Stress Center Peer Support

I feel like session 4 made me feel sad and down and I don't really understand what it is
supposed to help because session 3 made me feel amazing and impowered to do anything now I feel like all that is gone or not possible anymore because i have to make my expectations lower! I need help understanding???

Hello there!
It is okay to have really great expectations about what the program can do for you. That is empowering.
But it is good to not have some expectations wherein we might get let down - and then feel bad.
For instance, I have a daughter living in AZ.
I am alone. I look forward to hearing from her.
Used to I would expect an email at least every other day. When it did not arrive for a week, I'd get so anxious that I'd get sick. I'd think that maybe I'd done something to upset her.
Well, I had to learn to lower my expectations.
I had to realize that she'd write when she could. When she had time.
And in other things we can expect too much of people. And get very disappointed. And even in ourselves.
So the purpose in advising to lower expectations is to keep us from getting upset.
Expect little and get great surprises from friends and family and from life.
It is really a very simple concept.
But it is not meant to take the enthusiasm out of life.
You can feel great about things. You can hope for good results.
But most of us expected things that might not come thru' for us and set ourselves up for disappointment and heart ache.
We often will expect our friends to understand us. And often they do not.
Sometimes our expectations are unreasonable.
So we learn to lower them.
And life becomes more acceptable.

But never does this mean to curb our enthusiasum. Our spontanueity.
I hope that you continue to feel empowered with the program.

Keep your chin up!!
MJ

Thank you for the advice I am trying to lower my expectations and I am hoping it will work! I dond't really know what my expectations are of myself but I am hoping to find out so I can work this session!
Thanks again!