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Posted: Tue May 20, 2008 11:42 pm
by garnet
I just started session 3 a couple days ago and for the past couple of nights when I am whinding down for bed my mind tortures me. Memories of things I have a hard time forgiving myself for. Things I am far from proud of doing that haunt me. I'm a different person now and have so much why am I doing this? I left that life six years ago. Why can't I forgive myself for my mistakes in life. Maybe they were to devastating. Maybe this is why I had trouble writing down ten postive things about myself in the homework this week.
Posted: Wed May 21, 2008 12:24 am
by Guest
hey garnet,
some days i feel the same way; i am on session 9 now and this session deals with guilt and worry. it is a pretty important session so i am spending 2 weeks on it.
even minor mistakes for me bother me from my past and i tend to inflate them greatly. Compared to others, i am sure i look like an angel regarding my mistakes. For me, it has alot to do with perfection, guilt, anxiety, etc. I have been in the program 2.5 months and you really do get results if you work hard. Some days I feel like there is no progress and then others I will be like, 'wow, i am really coming a long way and a different person from who i once was'.
We need to keep reminding ourselves that everyoe makes mistakes but to be a better person, we must forgive ourselves and learn from these mistakes.
Posted: Wed May 21, 2008 12:42 am
by Guest
Depending on what happened, sometimes going to the people involved, if any, and asking for forgiveness plus making restitution if anything of value was destroyed can be helpful. If that is possible.
Otherwise, what can be done about the past? Nothing. WE can't go back and change it. Therefore, the only thing we can do which will benefit us is forgive ourselves, let it go, and seek not to bring it up again. I know it's easier said than done, but it really does work if we will put in the work and seek to apply the forgiveness to ourselves.
What good is achieved by dredging up past mistakes and failures? None. Such behavior is filled with self-destructive thoughts which keep us in anxiety/panic/depression.