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I'm so down. I just took my 8 year old to fly a kite and baseball practice. I could not fly the kite. I could never fly a kite. Flying a kite is hard work. It was a failure.

I stink at sports. I don't have much coordinating. I can't pitch, I can't throw.
I am just not good at this stuff. I feel I should be able to do things like this with my son. But I'm just not good at it, I have never been!

I guess it's too late for a 48 neurotic like me to learn go do these things, right?

I suppose I do have things I can teach him.

I'm just very down right now.
My son loves me and I love him.

Songwriter,
I think the most important thing you said was..."My son loves me and I love him". I have an 8yr. old little girl. I really don't believe they "think" like we do. There sooo young..you know.

my daughter gave me a Mother's Day card from school. She had to feel in the blank's....It said " My Mom looks pretty when"...she said "When She is Happy". I almost cried. Something so simple as that makes her happy.

Sometimes the most simplest things are the best. maybe you could ask him/her what other things they like.
Like playing cards or a board game is fun for us.

I promise you ANYTHING you do with your child is better than nothing at all. I truely believe they just want to spend time with us.

And you are not to old! It's never to late!

Someone on here wrote..."you are as free in your mind as you want to be...as happy as you want to be and as joyful as you want to be.
Think about it! and repeat".

It was so inspiring to me that I wrote it on an index card. For when I start feeling down. By the way Thanks! to whoever wrote that:)

I hope that helped....just keep it simple and never give up!

Hi Songwriter:
I'm not too well cororinated myself.
Never was. For instance, I could never really dance.
I have a son. When he was young he wanted his Dad's approval. He loved his Dad. His Dad wanted him to excel at little league baseball and pee wee football. My son tried so hard to please his Dad that he was fearful and would always fumble. He didn't play well. He learned to prefer just riding his bicycle. He just could never please his Dad.

Songwriter, it really doesn't mattaer whether you are good at sports. Your son just wants to know that you love him. And I bet he knows that. From your posts, I can certainly tell that you love your son. I've known for a very long time how much you love that little boy.
Just let that little boy know that and let him know that you are proud of him. No matter what he likes to do.
Even if you just take a walk and look for dif. kinds of plants.
I think you are probably doing a good job with your son.
You get down on yourself pretty often. But you know, I think you do a whole lot that is right.

Don't compare yourself to anyone else. Just be you. That is good enough.
You are doing fine.
MaryJane

Hey you are a wonderful person! Stay positive. Much love and peace to you! Sincerly, Jason

Don't be so down on yourself! Flying a kite is hard, my god, the wind has to be just right. It doesn't matter wether or not you were able to fly the kite, all that mattered to your son was that you were spending time with him. You said you feel you "should be able to do these things with your son" but to be honest, in years to come, your son isn't going to be able to recall if dad flew the kite or not, but he will most certainly remember that you took him outside to have some fun together. That is truly what matters. Kids don't care how good you are at things, they care that you tried.