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Not the type of love, like family and friends but being in love with someone? Like something mmore than just loving someone?

Lately I've been thinking about how I'm missing that...

Yes,true love does exist! Not only is it all around you all the time, you will find it in others too. I have heard and also believe that when you let go you have made room mentally to recieve. I was without love for a while and when I had the ability to start dealing with something in my life and let it go, love came to me. Now 4 years later we are about to get married and I am soooo in love!

Love is what we make it, how we give and take it. I think you are making healthy changes for the better and your bf is not right for ya. He may say he loves you, but from what you have described I honestly don't see it. Do you? I think there's someone else a lot better for you, Rachel. Someone who will love you for who you are and have respect and real love for you. Ever get the feeling he's sucking you dry or taking all you have to give but not giving anything in return?

Yes, it does. My grnadparents- 60+ years. Inlaws= 40 years. Parents=40 years.
Everyday wasn't a bowl of cherries but they all endured, raised families and are still loving each other today!

Love is more than just physical attraction to another person, but that IS part of it. If you see what love really is, you'll find that it comes from you.

No other person gives it to you, or allows you to feel it. The feeling of love comes from you. You can't find it in other people. This is great because we can have the capacity to love ourselves and others in this manner constantly without having a conditional cause (meeting a new person you like etc.).

Short answer - yes it does.
From the time we are born we're loved and we need love. The first love we see is that of our parents for those of us fortunate enough to have them. Either way someone feeds us, clothes us, and provides for us the best they can. They do this because of compassion and love - it is a natural human emotion that all of us have the capability to do.
Of course things are complicated as adults - we have different needs and everyone is different. Before you can really feel loved & love someone else I believe you have to love yourself. Otherwise you are always looking for something that only you can provide and you won't find it in other people, all the money in the world, a successful career, etc. You have to see what a gift you are to the world, accept all of your strengths and weaknesses, and realize that everyone has a right to that same sense of peace. It works in some relationships and doesn't in others - that's chemistry and attraction. BUT - once you both know it and make the commitment, you will know it. If you've done everything else I mentioned and don't feel it than something is missing and maybe it's time to keep looking. I believe that there is someone out there for each of us & we will find that someone someday. All long term relationships take work - it doesn't mean that the love isn't there - it's just part of it. It's almost the same as how your family members at one moment can really tick you off but you still love them and they still love you - you reconcile and things keep going. There will always be ups and downs - that's life. The quicker we realize that it's a roller coaster the quicker we'll enjoy the ride. I am sure you are a great person with a lot to offer; love, and otherwise - you just need to believe you deserve the same. Good luck to you.