Stress Center Peer Support

I am an extremely loving person who gets extremely annoyed and irritated with people, especially the people I love. I have been noticing more and more how negative I really am. I am constantly looking at the negative in people and am so cautious about everything I think, say or do. Every single day, I beat myself up about what I could have said, should have said or did say. I constantly assume the people I love are thinking negatively of me...when really I think negatively of them.......can anyone relate?

I can totally relate! I pretty much do the same thing, and it is exhausting. the good news is that we can reprogram our minds to stop this endless chatter and learn how to stop focusing on the past or future and learn to enjoy the precious present moment. The irritability for me comes from the negative thinking. i mean how can I be relaxed and not irritable when I'm constantly thinking about what i said what he or she said and what did they mean and what I should have said or what I'll say next time.....you get the idea. Don't beat yourself up for thinking this way, but take responsibility. By acknowledging that you are doing it and using positive self talk to challenge the thoughts you will see that it can get better. It takes a lot of repetition but it can be done. It's a proven scientific fact, so again no judging no blaming no thinking you are "bad" just realize it and challenge it. good luck!