-many times a day. She was my best friend and my mom and I saw and spoke to her almost everyday.I miss her sooooooo much. Lost her to breast cancer.

I lost my dad in 1976 (I was 20 yrs old) & my mom in 2002 (I was 46 yrs old), it was the most difficult thing in the world. This may sound stupid but I will talk to them about things that are bothering me. My dad wanted to be buried close to the road so we kids could wave at him as we drive bye. Everyday that I drive by I always wave & say I love you & miss you both. When I stop at the grave site I will also talk to them & some how this helps & it makes me feel better thinking some how they both hear me. I think of them ever day several times a day. I told you it would sound stupid but it works for me.
Larry

Hi momto3,

Firstly let me say I'm so very sorry for your loss.

I lost my Dad 4 years ago and still find myself crying over Him not being on earth anymore. We had 3 deaths in 3 months that year and it put both my husband and myself over the edge. It's never easy to lose a parent or grandparent and it takes a very long time to get ourselves even somewhat back to normal living. It's okay to cry as that was a very special bond you shared. There is no time limit for grieving and it will eventually ease off but that is different for each person. Keep working the program as it will help you with dealing with this loss.

God Bless, Rememeber Your MOM Is Always With You And Is Watching Over YOU....EVERYDAY.

i understand exactly how you feel, I lost my father to cancer in January. This actually worsened my anxiety. I too always talk to my dad about things that bother me. I cry a lot too. I know its natural and that grieving takes as long as it takes to heal. But I always try to remember that hes is so much better now and not in pain anymore. I tell my kids that he is there angel and protects them and watches over them. Have you thought about seeing a grief counselor or phycologist? (sorry spelled it wrong)The result of my father passing (and other things) resulted in ptsd. Talking about it helps. Hugs to you, Misti

I am sorry for your loss. I feel your pain. I lost my mother, my best friend, 7 years ago in November. That was the most sorrow I had experienced to date. She died from congestive heart failure due to C.O.P.D. I cradled her in my arms as she died and I cried for my loss and the memories that she will no longer share with me, not her release from this earthly plane. What a selfish person I was then. I know better now. I still mourn her Death because it was so terrible but I can breathe now when I wake up in the mornings. I accomplished this by talking to her and remembering her in every activity that I performed. I also wrote her letters in a book that i still have and reread just to get a feel of her presence. I keep her favorite perfume about for the times that I really miss her and I spray it just for the comfort of it. You will be OK. You have to be. She wouldn't want it any other way. I know you will be OK because If I can live through this you can.
May god GRACE you with his peace.

I hate to admit reading your stories help me. My husband died in my arms in December '07. My Mom, my best friend, my number 1 supporter, died in my arms 2 weeks later. I have 3 step children that are my age and have kept me in probate court all year, still on going. I have shingles (for 6 weeks now), can't sleep or eat. I am so glad I am starting this program.

My dad died in 06,he had been ill for awhile and even though we knew his time was short I prayed for strength because I didn't know what I would do without him in my life. But my dad had a strong belief in god, he knew he was going to heaven, he knew it would be wonderful, he knew he would be happy and healthy again and he welcomed death, he was not afraid to die and it gave us the strength to let him go.

Hi MomTo3. I lost my closest sister 15 years ago to breast cancer, and my Dad whom I was very close to as well in 06. It's very difficult, and there isn't a day goes by that I don't miss them, and cry a lot too. I find my strength in God as well as family and friends. It's the most difficult time in our lives, to lose those we love. You would probably find great solace in bereavement counseling. If you are spiritual, then spiritual bereavement counseling would be very benificial as well. I'm sooooooooooo sorry for your loss MomTo3,as I am sorry for the loss of the others on this thread as well. Hugs to you all!

I lost my darling mother and best friend 17months ago and it was my overwhelming debilitating grief that finally made me decide to order this program. She had Alzheimer's Disease and I was her caregiver. Watching her slowly forget who she was,forget my dad ,her home,even her beloved yellow lab was heartbreaking and that was only the beginning.I watched her go downhill for 7 years before she died. Even after all this time,I remember her more as she was with the disease than as she was prior to that and it makes it doubly painful. But I am doing better since I began the program.I really think you all will too,as you continue the sessions. Don't get me wrong,I still grieve but I am coping better now and I can at least function again. Keep the faith, stay with the program and stay in touch. God bless us all.

Thank you all who responded to my issue- I am a christian and I do know she is free from pain and is where she has been longing to be- with her Lord. AT first I seemed to understand and was glad she passed on because I watched her and took care of her through her battle with cancer. I feel like she hung on as long as she did because of me-she wanted to make sure I was going to be okay. I think I am going to try to see a counselor just to help me along the way. What is so hard is that I don't think of her sick and hurting anymore I just feel such a void in my life-as if a part of me died with her. I know I have to pull it together because I have 3 children who look at me like I looked at her. She was my HERO! Well-I am so sorry for all of your losses-it is hard and only human to not want to let go. I tried to be so strong after her death and I think it all just kind of caught up with me. Now I beat myself up about whether I told her I loved her enough and did she really know it and did I really do enough for her. Did I comfort her all those times when she was frightened from chemo or the process of dying. Her death was very peaceful and I was there with my brothers and aunt. It was an awesome experience that day. I felt like I had truly saw God that day. He could not have blessed me more than what he did allowing her to pass-it was so perfect-but I do miss her. Thank you all again for all the advice and your stories and May God bless us all and give us strength to carry on where they left off.