Stress Center Peer Support

I feel overwhelmed right now with my problems. I post on here a good bit and get such useful advice that I thought I would try my luck here again...

I have a couple questions first.

Can doing something that you dont want to do in your life, though you make yourself each day cause anxiety and depression?

How do people find happiness on a day to day basis?

How do most people make light of their worries and continue on with their life, and why does it seem like I let my problems consume me?

How do you know if it's a bad relationship that's causing you anxiety and depression and not just the thoughts that I have anyway?

How do you try to be more natural and not so much perfect?

I hope someone can answer a few of these questions...I know this probably seems like an odd post, but I am just trying to figure somethings out in my life and these are some of the things that bother me everyday. Any advice would be very appreciated

Hi blueskies4me! Those are some tough questions to answer. Are you doing this program? It really helped me to change my way of thinking (although sometimes I find myself slipping back into those same thought patterns, but now I am able to recognize that), and it was my negative thinking that made me feel like my problems were insurmountable. I think that the people that can make light of their worries are the type that realize that trying to remain positive is the best way to deal with things. Can doing something everyday that you don't want to do cause anxiety and depression? I think so. Is this something that you can change? If not, you have to change your attitude about it. That doesn't mean you have to like it, but you have to tolerate it and try not to let yourself be consumed by the fact that you have to do something that you don't like. Maybe you concentrate on what else you can do that day that you DO like...
Also, keep in mind that no one has a perfect, happy life. Some people are happier than others or have it easier than others, but I don't think there is one person out there that is 100% problem/stress free. They either deal with it better or are good at hiding it.
Lastly, when you are in the midst of dealing with anxiety/depression, you doubt yourself. Then, when you start learning these skills and you see how negative thinking can skew your thoughts and perceptions, you start to doubt yourself again...is it my anxiety that is making me feel like this or is this reality (whereas before you would probably just assume it's reality). In terms of a relationship causing you anxiety and depression...you describe it as a "bad relationship'...of course that can cause anxiety/depression or worsen it if you already have the problem. Is this a relationship you can end? Maybe you should try to think of everything in your life that causes you stress or unhappiness and see what you can change or improve upon. Even if it is only a few things that can be changed, empowering yourself to make those changes may improve your day to day happiness...
Good luck on figuring out what you need to and I hope this helped in some way!

Yes you did help. I think you are right in stating that you need to make changes to things that are causing you anxiety and adjust your feelings towards things that cannot be changed. For some reason when it comes to this thinking positively my mind tends to forget what is good for me and it's like the postives just cant sink in...you made a lot of good points in your reply. And yes I do have the program, I guess I keep thinking that someone else out there is key to helping me get better, and I am the key to making myself get better, it just takes a lil while I guess to learn all of this. Thanks for your advice