Stress Center Peer Support

I need to stop obsessing. I'm always thinking about the falling outs I had with family members who will never talk to me again and friends who don't talk to me. It's been a brutal 4 years of anger and things said that should not have been said. My nieces and nephews don't talk to me, neither does my brother or his husband. My former best friend and I had a falling out. My anger flared up at my last place of work. And I am obsessing with regret and bad feelings about these events. I have to learn to let it go or I will go crazy! Thank God I made peace with my Mother before she died last year. It was a time I will always cherish. I was not perfect but... We had such kind words together before she died. I was with her for a month almost every day. And my throat gets tight from the anxiety. Anyway, I have to stop this obsessing.

Oh, can I relate to your story about the family! I have had so many relatives turn their backs on me, and I do let it get to me. For some reason, they just can't forgive me for things in the past, and in turn, I have a hard time forgiving myself.

I am trying to teach myself now that I cannot change the past, nor can I change how they feel about me. I do pray that in time, they will change their feelings and thoughts about me.

The anxiety I experience is full blown panic attacks, but I always have anxiety regardless. I can understand about the throat feeling tight. I usually think I'm going to have a seizure when I can't breathe! The things our minds can trick us into thinking!

Well, hope the program works for you, and feel free to write back! Take care!