Stress Center Peer Support

Do U cry? I mean a really lot? Just with general conversation? I do. I cry all the time. I cant seem to control it and I am not sure where this comes from and I also want to know if this can be controlled and HOW? Please if u know share. Cause I am tired of being Weepy and wimpy. I am a coward. I hide behind my hubby very often. I feel like I cant stand on my own 2 feet. I am doing lesson 7 starting today. and I have had this program for almos 2 years now. I have NEVER been able to finish the program I look at the program as a Very large thing and I get overwhelmed and quit. It always seems to be at lesson 6 (anger) But I am trying to press on farther this time. Which Lesson will help me with this weepyness? Also racey thoughts?
Monica

Mo!!
Honey, i think you probably have some depression and some frustration. Your husband is very supportive, you should be glad about that.
Its good that he can be there for you. I know your are afraid of lesson 6. Sometimes, being afraid can help you overcome things like anger, cause you are aware of anger.
We all get afraid MO,, me to. But we have fight off the crap, and just do the program.
Im glad your starting lesson 7 Mo!!
You have had so much to deal with lately! Crying isnt a bad thing, but when we have physical stuff wrong with us,,, it just adds to the depression and frustration...
Try watching funny movies mo,, ive found that helps at times.... But mainly talk to your doctor.. Love ya nelly:)

Mo--beautiful avatar! You are such an attractive couple

I used to cry a lot, not so much anymore but I've got to credit my meds and this program. I know meds are not your favorite thought, but I agree with Nelly that there is likely some depression going on and maybe a small does of anti-depressant would help. Also, track your "weepiness". Could it be related to that time of the month? Or maybe worse at that time? Like Nelly said, you have been through a LOT, and "wimpy" is definitely not a word I'd use to describe you!!!

Hi Mo....I am going through something similar. I noticed that I start to cry a lot too. Soetimes for no reason at all my voice will just crack in mid sentence and I feel like I have a lump in my throat all day sometimes. Unfortunately, its probably a little bit of depression. I just started taking a low dose of prozac yesterday to see if it helps. I know meds are scary (I am the last person to want to try them)but they seem to work for a lot of people.
I think staying positive is key. Maybe you should review lesson 3 on negative thinking. I often find that my crying is a result of a negative mindset. This lesson is where I have gotten stuck in the past, but I find it to be very helpful when I am sad. Stick with it...you have gotten so far. I hope to be where you are soon.
Take care!

Thanks Nelly. I guess it is just depression. I just cant seem to control it at all. When ever I feel threatened, cornered, bullied, or a feeling like I am inferiour then I BAWL, somtimes hysterically. Somthing happened at work the other day and I had to speak up. Well I fell to tears. Then I was a mess all day. I dont seem to be very emotionally strong at work either. My favorite shows are Friends. They are so great and make me laugh.

Tara Thanks for the compliment. I have missed u girl. How u been. Track the time of the month?... lol. I cant I dont do that anymore. BUT even tho I dont do that. I think there is a hormonal thing there. Cause there are times of the month that I am Especailly upset.

Blond bird Yes I know what u mean. I crack mid sentence to. It just comes from NO where. I have seen doctors they deny me meds cause they say it dont work for me. Cause I never noticed a differnece or has it helped. I can try to call him again and see what he says. just getting tired of fighting the battle.

Me 2. Stop beating yourself up. Don't even go there with the "I should be more like a man" thing! You are not a coward; you are a "presser onner" because you keep pressing on! I have PMDD & believe me I understand what you are saying! It could be hormonal. Go at your own pace. I started this in Dec. & realized after Session 2 there was NO way I was going to do "one session a week"!!! It IS overwhelming! I hadn't journaled in YEARS and that alone is emotional! Session 2, well, I have panic attacks & don't even know if it helped because I KNOW I'm going to have to go over it again & again. I skipped 2 weeks when we were sick & now I'm back on 3 but only listened once this week so far. You are taking baby steps. You helped me realize it may take me longer than I thought for me to finish; but one thing is for sure; don't give up! Just be GENTLER with yourself! Best 2 U!

Sybil I am so glad to Know I am NOT alone. And Thank you. I am a Presser onner. It is NOT easy tho. I am trying. And YES take your time on the lessons. DONT push yourself too hard. But dont be like me and take a month or more to do a lesson. I cant seem to get into journaling. I will keep trying. Yes u be gentler with you too. WE are far too hard on ourselfs.

I too would cry alot and think it was for nothing, but it usually would be from anger or frustration. I have had major depression at times and knew at that time it was from the depression.
But does anyone know how to cure the anxious cry?
I mean when you have to talk about something important to a family member, or if you are called in the office by your boss.
It is so hard to hold that in. Your throat starts to choke up and you feel tears in your eyes, even though you know you don't want to cry. You are so nervous that it just starts as a waver in your throat, and then the eyes get very watery. If you try to talk you will cry.
I am so embarrased by that. I remember the same thing happen when I tried to do a report at school. My voice cracked and trembled and I had the tears in my eyes. I thought I would cry in front of everybody. That is the worst. Or if you are talking to a friend or relative. They see it as weakness and I think oh you do not know I am not weak but my eyes are weak.
Does anyone know how to stop that from happening. I feel so dumb when it happens and so immature. Do you think adrenaline goes into your tear ducts? I don't know, but it makes you shy away from speaking to your boss or bringning up a personal conversation.
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the stuff HopfulME said, about the tears and the lump in the throat, sooo totally relate, and it's soo frustrating. it's like, i know if i do this ill cry, so i don't do it, you feel stupid, embarrassed, and judged. it's hard cause it does just come out of nowhere, sometimes in warranted situations, sometimes for no good reason. and when you feel it coming you are powerless to stop it. i think it's one of my hardest outward symptoms to deal with because i don't want people to think i'm upset or weak. and don't try to stop it cause that literally chokes you. when i feel it i try to let it go. cry choke up a little if it's someone i'm comfortable with. if i wanna hide it i've learned to BREATHE. take a few deep breaths and relax. it helps that overwhelming feeling go away. and if a little tears sneak out, ooh well, learn to tell myself that it's ok. it's hard. i feel like this overemotional ball sometimes just waiting to burst. sometimes i think that you need to let it out when you are in situations where you can, and i mean really let it out, it makes the times where you can't let it out a little easier to suppress. just my thoughts

MO MO!!!!
You are not alone, I get that alot. Like I will be in the middle of a conversation or just watching TV and I have to literally fight off crying, I don't even have a reason . If I let myself I would cry all of the time. I often wonder if it is a little depression or just stress?? I am unsure but I do know that you are not alone!!

Love ya,
Chrystal