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I don't know if this part of Anxiety just wonder if anyone else is like this?

Basically I have no motivation, nothing that inspires me, If I had a good enough reason I'm sure I could beat depression and anxiety, I could have loads of friends, I could be married to a playboy model, I could be the life and soul of the party, Infact I could be anything I wanted to be. Unfortunatly I have 0 motivation in life, I mean I can't even drive, I'm 29 and can't drive, I couldn't get motivated to take lessons, Thats just one example, If I look at my life I have achieved nothing. I can't get anything that inspires me enough to change, If I had that reason I could beat depression and if you can beat depression you could achieve anything in life.

I recently bought Anthony Robbins Personal Power, there is a section on goal setting, you set a gaol, set a time limit on when you want to achieve it, then find a good enough reason to get you to change, I couldn't get the good enough reason.

I am just so so frustrated with life.

dj, go back and read your post again SLOWLY! You will begin to notice the "attitude" you had while writing. It's all about "should of could of would of".. I think it's safe to say that motivation starts when we change our "thought process" about life. I too, struggle with this, just as everyone else here has. After completing the course, I realized just how "negative" I can be and I have to take full responsibility for that. You need to start changing the negative dialogue to the positive. Life is NOT perfect, it's going to throw you some curve balls, BUT.. you can CHOOSE to react in a positive way. I've been "negative" about life for over 30 yrs, I cannot expect to change overnight..therefore, I take it one day at a time, and things are looking up for me. DON'T give up, you can do this!!!! Do you have the program? What lesson are you on?

Take care and God bless you

P.S. and to answer your question, I BELIEVE THAT MY NEGATIVE THINKING(SUCH AS YOURS) IS WHAT CAUSED ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION. NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND!


Robin

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As long as you're breathing, you still have a chance to turn things around. When I started this program, I was in a pretty hopeless state. I made myself listen to the week one tape. After 3 or 4 days of just listening to the tape, I became more motivated. It's not going to be easy, but nothing in life worth having ever is. Start by listening to week one and take it one day at a time.

I have already went through the program, and in all fairness it did what it said it would, It cured my anxiety and depression pretty much. However as Lucinda said in one of the CD's there is so much more to an anxiety disorder, we are unachievers etc, I certainly am and under achiever, infact I have achieved nothing. I am wondering should I go through the program again? The last time I went through it, It was a half assed effort

Well if you gained that much from the program before during a half-assed effort, just think how much you would gain from a whole-assed effort!! Telling yourself you have achieved nothing is a lie, and I believe you could come up with things that you HAVE achieved. Your brain is filtering out the positives and focusing on the negatives. I would work the program again in a whole assed attempt and start listing things that you have accomplished no matter how small or insignificant you think they are.

I am the same way as you, I have many things that I know I'm capable of doing that requires the goals and efforts that I lack. I also feel very unmotivated to do much. There are so many interests I have but they go nowhere. I also have been in Taekwondo for 3 years and just keep putting off my black belt promotion - I've been a red belt for nearly 2 years and it's a family thing, my husband is the one interested in martial arts and the 5 of us have been training, so I always feel it's his dream more than mine which is part of the procrastination on my part. I also have many 'dreams' but they just aren't goals or anything that I have the energy to pursue. I'm hoping that will change but there is another book by Lucinda that may help with that.

All this to say you are not alone nor troubled by this. I know one day things will change, just because you know it's a problem that needs solving. Maybe make that your first goal - to be more motivated?