Stress Center Peer Support

Hello everyone,

I have a problem. After a lot tearful nights, stressful evenings, several sick days, several fights with hubby, many sleepless nights, constant worry, constant second guessing myself on everything. I have decided to resign from my work. This is the third job since graduation x 3 yrs that I have left as a result of the same scenarios list above. I have lost all joy for this profession. All of these jobs are the same area. I am so sad and worried about money. I have put out several resumes very few responses. I have bills to pay. I spent four years in university and I am so tired of being tired and unsatisfied with my job. I am not asking to love my job I just want to at least like it or not mind it. I really need some insight. In my current role I am not growing as a professional in fact I am doing jobs below my skill level just because that is what is required. I am sad and angry. Any advise would be appreciated. I thought a degree would be enough but it clearly is not.

Hi Future,

I can relate to what you are going through! The way I see it, you either feel passionate about what you do, or you don't. When work feels like a CHORE (as it does for me now), then it may be time to check out something else. But what??? I have struggled with this one too. I'm still trying to figure it all out too. Here's a great quote:

“What we really want to do is what we are really meant to do. When we do what we are meant to do, money comes to us, doors open for us, we feel useful, and the work we do feels like play to us.” ~Julia Cameron

I'm still not sure how to figure out what we are MEANT to do. One counselor I had mentioned http://www.jocrf.org (Johnson O'Connor Research Foundation). She had several clients (including herself) that went and took their tests, and got some real insight into what they really ought to be doing with themselves. They have centers in 11 different cities. For $600 (I know - it sounds like a lot - it is for me too!), they will test you to find out where your aptitudes (natural talents) are, and will essentially match you to a profession. My counselor said that they will go as far as saying that a certain profession is absolutely wrong for you if you ask them about it, and it does not align with your aptitudes. All in all, $600 is probably not a huge investment in YOU! I'm sure you are worth it! If you continue to struggle with this, you may really want to check this out.

Like Ken from the program, I believe we are all right where we are supposed to be at any given time. You will find your way. It may just take you a little trial and error... or not.. Best of luck!! Hang in there Future!!

John

Future, I feel for you and all of us facing the same problem. I've lived with depression/bipolar for so long I feel I never had a chance to discover and develop my talents except for the few I've used in my working life. I can't stomache going back to the same-old-same-old...

Thanks, Crave, for the info on the Foundation. It is alot of money, but, worthy of saving for.
The whole world, I think, is experiencing an upheaval and a (necessary) yearning for something different. I hope for all our sakes we find it.

I also suspect that for those of us living with special "landscapes" to our lives, such as anxiety, depression, OCD, etc., recovery as an ongoing process has to be THE bedrock from which to investigate the "its" and the "others". (Otherwise all I get to investigate is misery, hopelessness, anger, irrationality, risky behavior, and alienation.)

So glad to be embarking on this course and to have this place to share thoughts and experiences with all of you. This definitely feels safe, and safely challenging.

Future, hang in with the course, your beefed-up self-care at this time, the forum, your carefully tended home life, and your career. You ARE NOT alone--in this or the other.