I worked with a guy who was always doing illegal things at work. When I tried to correct him in these things he would label me as "meltdown man." It was his way of escaping the his own personal and ethical responsibility and turning the situation about me. I believe it was a coping mechanism that he learned early in life. It's how he survived.
Have you found there are some people who will not take responsibility for their wrong actions and when you confront them on it the turn it around and make it about you?
How do you deal with people like these?
Beware of these people
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Songwriter...I have very much difficulty dealing with this type of people!!! I am an honest, and open individual, and I cannot tolerate lies and stealing!!!!
I know the way to overcoming this is to lower your expectations of others!!!
Just remember that each and every person is unique in their own way, be it a good or bad way.
A lot of people have issues, and there is absolutely nothing that we can do about that!!!
We just have to try and accept them for who they are, and not who we expect them to be!!!!
We have to learn to accept the fact, that, others are not like us, and that is okay!!!!
It takes all kinds to make up the world!!!
I pray this helps in some odd way!!! God Bless
I know the way to overcoming this is to lower your expectations of others!!!
Just remember that each and every person is unique in their own way, be it a good or bad way.
A lot of people have issues, and there is absolutely nothing that we can do about that!!!
We just have to try and accept them for who they are, and not who we expect them to be!!!!
We have to learn to accept the fact, that, others are not like us, and that is okay!!!!
It takes all kinds to make up the world!!!
I pray this helps in some odd way!!! God Bless
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Good morning, Songwriter:
Yes, I have found it true that most people just won't respond well to confrontation.
I used to be somwwhat of a 'controller'. I felt a need to 'set things right'.
Even when I'd read scripture that said "get the log out of your own eye before trying to get it out of your brother's" (not a quote) , I would still try to sraighten folk out.
Then I began to read a little more. And I learned from my reading that it is just human nature, people won't respond well when you tell them what is wrong with them.
Even with my children, when I thought I was advising them for their own good, when I'd tell them what they were doing 'wrong', it would backfire on me. They'd become hostile instead of cooperative.
It boils down to all the lessons one learns in life.
YOU CAN'T CAHNGE ANYONE BUT YOURSELF!!!!!
And changing one's self perhaps means getting the log out of my own eye.
We are always going to see flaws in others.
Just as they see our flaws.
I handle this sort of thing by confronting others less and less. Or if I feel that something is drastically wrong and really needs correcting , I try to use non-critical methods with gentleness, etc. But nine times out of 10 these things aren't up to me anyway.
As I lose my fears , I have less need to control.
The more control I have over myself, the less I need to control others.
Sometimes it is a good thing to let God deal with others.
These are hard lessons to learn.
Have a great day.
MJ
Yes, I have found it true that most people just won't respond well to confrontation.
I used to be somwwhat of a 'controller'. I felt a need to 'set things right'.
Even when I'd read scripture that said "get the log out of your own eye before trying to get it out of your brother's" (not a quote) , I would still try to sraighten folk out.
Then I began to read a little more. And I learned from my reading that it is just human nature, people won't respond well when you tell them what is wrong with them.
Even with my children, when I thought I was advising them for their own good, when I'd tell them what they were doing 'wrong', it would backfire on me. They'd become hostile instead of cooperative.
It boils down to all the lessons one learns in life.
YOU CAN'T CAHNGE ANYONE BUT YOURSELF!!!!!
And changing one's self perhaps means getting the log out of my own eye.
We are always going to see flaws in others.
Just as they see our flaws.
I handle this sort of thing by confronting others less and less. Or if I feel that something is drastically wrong and really needs correcting , I try to use non-critical methods with gentleness, etc. But nine times out of 10 these things aren't up to me anyway.
As I lose my fears , I have less need to control.
The more control I have over myself, the less I need to control others.
Sometimes it is a good thing to let God deal with others.
These are hard lessons to learn.
Have a great day.
MJ
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Dearest Cornflower...I am sooo thankful you did not "refrain"...You gave some wonderful advice here, as you always do!!!
You are much wiser than me, and I totally respect your advice. You are more than welcome to advise me at any time!!!!
You are a wonderful person, and I totally admire your wisdom!!!!
May God Richly Bless You Is My Prayer!!!!
Happy Mother's Day!!!!
You are much wiser than me, and I totally respect your advice. You are more than welcome to advise me at any time!!!!
You are a wonderful person, and I totally admire your wisdom!!!!
May God Richly Bless You Is My Prayer!!!!
Happy Mother's Day!!!!